A child’s rights to his father

Hi, my name is Jay and I am fundraising to relieve the financial burden endured after 3 1/2 years attempting to assert my child’s rights to BOTH PARENTS in the family law court system here in Alberta.

Reaching out for financial support was suggested to me very early on, but as I suspected, and turned out to be true. Money spent in court has been an egregious waste of finances, although it has helped me sustain attacks of alienation and I have been able to preserve my relationship with our child, between the age of 1 to 4 1/2 thus far. I am comforted, that I have fought in court for our child on my own accord with minimal financial assistance as I was not comfortable sustaining my financial durability by wasting other peoples money to no end to the delight of the court process. I have gotten our situation to a point where my child has a voice and an understanding that he has a parent who is fighting for his best interest. I am unable to endure any more financial debt nor am I willing to squander the quality of life that has diminished for my child and I any further. The goal from here on out now that my child is sentient, is to adapt to the environment left over and assert his rights within the confines of what I can control outside of engaging in the court process. I have peered behind the curtain of family law for 3 1/2 years and the resounding truth I am left with is; your children will suffer if you get involved with lawyers in family law. Only the lawyers prevail to the detriment of an amicable relationship between parents.

I am simply asking our community To help me get out of debt and stop the financial bleeding. My ask does not represent the total amount spent fighting in court. 65K represents the debt left over and nothing more. A large portion of which is due to costs being paid to the opposing counsel after each unsuccessful attempt to assert our child rights to his father. 

As many may know, either first hand or second, stories of a family law court environment that is not conducive to upholding the relationship between one parent due to the manipulations of the system by another.

More accurately put: the manipulations of lawyers, taking advantage of parents in emotionally charged and confusing times, trying to figure out life after cohabitation, trying to do what they believe is right for their children.

Over the last 3 1/2 years, I have attempted to engage in the family law court process, to bring the conversation into a rational, respectful and honest environment that does not exist.

The courts primary mandate is to uphold precedence, precedence set to protect women from predator men. In my humble opinion, this leaves the family law court system susceptible to abuse. My child and I have endured that abuse. I will also suggest. The mother involved is the one being prayed upon the most in her time of confusion and has been manipulated by a lawyer, and pinned in an adversarial relationship with the father of her child, rather than encouraged to put the child’s best interests before her own.

Parallel to a financial life raft. I would like to connect community in a respectful manner to address, which shockingly is not a unique experience, where parents find themselves in court after a split under ridiculous circumstances.

I believe there is progress on the horizon, and the conversation has started, but it seems a very long ways away with the amount of money flowing through these courts for an honest conversation about the reality in family law.

This story has been written with tact, understanding the scary and powerful reach of the court. If you would like to know more about our story, please reach out personally for discussion. If you have opportunities for my story to have a positive influence somewhere, I’d be happy to share, and earn donations. 

Thank you,