A Tragedy Comes to the Lindsey Family
"Two days ago, we were having a family reunion at Michael's sister's newly built beautiful home about an hour away from Calgary.
"The last time I saw Joseph alive, I was washing his muddy feet in the sink and tickled the bottom of them with the sprayer as he laughed. I dried them and put him down to join the family togetherness.
"People saw him, spoke with him and such.
"It wasn't much time thereafter when we were going to leave. We began looking for him but couldn't find him. We all began looking form him and it was through the window of the kitchen I saw my oldest coming out of their backyard pond holding my youngest. I began to wail as everybody went around to administer CPR until the ambulance came.
"Their backyard is an unfinished, muddy area that no one went to. There was no grass, but there was rocks and a sunken pond surrounded with boulders that had a tarp bottom. It seems he down to the pond to throw rocks into it and when at edge and slipped onto the tarp edge and slid down into the water quietly. He was not the one to go into water, but loved to play with it. The water was dark and it was Jeremiah who noticed something 'dark' in the pond when we were looking for him and had the sense to see if it was Joseph...it was. He wasn't floating, but half-sunken into the water out of view of all.
"It was estimated that his brain had no oxygen for about an hour before they got him to the hospital. After much effort, many of his organs began to improve, but after time he was just being kept alive by machines only.
"Last night, they put him in my arms as they took off the last breathing tube. His heart kept on beating for only about 5 minutes before he died in my arms. I could feel his life leave me as his entire body relaxed.
"We are in terrible grief over this tragedy in our family. "~ Esther
The family is facing large medical and funeral expenses, as well as the costs of bringing Joseph back to the states. The total scope of this is unclear at this point. Their medical insurance should cover most if not all of the medical expenses, but they must pay it upfront and file a claim to be reimbursed.
Esther and Mike are overwhelmed in sorrow and grief, as are Josephs brothers and sisters. This family has touched so many of our lives, yet we feel powerless at this time of great loss. One thing we CAN do is carry the financial burden for them. This fund is to help with the many expenses they now face... and to say "We love you and we grieve with you."
Here is a link to a video / slideshow presentation that our oldest son put together to honor and become a precious memory of Joseph who went home to be with the Lord on 7/7/14 and bring more joy in Heaven. We miss Joseph very much! Thank you all for your kindness, prayers, thoughtful messages, and generous gifts of love!
Yesterday we had our first memorial service for our little Joseph here in Calgary for the family. Everyone came and friends of Michael's past. We had a pastor from Calvary Chapel of Rocky Mountains give the sermon. Everyone in our family spoke as to how special he was to them. Then we showed a slideshow that Jeremiah made that caused all to cry.
It was when healing begun.
Afterward most people came to Uncle Bill's House for a reception. There we talked, played soccer, laughed and cried.
Healing continued as we enjoyed the family we have left.
Jeremiah was especially upset still. We had to practically force him to be with people. In tears he finally did and later we went to the mall with his brothers and cousins and he was able to have some enjoyment.
Healing has begun for us all.
However, though our healing has begun here, we are not around familiar things. This was not his house. It will be difficult when we get home and see him coming around every corner, every room, playing around the train table, in the sandbox and in his chair around our table. His little shoes will set me off into tears; his clothes, his toys and his memories.
Though healing has begun here, healing needs to continue at home where we lived and loved on him the most.
Yesterday, Michael strapped Joseph into his car seat one more time. However, this time in a tiny box wrapped in velvet and he surrounded him with the stuffed animals from the hospital from which he died.
There he stays. We don't have to worry about heat or somebody taking him. He's already gone but his remains are back where he belongs. With our family.
Joseph is in heaven. He's talking to my Dad about trains. My parents are holding the hands of their little grandson they never met. My Father meets a grandchild for a first time. Jesus is there hugging them all.
Joseph has escaped all the sin and sadness this world will bring, but we will miss all the love and laughter we would have had together.
Thank you for your continued prayers and support.
Healing has begun but needs to continue...
for a very long time.
We also heard of your tragedy through Classic Astronomy and I just wanted you to know that every so often I think of your family and pray for you. Losing a child is the hardest thing I have been through. God bless you and keep you.
