As Most of you know, Cadell and Andy have been together 25 years next year and because of certain circumstances Cadell has now said she would like to get married after both of them haven't really thought about it before.
I will try and tell you as much as I can about the past 6 years so just bear with and I hope it makes sense!!!
About 6 years ago when Cadell was 36 she was diagnosed with breast cancer, it was a complete shock to everyone and it tore all of our world apart. You hear of these stories but never actually think it's going to happen to you or a loved one.
All of you that know cadell were aware that after her initial diagnosis she went through an operation and many chemo sessions which led to her losing her hair and it made her feel terrible. She then went on to have numerous radiotherapy blasts and ended up on medication for the next 6 years which lead us to now.....
Cadell has recently turned 42 and at the end of the summer this year she was once again told that the vile Big C was back, but this time it was Metastatic. (secondary breast cancer gone elsewhere.)
This time it has gone to her bones. On a positive note it's only in a couple of ribs and her collar bone. I cannot contemplate at her age being told that this time it's not going to go away.
Once again our world was turned upside down. Selfishly all I could think about was how on Earth and I going to cope without not only my sister but also my best friend.
Medication has come on wonders over the years and all we can do is put her life in the hands of the wonderful doctors she has and think about living for the HERE AND NOW!!!
No one can predict what will happen to any of us in the future, but knowing the blooming strong woman that is my sister she will no doubt do all she can to kick the b@$t@r£$ ass into touch!!
I often think that I have no idea how she gets out of bed every morning when she is aching terribly and in lots of discomfort but then of course she does for the simple reason of her four beautiful children.
(Alisha 22, Kacey 17, Regan 11 and Laila 8)
The road ahead may be tricky and uncertain but all I want to do along with many others is make as many wishes come true so that family and friends will have memories to treasure for a very long time!!
Obviously, when you choose to get married you save for many years but when circumstances change that maybe isn't possible.
So Cadell has started mentioning a 'bucket list!' and obviously getting married is the biggest most costly one on there. She longs to be called Andy's wife and have her children's surname and see her kid's faces when they say 'I do' but she can never see it happening.
THAT'S WHERE YOU WONDERFUL PEOPLE COME INTO IT....
Next year they have been together 25 years!!!! (Jesus she needs a medal!! jokes!!)
We all see these pages and sometimes think 'ooh I will do that' and we don't... I know Christmas is coming up and alot of people are skint but when I say every penny counts , I absolutely mean it!!!
We are hoping to surprise them just before Christmas with the news that we have enough money to go ahead and plan their Family Wedding ... What a gift that would be!! ....Don't worry, we will share the moment!! (The wedding then will go ahead for next year 2020!!!)
It is so important to cherish every day you have with loved ones because you can't predict your future so live every day by making it worthwhile!
All my love ,
(A very desperate gal wanting to make her sisters dream come true!!)
*I want to personally thank my lovely cousin Hannah who has been fundraising previously and is helping tremendously to make this happen.
I will be forever in your debt, what you have done is selfless and wonderful.
I love you lots!!!