Sky’s Transitionary & After Care Fund

Hey y’all,




I’m eagerly taking the next steps within my personal journey of transitioning with Gender affirming procedure. I’ve finally come to a place in my life where I feel comfortable enough to openly ask for assistance in accumulating resources from the community to assist in these next steps. I’m realizing I can do everything alone, but I can go much further if I ask for help. If I let myself be vulnerable and let people help me.


I have been trying for five years to have this procedure done. Lack of and or complications with insurance is usually the reason why I can never get the procedure done. The last time I tried for this procedure, the hospital canceled it three weeks before the date after approving it through my insurance. I had wasted six months just trying to get in for  a consultation. Because of who I am — I can’t give up. I refuse to.


I push and fight with everything in me for what I believe in. I’m stubborn like that. 1,825 days is a long time to fight for something I shouldn’t have to fight for, but it’s important that I try, every day. I’d rather be known as a person who said “ I tried and it didn’t work out” Vs. “What if..” and never try at all and just wonder.


After mourning my loss and wasted time yet again, I took it upon myself to think outside the box. I found a, BLACK, LGBTQ+ surgeon all the way in San Francisco. The odds were literally one in a million. To find someone who looks just like me and represents my community is a feeling of safety in its own words. It let’s me know anything can be done if we put our minds to it.


To find a medical doctor who understands me. To find someone who understands the discrimination we face every day. To find someone who understands the struggle we face every day. To find someone who understands the threats we face every day... makes me feel safe. I find safety in knowing I’m in the hands of someone who truly cares about my life because they’ve been there before.


With your assistance in achieving my transitionary goals, I will be able to: gain a greater level of safety, gain a handle on the dysphoria that I grapple with daily, be able to afford my pre op/ post medications, pay for my hotel and most importantly be able to still pay my bills.


I work in healthcare and the environment I work in is so stressful. I’m trying my hardest to get out after I’m all healed from surgery.  Being a frontline worker and dealing with a pandemic + toxic management that overworks you to the ground is beyond stressful. It’s not what I’d want anyone to go through and encourage you to protect your mental health at all costs.

When I looked into my jobs short term disability policy, they were only willing to pay me $250 a paycheck (biweekly). I can’t live off of that. Anybody who knows me, knows how hard I work. How many jobs and side hustles I work just to keep my head above water.


I never thought I’d ever fly out for surgery in the middle of a pandemic and revolution, but I have to do this by any  means necessary. I will be going alone since I don’t have a supportive family and my mother cannot take off of work to assist me. I refuse to let anybody or anything stop me. BLACK TRANS LIVES MATTER. BLACK LIVES MATTER. MY LIFE MATTERS.


I am so extremely grateful to everyone that can possibly donate to help me complete these goals, and also those who are just able to share as well. I’d like to further mention all of the beautiful Black & Brown trans folk in my life who have given me so much strength and support during this time.


Also, for the Cis and or white folks reading this, go check on your Black & Brown Trans friends, make sure they’re eating, make sure they have someone to talk to, make sure they feel listened to and supported. I love y’all ✊