Dear Esther, It was but maybe a week or so ago that the Lord placed your family on my heart, and so this update was timely for me personally, as I am sure for many others who love and care for your family. I learned of your tragedy through, I think, Classic Astronomy or perhaps another homeschool company, etc. We too lost our beloved son, 7 years ago this June, due to a water accident. I just want to say that my heart is super heavy for you and what you have endured. It is comforting to hear that things are getting brighter. It is only with our Lord and Savior we can endure such a loss, and I want to encourage you to continue to look toward Him and Eternity. Will there be hard days ahead? Absolutely. My grief still "sneaks" up on me more often than I'd like, but it's okay, and we just take it one day at time. God bless you all. You are loved!
What a wonderful update Esther!
Thank you everyone for all your prayers, kind words, and gifts of love. We are very thankful and greatly humbled by everyone's support and the lifting us up in prayer!!!!!!!!
Thank you all for your love, support, kind and heart felt words, compassion, and unexpected generosity. We do miss our son Joseph very much and with each new day also comes a new memory from the past as well as a new day where we can not experience the joy with him. We are drawing closer as a family and relying upon the Lord for our strength in this time of weakness and sadness. We never knew how much our hearts would ache and break in the loss of one of our children. We are comforted in knowing that Joseph is in Heaven with Jesus and we do long for the day when we can see and hold him again. He took part of hearts with him when he went to Heaven, yet he has also opened our hearts as well as others. We are very thankful for everyone's kindness and would just like to say thank you very much!
I'm one of the many people everywhere who don't know you Lindseys except through a mutual friend, but we love you in Christ and pray for you. Not only is little Joseph with the Lord now in spirit, but he will be raised bodily, as Jesus was, at the Resurrection. He will live whole and complete as he was meant to live, forever, in spirit *and* in body, because his Lord Jesus does, and we will see him that way. I Corinthians 15 is a glorious passage and a glorious comfort even while we grieve, to us who have lost loves ones. God bless you always.
I do not know you personally, but I am grieving for your family and for the loss of sweet Joseph. I am praying for healing and comfort for each of you, the devastation I imagine seems too weighty for anyone to bear. What can we do but pray...and pray some more. My heart aches for you.
Thank you so much, everyone...really. Tomorrow we will be holding our first memorial service. It was so sad as I made the board with all of his pictures and Thomas the Tank Engine Trains. My son made a wonderful slide show presentation that we will be showing tomorrow and in Washington, and then on Facebook. Our family and extended family continue to covet your prayers. Thank you.
I too have lost a son and oh how my heart aches for you, your husband and your children. I am so glad you have the solace of knowing Jesus holds your precious boy on His lap tonight and tickles his toes until you can do it yourself in Heaven when you join Joseph. I pray for comfort and peace for all of you as well as Michael's sister and her family.
I know the pain of a child's death in an accident. It was the 4th of July for us. I am very sad for you. I do know the Father's love and comfort, but grief is a constant companion to all who are broken in this way. Praying for your needs to be met and for your sorrow to be eased by the love of our Heavenly Father.
We've never met, but I am praying for you in this time of great and unimaginable loss. May the Lord wrap you in His arms and carry you through this grief and sadness, knowing that you will one day be reunited with your precious boy. Hugs and love from another homeschool family in Kentucky.
Words cannot express the prayers, love and generosity we have felt during this extremely difficult time. A time when it was to be a fun-filled week as a family reunion has turned into a tragic event for us. Please continue to pray most of all for our family for our five children are in deep grief for their smallest baby brother who had brought so much joy, love, hugs, happiness and who had a heart full of ever ending sweetness. Thank you all for your love for us! We are overwhelmed with kindness. God has had in hand all over us during our deepest trial ever for a mother, father, brother and sister.
I am here in Ohio and I ache for this family. We may never meet in person but only in Heaven will we meet. Until that time please know my husband and I are praying for God to comfort each of you and bring you eternal peace that only He can give. May God meet your needs both financially and spiritually as friends and family try to comfort you emotionally.
As a resident of Calgary, I am so sorry such a tragedy happened to your family while visiting our province. Please take solace that we are praying for you and that Joseph is safe with Jesus. God bless your family.
It is really nice to see so many caring people out there.