Cancer struggle
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Hi, my name is Vitalie Bet.
My story begins in Chisinau, capital Moldova – poor, but very nice country; on 8th of April, 1980.
I was raised there and lived with my lovely family- father Nikolae, mom Tamara and elder sister Svetlana. We lived modestly, but fairly and we were really happy. My both parents were ordinary construction workers, but very nice, wise and loving people. From the young days I have been taught to be polity, health caring, people helping and wisdom searching man. Parents, despite the difficult life, have given me possibility to try different sports, as athletics, football, martial arts, etc. Sports and health care had become a habit, which was practice till this day.
Then I have ended secondary school (1997), I understood that my time for helping parents came, while sister was continuing her learning. I have started to work as a waiter in different high level restaurants and night bars in Chisinau.
By the year 2002 I understood, that to be a waiter is not a solution anymore, especially if thinking not only about helping parents, but building my own life too. Seeking for something more was too complicated in Chisinau- education was needed, but studying and not earning any income wasn’t possible.
At that moment the idea of green card had come to my mind. I started to interest about Ireland and Canada. During few month of intensive search I have got job proposal in Kingscourt, co. Cavan, Ireland. It was a catering position in local take away and I grabbed this chance. By the way- I work there till now…
As for any immigrant in foreign country, it wasn’t easy at the start, but I had clear goals and my family members, whom believed in me. Through the years I have found myself as chef, earned the respect and became one of the main persons in that take away, to whom anything can be entrusted.
The same position I have gain in social life of the town. Irish people started to become my acquaintance and even friends. I started to now to whom it is needed to come for getting answers and to solve one or other problem. For immigrants I became a man to whom everybody can come, talk, solve problems or get advice on different issues- job, living-space, taxes or even mental questions. In 2006 I became a member of Kingscourt Community Development Association and get personally acquainted with Clifford Kelly. I felt as I’m growing and getting to the right place of my life. :)
Of course I haven’t forgotten about my family. Through all the years we had a strong connection even than there was no possibility to come home once a year. In these occasions my sister had ended the studies for bio laboratory assistant and started to work, parents started to live a little easier, my salary grew in little steps. Slightly I got opportunity to come back home for such holidays as Christmas and Easter, which was sacred in our family and I understood it even better then.
By the year of 2005 I have met Angelica- wonderful woman and my second half. Romance was floating in the ear and I can’t think about anything I would like to have more…
Unfortunately in 2008 I got a punch from the life- my father has died from the stroke. It was really hard for me to live through this accident and I even don’t know how it could influence my future, if there wasn’t my lovely and caring life companion Angelica. I am really grateful to her and her understanding. At this moment it was clear, that we will become a family. And we did, and did it in the best way- up till know our acquaintance look at us as to ideal couple!
We hadn’t opportunity (financial resources) to play wedding at the start, but that wasn’t really needed- we loved each other and whole world was under our foot. In the same year 2008 our daughter Alisa was born and happiness spread. I have got new goals and priorities- raising the kid. We started planning new home, holidays across the Ireland and other activities- sports, education, etc. From this perspective Ireland gave also good opportunities- cheap, but wonderful traveling across the country, by the ocean and mountains. Fresh air, fascinating nature and mystical history- it’s more than needed to rest and grow with the family. At home new rights were applied. In 2010 second child was born- son Arthur.
In 2011 with all the family we went to Chisinau and played the wedding. At last I could officially call upon my lovely and loving wife. And again- life started to seem perfect… :)
It continued up to October, 2014. I had standard physical examination of my stomach- gastritis was everything I was worrying about. For unknown reasons doctor asked me if I don’t mind that they will take biopsy additionally. As the result stomach cancer was revealed… From the first view it did not seem to be very critical issue. Chemotherapy was planned and done. On the March, 2015 I have become volunteer for researches of stomach cancer. For April my surgery was planned in St. James’s Hospital, Dublin- cancer with 75% stomach removal and it’s rebuilding . Yes, it should be something uncommon and I would have to learn to eat from the scratch, but without the cancer. With this thoughts and strong will I had met my 35th birthday on Wednesday, 8th of April.
On Friday, 10th of April, I taken surgery, but the result was completely wise versa. Not only cancer wasn’t removed, but it was revealed that it is already in the early fourth stage with metastases to the intestine and nothing can be done in Ireland at all.
Everything what is left now is the hope that something can be done in other countries as Germany, Israel or USA, but huge amount of money (~100 000 Euro), which my family don’t have and haven’t in any moment through all life, needed fast. I have anything to do more than ask humanity a favor and let me have a chance not leaving this world and continuing my story. Any help- information, advice, this information sharing and especially financial (any sums); would be appreciated.
From my side I guarantee that all funds gathered will go only for fighting with stomach cancer- mine and, if any funds left, all other (left funds will be transferred to cancer societies- Irish Cancer Society or any other you prefer). All, whom will take a part in this activity, will get a e-letter of thanks-certificate- symbolic memory of your humanistic and descent step. Also I will continue this project, I have started for myself, to help all the others, whom got in similar situation.
Also I and my all family will pray God for wealth of all who have donated or in any other way will help me. We will be thankful for You all our life.
