To My Son, Patrick Fisher, on the 2 Year Anniversary of your Traumatic Brain Injury -
May 14, 2014, around 3 PM you wrapped your beloved Mercedes SUV around a giant Redwood tree. An hour later came that dreaded knock on the door which brought me to my knees and sent me crying on the floor. After what seemed like an eternity but was only seconds looking back, I grabbed my keys, phone, and purse and headed to Stanford fearing the worst. Little did I know what I would see, but what I saw couldn’t have possibly prepared me for how bad it could be. Met by a priest in that trauma bay there were no words that could console me that terrible day. In a coma, you went so your brain could swell. Would you live? Neurosurgeons could not tell. What followed that night was a marathon I never thought I would run, conversations with every Stanford doctor under the sun. Brain surgery I was told was your only chance and due to the multiple pelvic fractures in you probably would never walk. If you survived the surgeries nothing was guaranteed and that I should be prepared for how bad the outcome most likely would be. I headed to the Chapel and you to the OR. I prayed to God for a little more. More time with you good days or bad, time for you to be a dad.
The lord answered my call and on that day, we set sail on a journey that has had so many twists and turns but no set path. With a smile on our face and love in our heart, we take each day as if it was our last. I am so very grateful because I see that despite this terrible traumatic brain injury, you are still you and I am still me. Ten months, four hospitals and you’re back at home. Talking, laughing, joking around and annoying me with that heavy metal sound. I am so proud of your efforts because I see firsthand how hard it is for you to understand. Each day you ask me, “Why?” “Why hit a tree” and I wish I had the answer that only God can see. No hospital nor court will take us down and you deserve to wear that Golden Crown. Continue the fight my son to TAKE BACK INDEPENDENCE and you shall see even with this traumatic brain injury how beautiful this life can really be.
I love you forever and always!
We are forever grateful for your continued support and prayers. Please share this post to raise awareness for survivors of traumatic brain injury and support Patrick's recovery fund if you can donate.
As we approach the two-year mark since Patrick's traumatic brain injury, I can't help but look back on the astounding progress Patrick has made when his initial prognosis was imminent death. On the medical front, Patrick is walking, talking, attending a day program three days a week using paratransit and he is able to do many activities of daily living without assistance. He still needs 24/7 supervision but, he is gaining independence daily. He has been taken off two of his three meds and the last will most likely be discontinued shortly. Patrick will most likely start in an adaptive physical education course at a local community college in the near future,
On the legal front, the nightmare continues. Patrick own father (my ex-husband) and the County's public guardian are pushing to place Patrick in a long-term residential facility which Patrick doesn't want and there is no need to do so. We go to trial in May and God willing Patrick will remain at home as there is no need to remove Patrick from the only home he has ever known.
Please help in supporting Patrick on his journey to recovery if you are able. If you can't, please help me spread this post and say prayers for Patrick and I that his journey will continue at the only home that he knows with his daughter Haylie by his side as well as his family and not a residential living facility.
One year following Patrick's arrival home after 8 months in the hospital and Patrick will start attending his day program at Services for Brain Injury (SBI) without a caretaker. This is a major milestone for Patrick as it is indicative of his progress from needing 24/7 high level supervised care to being able to transport and attend his program without a 1:1 attendant. Patrick amazes us all daily with his progress and how hard he works at improving his cognition, verbalization, activities of daily living and physical recovery. Patrick is now able to engage in simple conversation, navigate his phone with greater ease and only uses his wheelchair for long distance transport.
This past year has been a wild journey. We have not only navigated the TBI recovery path, but simultaneously navigated the legal arena. We have embattled in a legal fight to keep Patrick at home (where he wants to be) and we face trial in April. Patricks medical are life long and the legal bills continue to mount. Patrick has a long road ahead but has the determination toTake Back Independence and help to parent his daughter.
The outpouring of support since Patrick's initial car accident has been nothing less than amazing and this is what keeps us going each and every day along with God's love. Patrick and I are so grateful for your prayers, warms words, and support. Every little bit counts so please help spread the word and Don't bet on the Superbowl, Bet on Patrick Fisher and donate if you can.
COMEBACK KID: Patrick Fisher's continues his miraculous recovery.
