Our beautiful girl Jules battled cancer for 14 years… and what a fight she always put up! The hardest day for all of us and the worst news received, was last Friday 16/03/2018 when we found out that Jules had passed. The terrible news has left us all heartbroken but we know that she is now at peace and no longer suffering from the pain that she has battled for so long.
About a year or so ago, I put together a fund raiser to help raise funds for Jules and her family for whatever they needed to help out and I cannot thank everyone enough for their generous donations and I can tell you that the funds raised were a massive help for Jules and the whole family in the times when they needed it most.
Now that Jules has sadly passed, I would like to try and raise some more funds for Fola and her children, Zephaniah and Roman. To help with the funeral costs so that they can give her the best send-off possible.
I asked Jules a while ago for some info on her story, below is what she wrote to me in her own words. Thought I would add this in for anyone that didn’t know her well.
************"It all started in July 2004 I was 19 & I felt a lump in my right breast, I was working & i finally built up the courage to show my work mate (Kelly Stephens), she referred me to her lady doctor the same day in Macquarie Fields, I can’t remember her name & as soon as she felt it she than referred me to Liverpool hospital for more test. I was diagnosed with breast cancer, wasn’t really sure what cancer was & what it would do to my life didn’t really bother me then i remember what my oncologist said to me
"Julianna you do realise that you will not be able to have children due to the Chemo you will be having?" i was young & nieve & said "yeah i don’t care im too young to be thinking about kids"… until they sent me after 2weeks to Liverpool private hospital were i had my operation done, That’s when it all kicked in. I was scared but i had faith that my operation would go smoothly & it did. At this time i hadn’t met Fola (the love of my life hehe having kids was the last thing on my mind) but after my op It was the worst pain i had ever felt. I had to go to physio, it was painful, i dreaded every morning waking up & going to Liverpool hospital for it, Id go in crying & come out crying. I than had 3months to recover. I had also started radiotherapy (while recovering from surgery) for 16 weeks (on a daily basis) & Chemotherapy straight after. It will be 12 years In July 2016 of having Chemotherapy treatment as unfortunately my cancer is incurable… I have had so many days of wanting to give up because i couldn’t bare the pain physically & especially mentally but i refused to let the cancer pull me down so i went about doing my usual routine work,work,work. We had moved back to N.Z in 2006 & i met my Handsome husband Fola. We got married in 2008 & then our lives were shattered when i told him we were unable to have kids. But we still tried & had 2 miscarriages. After our 3rd year of marriage we had our first miracle baby Zephaniah Pili Sia, we were so happy but my Doctors weren’t.. at 20weeks they wanted me to terminate my pregnancy as my baby will not survive my chemo treatment, but i didn’t want to give him up, So i refused & my oncologist said ok but be aware he may be born with some major defects. I wasnt worried, both Fola & i were over the moon. Niah was than born at 28weeks weighing only 2084grams & basically lived his first 11weeks of birth in Auckland city hospital, He was & still is perfect. But my cancer had than travelled to my bones (my sternum & spine were the worst) as my cancer feeds off my hormones & made the cancer spread fast. Our 6th year of marriage we had another miracle baby Roman Fola JNR Si'a & once again my cancer than spread to my brain, but none the less our little family was complete. My biggest support system were & still are my Family My mum (Sala),sisters(Tia & maureen), my husband (Fola Tj Si'a-even though i did/do his head in lol & vice versa), my adorable (but naughty hehe) Kids Niah & Roman & all my friends in New Zealand & here. I was always the type to not really talk about my cancer due to nosey people, but i now like to share my story to patients who are going through it now. It has been a very long & hard journey but its my husband & kids that keep me going & of course GOD. I have survived 3 minor heart attacks, 2 caesareans, 3 epileptic seizures & 4 major surgeries. To this day my cancer is stable, My chemotherapy treatment is done once every 3 weeks & It is taking a toll on me, But id like to Thank GOD for being there for me throughout my whole Journey without him i wouldn’t of made it this far & i tend to live a long long time.
The moral of my story is
#Stay positive, live life to the absolute fullest, SMILE & learn to love yourself no matter what life throws at you." ***************
(After she wrote this for me, she battled through and lived for another 2 strong years)
Emotionally and financially, this is just too much for this gorgeous loving family to go through.. Both Fola and Julz have 2 little angel sons now and the cost to run a family and have all these funeral bills over their heads is heartbreaking.. Not once did they ever asked for help! and not once did i ever hear them complain how tough they had it.. They just thanked god for each new day they had… for this.. I would love for us to help..
So please, if you can, please donate some money (Any amount is much appreciated!!)
Let’s help Jules , help her family.
She is no longer here by our side but she is always looking over each and every one of us..
My absolute inspiration in life, the strongest woman I have ever met, our dear friend, wife, mum, sister, daughter..
We WILL stay strong for YOU Jules.. Just like I know you would want us to…
Love you my girl, may you always rest in peace and in love. Until we meet again.. xxx
- Denise Ioane
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