Lisa Baker's Breast Cancer Battle
Today we have our biggest fight as she was diagnosed with Triple Negative breast cancer. Mammograms never caught it even 3D never caught it, but after more tests we feel we may have caught it before it has spread further thru her system.
We have a surgery date pending for October 9th with chemo and treatments to follow.
For locals we will be forming a fundraiser event so please stay fine tuned as we organize the musical troops and prepare for a feast so we can all fight breast cancer together.
This has been a very hard year on us, I lost my day job in May and doing everything I can to re-kickstart my company, Lisa's pa passed away a few weeks ago at 94 and we prepare to lay him to rest, and meanwhile we are notified that cancer has been confirmed and working on a pending relocation to possibily the East Coast for career job oppurtunity. So we are simply asking for a little help so we can come out of this standing on our feet on the other side of this battle.
HUGE Thank you to all family, friends to new friends that have shared their experiences for we know cancer touches all familys somewhere along the way, so with a little help from everyone we all can overcome some of life's biggest challenges.
Those who know Lisa you know she's an amazing person with a massive heart of gold, hard working gal thats tough as nails full of life, and those who know me know that I will do anything for my family, friends and our community. So if either of us have ever done you a favor please share to donate, even a dollar is not too small. Together with the help of others, prayers and support we will kick cancers ass together. Lisa's a warrior at heart and together we can beat this.
Thank you all,
God Bless and AMEN
-Mean Gene Band
Lisa has been having a rough time with her surgical incision staying closed after a double mastectomy two months ago. One side keeps giving her problems requiring more stitches or extra fluid draining procedures log after the initial drains were removed.
Then radiation began which is set to last every day for 5 weeks.....the process requires holding your hands above your head for about 30-45 minutes straight. This led to her incision opening up again which generates more fluid to build up and it stops her radiation process until shes healed AGAIN!! So the doctor stitched her back up but she still has to go in to have fluid drained as it builds.
Well Tuesday morning while doc was draining her fluids with a needle and syringe they popped her Expander which led to saline spilling out inside of her.
Due to this she now has to go thru mastectomy surgery all over AGAIN and this delays her healing time by at least an extra two months, three steps forward found steps back.......
Sad part is she has now been down and out for almost a full year come September 15th...... Going onto Cobra insurance since shes been out of work so long, our rates skyrocketed to over $1,500 a month!!! and they wont let us drop myself to save half of that $$$ till November...... and all delays only keep the two of us apart longer which is mentally draining on us both. I can't earn a full income due to traveling and she's coming closer to the end of her disability..... I'm selling off anything that's not bolted down.
Meanwhile we still have to finish a home remodel and get our home listed for sale. Paying a mortgage in CA plus house rent in North Carolina, constantly having to put Mozart in a kennel why I travel while he is also dealing with a cancer and set for another round of surgery himself....... Just makes one want to scream, cry and say enough already.
So my beard will continue to grow until Lisa is cancer free, and boy am I looking forward to the day of shaving it off.
I hate asking for support when we can do ok "IF" I can stay in one state and start working full time. But things are going to get rough sooner then later so just tightening the belt to manage the journey.
Seeing Lisa go thru this and what it does to her physically to emotionally is sheer heart wrenching.
Meanwhile my mom is still hanging in there with extra time being added to her life after given only weeks to live with a severe case of ovarian cancer, I've gotten to see her a few times since we got the word and she's managing well with lots of friend to family support to make her final days as comfortable as possible.
Life's too short and time too precious, hugs to all wives, moms, pets and your better half. Never give up hope, faith and support for those in need. Live each day as if it could be your last.
Meanwhile giving it all I got and thank you all for your help, kind words of support and much more...... Even writing this stuff makes me shed a tear thinking all we have been thru and what we still have left to endure.....
There's an end to this somewhere........ Feeling Severely Humbled......
PS Lisa needs help daily but is too proud to ask, but she will thankfully accept anyone that just comes and helps. Dishes, mow the lawn as its about three feet tall now...... vacuum the house, throw some clothes in the laundry etc... all these things she cannot do SHE/WE NEED YOUR HELP! Message her and don't take no for an answer please!
Updates! Lisa has her drains removed, surgery went well. BUT they did find a few remaining cancer cells with clear margins. Due to this they can only call this an 80% success rate which they do not feel comfortable with so they want to extend chemo for an additional 6 months or oral chemo which may buy her another 10% at best, plus remove her ovaries to reduce any cancer return.
Remember Lisa is a Triple Negative cancer type which is extremely hard to battle as it doesn't respond well to most drugs.
Not exactly sure what this all means but I assume its going to drag out the procedures and delay her and I from living together 24/7..... Nothing worse then not being able to be there for the love of your life when needed most while also dealing with ovarian cancer taking its toll on my mom with the clock ticking, plus glaucoma taking my dogs eye just 2 weeks ago.
All the same we are in good spirits, trying not to let these things change our daily life but its just a long road......... These past 2 weeks have been my first trip back to CA but I also have to return to NC come this Saturday so the time was short and sweet. Many more to come before this battle is over so we thank everyone form the bottom of our heart for your support financially, emotionally and spiritually.
We thank you all
So my emotions are at an all time peak, making one feel rather helpless except for doing what we can to care for our loved ones best we can, and just pray, wait, pray some more......due diligence....
Lisa being 2,600+ miles away and in a lot of pain from surgery is enough to make any husband bow ones head. As it is I am only working part time due to my priorities still waiting for me in California. But living in two states does not come easy so I am playing a delicate balancing game of finances to emotions.
Our insurance is getting ready to bite us back with rates about 5x more then we are use to paying. Working helps me escape emotionally and helps keep bills taken care of to a degree so a HUGE THANK YOU to all who have supported and or continue to support our fight.
Lisa is also going to be out of work for a good few more months or better and a full recovery looking like March 2017 before we can create a call for celebration. I just keep saying "This all will pass" and brighter days what seems to be a long way down the road from today...... So all support is some added brightness to our day and truly helps keep a roof over our heads and medical support when needed.
My California friends I will see you soon as I return May 1-14th, three MGB gigs booked so catch us while were still around. But best I get to see Lisa and do what I can to help her in the short time I return.....
Love you all, give your wife, mom and pet a big hug today.
Thank you all for your help to donations getting thru this battle. 2 steps forward 1 step back.....
Sweet Gina Looking great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Richie and Riley