It has been nearly two years since Patrick's car accident leaving Patrick with a severe traumatic brain injury (TBI), multiple pelvic fractures, lacerated/bruised vital organs and the need for full-time (24/7) care. I can hardly believe that he has been home now for a full year. Many doubted he would live, be able to come home let alone resemble his humorous and vivacious self again.
Patrick works daily at shedding the pounds by adhering to a regimen of low calorie intake coupled with activity as tolerated by attending a day program three days a week, walking several times a day, riding the recumbent bicycle 45-60 minutes per day, pool therapy/exercise program and stacks and stacks of cognitive materials. Patrick is a long way from where he hopes to be in the days, months and years ahead. Just how far can he go? No one's quite sure as recovery from TBI is a unique journey with no two TBI injuries alike. We will never give up and will continue to navigate these unchartered waters with the support of family, friends and fellow TBI survivors and caretakers worldwide. Patrick has made great strides in his ADL (Activities of Daily Living) as he is able to assist with the laundry (see video), interacts with his daughter Haylie when she visits and is quick to express his opinions (see 2nd video).
Each and every day we are thankful for how far Patrick has traveled on this rollercoaster journey in two very short years. While at times the days seemed like they would never end and yet each day moves us a little further past courtrooms and hospitals. Patrick and I will continue the journey as we move forward with a remarkable sense of "positivity", "gratitude" and "humor". However, the legal costs of fighting this conservatorship are staggering and Patrick's present and future medical care needs are well into the millions. Immediately, Patrick needs a wheelchair lift, special phone/laptop and home modifications to allow him to continue to regain his independence. Patrick's governmental benefits were revoked due to matters out of my control with the Public Guardian and I am funding 100% of Patrick's expenses but for minimal guideline support from his father that came only after I sought a court order.
Please help Patrick and our family by donating if you able (no matter how small every little bit helps) and share the link ( http://www.gofundme.com/P-Fisher-Recovery-Fund) and Patrick's story of miraculous recovery. Your support and prayers give us unwavering strength each day.
I can hardly believe it has been 17 months since Patrick's traumatic brain injury. I am eternally grateful to everyone who has donated to help Patrick in his recovery, but we still need your help. The expenses of a traumatic brain injury are staggering and Patrick is in need of many medical related accessories one being a wheelchair lift for car as I currently have to lift his wheelchair daily into and out of the car, special visual equipment as Patrick is legally blind and mobile phone) and home modifications (special shower and sink so he can bathe independently, kitchen modifications so he can assist with meals and be more independent in the kitchen). All of these items will make it a little easier for Patrick to take back his independence and recover from the horrific accident that has changed our lives forever. I work full-time while simultaneously taking care of Patrick 24/7 with care relief provided by a caretaker only while I am at work through State assistance. In addition, I have incurred and continue to incur thousands of dollars in legal fees because Patrick's father wants to have Patrick institutionalized and will not willingly support his biological son.
Patrick is surpassing all expectations in his recovery and he remains cheerful and not depressed. Patrick started a day program three days a week and continues to work hard each and every day with both the cognitive and physical therapy. Patrick also continues to see his 5 yr. old daughter as much as possible now and we look forward to her visits twice a month as she lives a couple hours from us now.
Please help me help Patrick by donating if you are able. I f you are not able to donate, please say prayers for us as it is the power of God that has gotten us this far and will continue to keep guide us on this TBI recovery journey.
September 30, 2015: Patrick’s Progress @ 18 months
Wow, 6 weeks have flown by since our last post. There have been several significant changes on both the medical and legal front. Patrick turned 21 in August and had a nice birthday with family and friends. Patrick learned that he is legally blind due to loss of greater than 50% vision in each eye. This explains the reason Patrick is not able to read a sentence and gets very confused when he attempts to read more than a single word at a time. Therapists and MDs have modified his therapy and home programs to accommodate this visual deficit which will not improve with time.
Patrick does not let this visual deficit slow him down. In fact, he is making excellent progress in each of his therapy disciplines and he has recovered from the Botox toxicity. He’s working daily to increase his stamina by riding his recumbent bicycle, walking and performing all his home programs as prescribed plus more (see video). In addition, Patrick wears four different braces throughout the day to improve his range-of-motion on his right side. Patrick’s hard efforts have paid off as he can now grasp and carry a water bottle with his right arm/hand and extend his right arm to near full extension (see video). Patrick’s speech, comprehension and level of independence all continue to improve as well. Patrick is very vocal about what he wants and is able to do many activities of daily living independently that only a few months ago required assistance. Patrick enjoys spending time in the evening and weekends with his friends and daughter, Haylie when time permits (see video).
