My Dad's Funeral Costs

I cannot believe that I have to write this before my Dad passes away, but unfortunately this is an emergency and needs to be taken care of as soon as possible. 

On August 12th, 2017, I graduated from the police academy. While packing up my things from the house I was staying at, I noticed that my Dad, Don Poore, was sitting in the car. My Mom told me that he's been having bad back pain and just needed to rest. 

16 days later, we found out that his back pain was being caused by stage 4 lung cancer. The tumor in his lung was pressing up against his back. The cancer spread from his lungs to his lymph nodes and to his brain. He did a lot of radiation treatment for his brain which helped, and did one round of chemo. The chemo helped as well, reducing the tumor by a claimed 1/4th, and my Dad never got nauseous or sick from his treatment, something I am thankful for.

However just before Thanksgiving, my Dad had to go to the hospital because he was having a flair up from his COPD and had a hard time catching his breath. He had to be put on oxygen and got weaker by the day. His doctor told us that if he was not able to walk under his own power to get chemo by December 26th that there would be nothing we could do. He continually got weaker to the point where we had to have in home hospice. 

His pain and suffering got worse and worse so we decided to take him to the VNA hospice center on Monday, January 1st in order for him to get the pain relief he deserves.  At that point he could talk and understand things.

Today, my Dad is practically in a coma. He cannot talk and does not respond to anything. I really hate having to write this but I do not think he will make it in the coming night or days. 

This GoFundMe was created in order to cover the costs of the funeral (for his cremation), for the outstanding medical bills we still have (because his insurance would not pay for all of it, just some and my Mom had to miss a lot of days of work to stay home to care for him), and whatever remaining bills we have. Depending on how much we receive, I might use the money to fix my Dad's truck as well. 

This took all of the remaining strength I have to write this because my Dad, my Mom, and I are not the type of people to ask for handouts. I was going to create one sooner, but I know it would hurt my Dad's pride too much.  

I truly, truly apologize to all of my friends and family who had to find out this about my Dad through this GoFundMe. I really thought that my Dad could beat it and it would be something we would all laugh about later, like when he had his heart attack in 2014.

I ask that all of my friends just refrain from talking to me about it. I am not trying to throw a pity party and I just deal with things on my own. I thank everyone for the love and support I have already received, and for the truly outstanding car at VNA Hospice, La Porte Hospital, and all the other hospitals that my Dad has gone to.

If you can't donate, at least take the time to read my story and share. 

If you smoke, please do whatever you can to stop. The pain caused by smoking is absolutely incredible and this will be something I and my family will have to carry with us for the rest of my life. It’s not worth it to put people you love through this.  





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Clayton Poore 
Organizer
Valparaiso, IN
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