Thanks in forward,
Vitalie Bet
My story begins in Chisinau, capital Moldova – poor, but very nice country; on 8th of April, 1980.
I was raised there and lived with my lovely family- father Nikolae, mom Tamara and elder sister Svetlana. We lived modestly, but fairly and we were really happy. My both parents were ordinary construction workers, but very nice, wise and loving people. From the young days I have been taught to be polity, health caring, people helping and wisdom searching man. Parents, despite the difficult life, have given me possibility to try different sports, as athletics, football, martial arts, etc. Sports and health care had become a habit, which was practice till this day.
Then I have ended secondary school (1997), I understood that my time for helping parents came, while sister was continuing her learning. I have started to work as a waiter in different high level restaurants and night bars in Chisinau.
By the year 2002 I understood, that to be a waiter is not a solution anymore, especially if thinking not only about helping parents, but building my own life too. Seeking for something more was too complicated in Chisinau- education was needed, but studying and not earning any income wasn’t possible.
At that moment the idea of green card had come to my mind. I started to interest about Ireland and Canada. During few month of intensive search I have got job proposal in Kingscourt, co. Cavan, Ireland. It was a catering position in local take away and I grabbed this chance. By the way- I work there till now…
As for any immigrant in foreign country, it wasn’t easy at the start, but I had clear goals and my family members, whom believed in me. Through the years I have found myself as chef, earned the respect and became one of the main persons in that take away, to whom anything can be entrusted.
The same position I have gain in social life of the town. Irish people started to become my acquaintance and even friends. I started to now to whom it is needed to come for getting answers and to solve one or other problem. For immigrants I became a man to whom everybody can come, talk, solve problems or get advice on different issues- job, living-space, taxes or even mental questions. In 2006 I became a member of Kingscourt Community Development Association and get personally acquainted with Clifford Kelly. I felt as I’m growing and getting to the right place of my life. :)
Of course I haven’t forgotten about my family. Through all the years we had a strong connection even than there was no possibility to come home once a year. In these occasions my sister had ended the studies for bio laboratory assistant and started to work, parents started to live a little easier, my salary grew in little steps. Slightly I got opportunity to come back home for such holidays as Christmas and Easter, which was sacred in our family and I understood it even better then.
By the year of 2005 I have met Angelica- wonderful woman and my second half. Romance was floating in the ear and I can’t think about anything I would like to have more…
Unfortunately in 2008 I got a punch from the life- my father has died from the stroke. It was really hard for me to live through this accident and I even don’t know how it could influence my future, if there wasn’t my lovely and caring life companion Angelica. I am really grateful to her and her understanding. At this moment it was clear, that we will become a family. And we did, and did it in the best way- up till know our acquaintance look at us as to ideal couple!
We hadn’t opportunity (financial resources) to play wedding at the start, but that wasn’t really needed- we loved each other and whole world was under our foot. In the same year 2008 our daughter Alisa was born and happiness spread. I have got new goals and priorities- raising the kid. We started planning new home, holidays across the Ireland and other activities- sports, education, etc. From this perspective Ireland gave also good opportunities- cheap, but wonderful traveling across the country, by the ocean and mountains. Fresh air, fascinating nature and mystical history- it’s more than needed to rest and grow with the family. At home new rights were applied. In 2010 second child was born- son Arthur.
In 2011 with all the family we went to Chisinau and played the wedding. At last I could officially call upon my lovely and loving wife. And again- life started to seem perfect… :)
It continued up to October, 2014. I had standard physical examination of my stomach- gastritis was everything I was worrying about. For unknown reasons doctor asked me if I don’t mind that they will take biopsy additionally. As the result stomach cancer was revealed… From the first view it did not seem to be very critical issue. Chemotherapy was planned and done. On the March, 2015 I have become volunteer for researches of stomach cancer. For April my surgery was planned in St. James’s Hospital, Dublin- cancer with 75% stomach removal and it’s rebuilding . Yes, it should be something uncommon and I would have to learn to eat from the scratch, but without the cancer. With this thoughts and strong will I had met my 35th birthday on Wednesday, 8th of April.
On Friday, 10th of April, I taken surgery, but the result was completely wise versa. Not only cancer wasn’t removed, but it was revealed that it is already in the early fourth stage with metastases to the intestine and nothing can be done in Ireland at all.
Everything what is left now is the hope that something can be done in other countries as Germany, Israel or USA, but huge amount of money (~100 000 Euro), which my family don’t have and haven’t in any moment through all life, needed fast. I have anything to do more than ask humanity a favor and let me have a chance not leaving this world and continuing my story. Any help- information, advice, this information sharing and especially financial (any sums); would be appreciated.
From my side I guarantee that all funds gathered will go only for fighting with stomach cancer- mine and, if any funds left, all other (left funds will be transferred to cancer societies- Irish Cancer Society or any other you prefer). All, whom will take a part in this activity, will get a e-letter of thanks-certificate- symbolic memory of your humanistic and descent step. Also I will continue this project, I have started for myself, to help all the others, whom got in similar situation.
Also I and my all family will pray God for wealth of all who have donated or in any other way will help me. We will be thankful for You all our life.
Thanks in forward,
Vitalie Bet
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Michael Johnston
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