Patrick and I are so thankful and grateful for his remarkable progress in the short 18 months given the severity of his initial injury and the dismal prognosis.
Please help our family help Patrick continue to improve. There are many adaptive programs/equipment that Patrick could benefit from which insurance does not cover. In addition, I took my second LOA in eighteen months to take care of Patrick while he recovered from the Botox toxicity and we’re facing multiple legal proceedings with Patrick’s father.
God Bless and thank you for your continued support of our family.
21 years ago on August 16, 1994, I was pacing the house weighing in at 182 lbs and Patrick Fisher was 6 days past the due date. I tried every suggestion known to man to get my labor started from eating spicy Chinese food to driving the bumpy roads of skyline. This only resulted in the need for multiple bathroom breaks and indigestion.
Low and behold on August 17, 1994, after an emergency c-section (because Mr. Patrick was too wanted no part of the real world) Patrick Nolan Fisher arrived. I'm so blessed to be his mother.
Patrick is very dedicated to his therapies and has settled into the weekly therapy routine. Aqua therapy remains a challenge but, once we are in the water Patrick settles down and does very well. Patrick's appointment with the low vision center is a couple weeks away and we look forward to learning about the adaptive equipment and additional resources to help Patrick communicate.
Patrick is eagerly awaiting his 21st birthday tomorrow. As we have been going through scrap books to help Patrick memory recall, I compiled the attached video which chronicles Patrick's 1st 21 years.
Although Patrick and I both know how to survive, live, laugh and, most of all, love unconditionally, we need you help financially to cover the myriad of medical and legal expenses for Patrick while I continue on unpaid leave to care for him following the adverse Botox reaction. Patrick is attending four different disciplines of therapy weekly (occupational therapy, speech therapy, physical therapy and aqua therapy). Most of the materials Patrick requires at home to practice his therapies are not covered by any insurance policy nor are many of the adaptive equipment products that are allowing Patrick to communicate with his friends and daughter and feel/move more independently in the community while out with his friends. In addition, the legal bills for Patrick's conservatorship and adult support are staggering and unfortunately only continue to rise. Please support Patrick and our family. We are grateful and thankful for all your prayers, well wishes when we see you in the community and ongoing support and prayers.
Patrick and I pray that you will take a few minutes to share this link with your social media contacts and donate now to our fund.
Finally...To My Son on the Eve of Your 21st Birthday
May The Attached Video Spark Many Memories - HAPPY 21ST BIRTHDAY
In August 2014, Patrick was back in Stanford Hospital preparing to have the right side of his skull put back on. August 2015, Patrick started aqua therapy at Mills Hospital. Hard work and a whole lot of love and the will of the good lord made this possible.
It was not easy to get Patrick to go to water therapy as he wanted no part of this. When I asked him why, he was afraid. Rightfully so as who wouldn't be with one arm and one leg that don't work as they once did. I was able to calm Patrick enough that he gave it try by telling him that he was not sugar and would not melt. He laughed, got into the pool and soon realized he was going to be okay and he settled in.
His other therapy disciplines are slowly resuming as is his ambulation following the botox. Patrick repeatedly expresses his happiness to be home is working so hard daily to regain his independence. His speech and cognitive abilities are gained in small increments and we take each one as they come with gratitude and overwhelming thankfulness.
Patrick's 4 yr old daughter was able to visit us and all had a great time.
Patrick has a big month ahead of him as he turns 21 on August 17th and is very excited about this. He is very thankful to be here to celebrate his birthday as am I.
Patrick and I are unfortunately facing legal battles with Patrick's father on top of the medical battles that we face 24/7 and need your help. Please share this link and Patrick's story.
7-31-2015: Patrick's Recovery Continues Despite the Adverse Botox Reaction
While the first year following Patrick Traumatic Brain Injury was hard enough, getting a medical Botox treatment which is suppose to help and ends up setting you back from an adverse reaction is a tough pill to swallow when you have been through so much. However, Patrick continues to endure with a smile on his face and a undetermined will to get better.
