If I Could Walk Away From Me - Support Fund

(note: some people are wondering why GoFundMe lists my location as NZ. I don't know why, either! My guess is that GoFundMe only recognises postcodes entered in the American 5-digit format and when you enter a 4-digit postcode, the site's coding scrambles it. I've tried troubleshooting with GoFundMe, but so far I haven't found a way to fix this.)

Hi, everyone! Thanks for visiting my GoFundMe. This is a terrifying and humiliating experience for me and I’d prefer to protect my privacy, but I don’t have any other options left, so try to be considerate if you can. 

This is a last-ditch effort to raise money desperately needed for various gender-confirming surgeries (GCS); specifically surgeries that might allow me to “pass” as normal in public like facial feminisation surgeries (v-line surgery, philtrum reduction surgery, chondrolaryngoplasty/tracheal shave) and voice feminisation surgery (VFSRAC). These are all elective, out-of-pocket, and largely can't be performed in Australia. I’ve included a breakdown of the approximate costs below. SRS and other procedures are also necessary, but that’s a problem for another day, so it's not included in the breakdown.

I’ve been trying to save up for these surgeries by myself for over ten years and it’s pretty clear that this route isn’t leading anywhere. What little I’ve been able to save in the past needed to go to just getting the ball rolling in transitioning (specialists, HRT,  electrolysis, IPL, scarring treatment, etc.) and it's been an endless, hopeless Sisyphean task where nothing ever moves forward or changes. I can't do this by myself anymore, so I'm asking you to help.

The initial goal amount is set to $8,000. With this much support, my dream of being able to live in safety might actually come true. One day I might even have a normal life. Since the GoFundMe style guide suggests emphasising the positive instead of the negative, I won't into details about what life is like presently and how even basic life tasks like walking down the street or interacting with another human being for a few minutes are tainted with disgust, discrimination and the constant looming threat of harassment and violence. Oops!

Donations or shares are appreciated, as is any other form of support or help anyone wants to offer.

PS. If you're wondering why Go Fund Me lists my location as NZ, I don't know, either! I think it might have something to do with the site requiring an American ZIP code.

Breakdown: 

Stage 01: Chondrolaryngoplasty (aka tracheal shave) 
Australia, Dr. Stephen Kleid
(approx AUD$3,500 - $6,000 -- hospital & anaesthesiologist fees included)

Stage 02: FFS - V-Line Surgery (Jaw and Chin) and Philtrum Reduction: 
Korea , ID Hospital
(cost approx. AUD$17,300 -- hospital & anaesthesiologist fees included)

V-Line alternative options: 

Australia, Dr. Chris Ahn 
(cost approx. AUD$6,500 - 8,000 -- hospital & anaesthesiologist fees NOT included) (unknown skill/experience)

Philtrum reduction alternative options: 

Australia, Dr Richard Sackelariou
(cost approx. AUD$10,000 -- hospital & anaesthesiologist fees included) (unknown skill/experience)

Australia, Silkwood Medical 
(cost unknown)(unknown skill/experience)

Stage 03: Vocal Folds Shortening and Retrodisplacement of Anterior Commissure (VFSRAC)
Korea, Yeson Voice Center
(approx. AUD$10,250 -- hospital & anaesthesiologist fees included)

  • Anonymous 
    • $150 
    • 3 mos
  • Steph Olsson 
    • $40 
    • 8 mos
  • Jesse Nieborski 
    • $200 
    • 8 mos
  • Maz Elliott 
    • $100 
    • 8 mos
  • all your friends! Xx  
    • $800 
    • 8 mos
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Organizer

Sheba Sullivan 
Organizer
Upper Papamoa, NZ
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