Help save Frances's Life, Cancer
Frances needs a hand, literally…
Frances lost her left hand, arm and shoulder to a Sarcoma type soft tissue Cancer in June of 2014.
Left arm swollen due to cancer
She lives in the Philippines and so has no government medical support or disability funding available. We thank God that my wife and I here in Canada have been able to support her needs so far, as without our involvement she would be forced to just do without medical assistance and would most likely already be seated with our Lord. I can’t imagine the feelings of parents there without the means to help their children!
We could use help though. We unofficially (as culture does there) adopted Frances as a young toddler, and have supported her education and personal needs with hopes of having her come to Canada to join us as a young adult. She is now 21 years old and very full of ambition and enthusiasm. This latest challenge has her calling herself a warrior with little fear of the fight in front of her. Her attitude is nothing shy of a miracle. She smiles constantly, laughs even when the chemo has her body aching, and sees that each new day is OK, God’s way. If things go great, that’s OK. If they don’t, that’s ok too because you often can’t change it anyway, so she says “you might as well accept the day and just be positive”. I so love her, her attitude, and her smile that would melt any heart willing to notice her.
Olaf (the teddy bear), Frances and mom, Marissa
The funding we’re seeking is to help cover the ongoing medical bills which need to be paid on delivery. The initial diagnoses, CT scans, doctors, hospital, and even blood were a bit of a blow as we hadn’t budgeted for such an unexpected medical issue. Again we thank God though, as the means has been provided to us to support her with everything needed so far. She has now begun the second part of Chemo treatment which is by IV and requires hospitalization each time, not cheap. It’s working though. She has a couple tumors remaining since the initial operation which grew rapidly in the month of July. These are shrinking now as of early September, with only the first of six IV sessions, and so we’re optimistic as it seems the doctors have targeted the cancer with the right form of chemo. Thanks be to God that one of the best Oncologists in the country has taken her case.
Another requirement for funding is prosthetics. Her wound from surgery has just recently healed to the point that we can move forward with having a shoulder pad made to help her clothing hang proper. Frances has taken it all in stride but as the beautiful young woman that she is, she deserves for her dresses and t-shirts to stay where they’re supposed to. The foam piece is about $2000.00 CDN and not available in the Philippines, so will require her OT there working with our prosthetist here, long distance. There is a cheap plastic one available there, but it most likely would be passed up often due to the comfort while wearing it.
Once the chemo and healing are done we plan to outfit her with, at the very least, a passive arm just to maintain her self-esteem during outings. If possible and at her discretion we would like to give her the option of a functional arm which due to her now limited shoulder movements would most likely involve electrics. These can cost in excess of $25-30,000 CDN. I really don’t want money to be a deciding factor for her future abilities though.
She WILL play guitar again
If I may, I’d like to back-up a bit to her attitude again. She sings, and she played the guitar prior to getting sick. She reminded me of this only a few days after the operation to remove her sick arm. What do you say to your daughter in a situation like that? Well… Google became my best friend that day. They have an app for that. Actually, not an app, but an amazing fellow named Kevin builds little robots, a bunch of solenoids in a tight box or container that straps to the neck of the guitar and plugs into a foot pedal and a computer. He also makes a wireless version. His dad had a stroke and so this was his way of seeing his dad smile again while enjoying the music he’d loved to play for years before the stroke. These can be seen at www.robo-tar.com . “Yes” I said, within a couple minutes of her reminding me. “Daddy’s little girl DOES play the guitar. And you’re going to play it again”. As usual, she just gave me the world’s sweetest smile.
This is her smile in a beauty contest, before the cancer was diagnosed. Same smile she wears daily, now.
I’ve ordered one for her in black. Kevin makes each one to order during spare time I think, out of dedication to those who’ve lost the gift they previously enjoyed. It takes about 3-4 months to complete, just in time for Frances’s Birthday. We’ll post updates here including this amazing unit, and the rest of Frances’s challenges and triumphs.
