Funeral for my Mother
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My mother Vickie Getz passed away unexpectedly on May 17, 2019. She lost her life tragically due to her addiction. Her choices have devastated our family for years.
However I am choosing to remember my Mom for who she was and not what the addiction has made her become in the last 7 years. My mother used to be my best friend, my go to person, my rock. She was full of life, love and smiles.
All that changed in a few short years. She had suffered with dilbilating pain since her mid 40’s. She couldn’t take the pain anymore and turned to something stronger. My mother was seen by so many specialist however she always ended with the same result, she would have to live with the pain, there wasn’t anything else they could do for her. My mother was clean for a while and decided that morning to use, and now she is no longer with us.
The heartache I feel is unbearable and the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. I mourned my mother when she was alive. I prayed for her, I needed her, her Grandchildren needed her. I was so selfish. I wasn’t a perfect daughter I held my Mom accountable for her every action and showed her some tough love. I was always hopeful my Mother would return to me.
Now I’m mourning the physical loss of my Mother. What I wouldn’t give to hug her again and tell her how much I loved her and how I understand she was suffering, How I am not angry at her.
Now I’m feeling the emotions of what could I have done something different. Was my tough love too much? Did she not feel loved? I will never get these answers. However I do know she is no longer suffering, her mind can be free of the addiction she can finally be the person that she always wanted to be!
I am asking for donations to help contribute towards my moms viewing, service and cremation. She didn’t have life insurance, she was on disability and did not have anything of value. All the expenses are being paid for by myself and my husband.
I thank you all for the prayers, the condolences and the messages that say we are checking in on you that I have received. I am so incredibly thankful for each and everyone of you!
I pray that this campaign will help save life. If you know someone fighting addiction please get them help, please do not be an enabler please please step up and say something. Don’t let your love one die alone by the filthy drug!!
*if this campaign raises more than what is needed it will be donated to help other families Who are experiencing the same struggles. *
However I am choosing to remember my Mom for who she was and not what the addiction has made her become in the last 7 years. My mother used to be my best friend, my go to person, my rock. She was full of life, love and smiles.
All that changed in a few short years. She had suffered with dilbilating pain since her mid 40’s. She couldn’t take the pain anymore and turned to something stronger. My mother was seen by so many specialist however she always ended with the same result, she would have to live with the pain, there wasn’t anything else they could do for her. My mother was clean for a while and decided that morning to use, and now she is no longer with us.
The heartache I feel is unbearable and the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. I mourned my mother when she was alive. I prayed for her, I needed her, her Grandchildren needed her. I was so selfish. I wasn’t a perfect daughter I held my Mom accountable for her every action and showed her some tough love. I was always hopeful my Mother would return to me.
Now I’m mourning the physical loss of my Mother. What I wouldn’t give to hug her again and tell her how much I loved her and how I understand she was suffering, How I am not angry at her.
Now I’m feeling the emotions of what could I have done something different. Was my tough love too much? Did she not feel loved? I will never get these answers. However I do know she is no longer suffering, her mind can be free of the addiction she can finally be the person that she always wanted to be!
I am asking for donations to help contribute towards my moms viewing, service and cremation. She didn’t have life insurance, she was on disability and did not have anything of value. All the expenses are being paid for by myself and my husband.
I thank you all for the prayers, the condolences and the messages that say we are checking in on you that I have received. I am so incredibly thankful for each and everyone of you!
I pray that this campaign will help save life. If you know someone fighting addiction please get them help, please do not be an enabler please please step up and say something. Don’t let your love one die alone by the filthy drug!!
*if this campaign raises more than what is needed it will be donated to help other families Who are experiencing the same struggles. *
Organizer
Sheena Farver
Organizer
Palmyra, PA
