Carla's Gender Confirmation Surgery
For those that do not know me, I am a 45 year old software developer, transsexual woman, father of two adult children, grandmother of three, wife of a smoking hot goddess, full time student, transgender activist, Air Force veteran, and occasionally I'm a decent person. I will have a beer with you.
I've spent the btter part of the last decade as an advocate for transgender equality through education, activism, protests, speaking engagements, founding or leading community organizations, and legislative lobbying. I will not stop pushing for equality until it is achieved.
Understand, when I started my transition in 1999, surgery was my goal. Somewhere along the way raising children and paying a mortgage took precedence and with dismay, I accepted I would never have the financial means to finish my transition.
Recently, I have learned that my company's insurance policy now covers transition surgery. However, with a deductible of $3000, 20% coinsurance, travel and lodging, and unpaid time off from work, I think I can get by with less than $10,000.
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I do not know how I can ever thank you appropriately.
Please know that I will not drop of the face of the Earth. I will continue to be out, visible, and active working toward the day when all transgender Americans can realize the full measure of justice and equality afforded to them by our Constitution.
This surgery is just one less thing on my plate. The date is still set for December 22nd. It is expected that I will be on medical leave from work until January 13th. I'm anxious and, honestly, a bit afraid. However, I know that I take with me all of your thoughts and well-wishes.
Until the next update, thank you!
I can't believe it! It has been 37 years since I came to the realization that I would not wake up with the correct body after a night of fervent prayers. It has been 17 years since I started my transition in a world that wasn't ready for me.
...and I now have a surgery date!
In one month from now, December 22, I will be in the hands of Dr. Christopher Salgado. That 37 year old prayer will finally be answered.
Because of your support, I have been able to secure therapy sessions with two psychologists and eventually get my letters of recommendations allowing me to have surgery.
Because of your support, I have been able to visit Dr. Salgado in Miami for a consultation visit and secure a surgery date.
Because of your support, I will be able to pay for the surgery and put this behind me...finally.
I am now only lacking funds to carry me past my vacation and sick days to help cover expenses in the additional weeks I will be off work.
For this, I need your help once more. Please share this widely. Please offer your testimony to your friends and followers vouching for my character and need.
Even the smallest donations can add up to make the difference. With your help, I know I can close the gap on the remaining funds in the next 30 days.
I wanted to provide you with a quick update on where we stand with the crowd funding effort as well as the steps I have taken to toward arranging for my surgery.
I have a wonderful counselor that is currently working on the first of my two required recommendation letters. Once the first is complete, I will need to locate a Ph.D. psychologist or psychiatrist, in the Nashville area, that is willing to compose the second required letter.
I have a consultation, in Miama, on October 26th with Dr. Christopher Salgado. It urns out that he is an in-network provider for my insurance!
I still have two other requirements to fulfill prior to surgery: I need to have a small patch of hair removed from an intimate area because that hair will be relocated to a place where hair doesn't belong, and I need to lose at least 25 pounds. There is a recommended BMI that I need to reach in order to minimize the stress on my heart during and after surgery.
My employer has been informed that I will be having *a surgery*, but they are not privy to they type of surgery. They have approved my being off work as long as necessary, with the caveat that they will not pay me after my vacation and sick time are exhausted. They have also agreed to allow me to work from home once I'm no longer under the influence of opiates.
As far as actual surgery dates go, when I spoke with Dr. Salgado's office back in August, they explained they were booked through April of 2017. However, if there were a cancellation, they would put me on a cancellation list. My employer has agreed to let me off for surgery without prior notice.
The benefits for surgery this year are that I have met my individual $3000 deductible, and my additional $5000 out of pocket limit for this year. Since Dr. Salgado is an in-network provider, these two monetary numbers are the only ones I need to hit for surgery. However, there is still cost of the flight to Miami, and a 3-day stay in a local hotel. Even more burdensome will be the pain of no income for two weeks. As of right now, I'm lacking in the vacation and sick time department.
If surgery is next year, after April, I will have the benefit of a significant bonus from my employer that will cover my time off from work, plus I will have vacation and sick time. The downside is, I would need to contribute the $3000 and $5000 toward my insurance requirements.
Regardless of when the surgery is performed, it will be costly. Thanks to your efforts, I am well on my way to reaching my financial goals.
Because you've donated to me, I know you are invested in this effort and I know you want it to succeed. As such, you sharing this effort on social media, letting people know that you have personally given to this effort, and you vouching for my character will generate additional donations.
Each time this group shares, a few hundred additional dollars in donations are made.
Thank you for everything ,
Hi Carla, Just something to consider, if you haven't already... 10 years ago when I had my surgery in Montreal, I took a "hardship loan" of $18,000 against my 401K and then was allowed to deduct those medical expenses plus my travel expenses on my taxes. It took me 5 years of payroll deductions to pay back my 401k but it was the best thing I've ever done.
I started transition in 1997 at 45 years old. Father of three boys of which I put in funds for their continued education and I have five grandchildren, two boys and three girls. Now at 64 I paid for every cent that went into my transition which was over 3,000.00 dollars for electrolysis , all of my medications and also paid 18,000.00 for SRS in 2011. No one and I mean No on helped me pay for it, no gofundme no bank loans, no retirement fund, I pinched and saved where ever I could. I regret nothing, I am now happily married to the love of my life. FYI.. I was one of many that had reactions to Permian hormones, sixteen days in the hospital and 56,00,00 dollars later. I have had my ups and downs and I am still alive and loving life.
Congrats on meeting your goal!!
Carla, you are one of the most beautiful, caring, giving women that i've ever met, if I could I would personally fund your confirmation surgery. Since I cannot I do hope my participation here and my comments help.
I cannot unfortunately support you financially but I have shared your link and wish you the best of luck!!!!!
I wish I had the money, but I have to save for a car. I don't know how much longer the one I got is going to last.
I wish I could help you out but I am saving for a new face and realistic breasts. Stay awesome Babe.
Also as a member of the military I am now uniquely supported in a way that most cannot be.