For those who do not know us well, my husband and I went from being next door neighbors, to bestfriends to husband and wife. We have known each other for 7 years and been married for 4 and a half years. We have been blessed with a wonderful home, healthy active lives, great work ethics and most importantly wonderful families.
We got married at a young age with a plan of making the most out of life, traveling and spending as much time as we can with those we love. Both of us thought we could wait to start trying to have a family thinking it wouldn’t take us long to conceive. Sadly this is not the case. This has been one of the toughest trying things we have ever had to face .
This past February I was persuaded to go see my family doctor after months of trying with no positive tests or sign of pregnancy. My doctor made the recommendation of seeing a fertility specialist to ensure we covered all our bases. After going through a few tests and of course fees for those tests we waited grueling weeks for our results to come in. Finally two weeks later we were able to sit down with our doctor and find out our results.
The results we faced was nothing short of every couples nightmare of wanting a family so bad andnot being able to conceive one naturally. The shock, the disappointment, the anger, hurt, and the why's, left us both shattered and in tears. You feel lifeless,and broken. As we are sitting there you can hear the doctor talking about our options but at that point it just doesn’t want to register, all we are thinking is, this can't be happening, this can't be true, not us, why us!. You walk out feeling empty ,alone and like failure's. From that appointment onward it's been decision after decision on where we go from here with what options we face/have.
With having time to absorb options, let the shock of the reality of the matter settle in, we know the option of NOT having a family is not an option! We are kind, loving people that have so much to offer any child/children we will be so fortunate enough to parent.
At this time after more test and more procedures that have already come with a healthy cost, both monetary and mentally for us, we have decided our option is IVF, the next best thing to conceiving naturally. With IVF or any of the fertility procedures we have already been through it comes with a significant cost, for us there is no price we can put on having a child. We have a small amount saved but of course not enough to continue at this time as it will cost another $9000.00.
For anyone who knows or has been thru this struggle, you will understand how real the struggle is! It's hard, I wish we had all the money in the world and did not have to reach out for help, its' hard just facing the reality, its hard sharing this story with everyone, a personal journey, personal complications, a journey that we thought we would never cross but it's time to not be private share away and hopefully bring a healthy happy bundle of joy into this world. I have always been taught in times of trouble or need never be ashamed to ask for help, now is one of those times we are asking for help.
We don’t ask for sympathy; but for support, for hope , for faith, an ear to listen, as we try to grow our little family. We thank all of you in advance for anyway you are able to help or donate as every little bit will help.
From the bottom of our hearts, thank-you for taking the time to read this journey we are on!