The hidden treasure, listen to Frances sing
One other item that has eaten away at the finances has been unscheduled travel to be with Frances through her battles. Due to the distance, obviously the flights are not pocket change either. As you can see, any donations have many areas that they can assist, and even a handful of 5 or 10 dollar contributions can make a huge difference to this charming little lady. Through her choice, please take a moment to hear her sing
frances danielle - in the arms of an angel
frances danielle - beautiful song in tagalog
recorded since her surgery. I’m sure it’ll bring a smile to anyone that needs to smile today.
Thank you for checking out our gofundme page. If you can’t afford to financially help, perhaps you could pray for Frances or like this post, link to it, or forward to someone that can help. That’s just as valuable to Frances, my wife Marissa, and me, Rod Millie.
Have a great day...
Frances has been in the hospital, again, for the past week, requiring another blood transfusion and medication to try and increase her blood counts.
She's had several of these visits to the hospital this summer, since moving to a remote area in the Philippines to live with her aunt. This is the same region that was so devastated by Typhoon Yulanda 2 years ago, the same storm that halted Frances' medical training when it demolished the college she was attending.
We are still the primary support for all her expenses as there is not a government program or any insurance in place to help cover any of the costs.
Aside from the medical bills including doctors, medication, blood and the hospital room, there have been travel costs and daily living expenses which have taken their toll on my wife and I. We are eternally grateful to family and friends who have helped us meet previous commitments.
We could really use assistance again though, if anyone is in a position to help.
Thank you again for your prayers, thoughts and if possible, contributions. May God bless you all
Frances has now finished all of her prescribed chemo but as of today she is still battling the side effects. She will have a bit of reprieve we think, through December to get her strength back before the radiation treatments begin. They will be needed daily through the month of January. We would appreciate anyone able to help with the medical bills at this time of year.
Frances celebrated her birthday this month. It was a very special day in so many ways, including mom being home with her. Marissa is in the Philippines until Christmas to help carry Frances through the holiday. She took an amazing gift with her, the guitar, with robotar attached. We had to modify the case but it worked well, and it protected everything on the flight, so that Frances was basically able to plug everything in and then she sat down and played. Video of her first experience is attached. Don't hesitate to leave her your comments on this page. You can tell she loves her music.
As always, if you can continue to pray for our little girl, or share this site, or help give her a Christmas Miracle, all are important to her cause.
Thank you and Merry Christmas
On with the update. Frances is in the hospital again today, going through what we hope will be the last session of chemo. The doctors have told us they plan to cancel the last session because the results they are seeing indicate the last session is unnecessary. They'll confirm this in the next couple of days with the CT scan report from last week. Keep praying, as this last session was due just before Christmas and if we don't need to subject my little girl to it then it's a huge blessing for Frances.
Marissa is preparing to travel back to the Philippines to celebrate Frances's birthday with her. This is a huge accomplishment and one we weren't sure we'd see a few months ago. It's going to be one to remember for Frances with her new guitar, and many other gifts for regaining independence. I made a cutting board last week, and we have other kitchen utensils and personal care items for her to start doing things herself again.
Please continue to pray, and share this page so we can break into some new circles and find the Christmas Miracle for Frances. The 25K target is about 1/4 of the expected costs, and so the 5K to date is 1/20th of what is needed overall. Thank you to all who continue to pray, share and donate.
Hi Frances :) miss you!I'm always praying for your fast recovery.i miss your very beautiful voice and how we bond during our college days.You're indeed an beautiful girl inside and out!Ate is always her for you!I love you always baby.We may not see each other for the longest time but still your my baby bestfriend!A sister a never had!You're a blessing to me :) I know how strong you are as a person :) I may not able to help you financially but you're always in my prayers!I guess that's the best thing that I can do for you!I hope I can see you personally.I miss you so much!I hope you can read this :) xoxo!
Frances played the robotar like a pro. I am so happy to call her my daughter, and I pray for her daily. Can you please share a prayer for her too.