Patrick is walking again short distances and regaining his endurance which will take a bit to gain back given the overwhelming setback. Patrick is enjoying spending time with his daughter, Haylie . He spends time with his friends daily when he is not in one of his multiple disciplines of therapy.
While Patrick continues to work on his speech and regain his cognitive functions, he is eagerly awaiting a long awaited appointment at the Vista Center in Palo Alto which specializes in helping those with low vision and adaptive equipment. Patrick currently can navigate his phone and IPAD. He is able to look up his favorites bands on U-Tube and Pandora and regularly requests that things of interest be read to him.
In honor of Patrick and all TBI survivors we formed TBI, LLC and made the attached video with his friends which Patrick had a great time doing thanks to the donation of a superb Bay Area photographer, Namu Williams (American Photographic).
Patrick knows he has a long way to go which is why he and I are very thankful for all the support and kindness. Please help Patrick continue his recovery and donate to his recovery fund.
I thank the lord every day that Patrick survived the car crash and 9 months in hospitals. Each and everyday Patrick tells his friends and myself how thankful he is to be home. He knows his life is changed but, he is determined to make that change be for the better and he is working each and everyday to do so.
It is hard to believe it has been over a year since Patrick's car accident/traumatic brain injury. While Patrick was forging ahead in therapy, he suffered a major setback due to an allergic reaction to a larger dose of Botox. This treatment was supposed to help minimize the muscle spasticity in the right arm and leg thus allowing for increased range of motion. However, in Patrick's case, the increased dosage caused a severe allergic reaction for which there is no treatment but time to allow it to get out of his system. While suffering through this Botox nightmare, Patrick was also seen by the Neuro Ophthalmologist at Stanford and unfortunately, there is no visual corrective procedures or glasses that will help Patrick's limited field of vision. This is why often you will see Patrick turn his head to look at you and although it looks like he is turning away, he is actually looking straight ahead through the limited field of vision that he has remaining. It is truly a miracle at how well Patrick is adapting and we are learning each day what works best for different situations and environments.
Patrick continues to challenge himself despite the setback. He is determined to take off the extra weight he put on over the past year. He continues to work on walking (which was nearly arrested in its tracks by the Botox toxicity). He changed from a cane to a "hemi-walker" which is specifically made for those with use of only one arm (see video) and Patrick is starting to ride a recumbent bicycle with the aid of custom adaptive equipment to allow for his right leg to remain in a cycling position as he pedals. Outside of formal therapy, Patrick is enjoying spending time with both his friends and his daughter, Haylie. Watching Haylie and Patrick interact is a gift in and of itself. Haylie helped her father with his exercises by counting to twenty for Patrick as he did his physical therapy repetitions, they viewed Pokémon cards and watched Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles together. It was amazing to see Patrick's natural fatherly tendencies reemerge i.e. - checking his phone at 9 p.m. and then telling Haylie to "Go to Bed" or "Eat your dinner".
Patrick is also enjoying spending time with all his close friends whom are like brothers to him and sons to me. I thank God each and every day for these blessings as I watch the kids all interact and Patrick regain his life one small step at a time.
In honor of Patrick and all others around the world struggling to recover from whatever life crisis you find yourself, your loved one, friend, neighbor, coworker, etc. I am proud to announce the Grand Opening of TBI, LLC (Take Back Independence) Custom Inspirational Apparel and Accessories.
My19 year old son, Patrick Fisher and his 3 yr old daughter, Haylie, need your help and support now more than ever. Patrick is very passionate about Environmental Engineering and landscaping. He re-landscaped our residence and the day of the accident he sent me a good morning photo of "Mom's Garden" that he had just finished before going off to class. Patrick is a single dad and a loving son, but his life changed drastically on May 14, 2014, at 3:04 PM, when he was involved in near fatal car accident.
Patrick suffered a Traumatic Brain Injury, multiple pelvic fractures, bruised internal organs, multiple contusions and lacerations. Doctor's did not expect him to live through the night. Patrick showed all that he is a fighter. He has spent 14 days in the Neuro ICU both in and out of an induced coma, had brain surgery, pelvic surgery, cranial drains, chest tubes, tracheotomy and other tubes.
Patrick transferred out of ICU sooner than expected and his prognosis will remain uncertain until all the brain swelling subsides in the coming months. Doctors are amazed at his rapid progression in two short weeks, but with this type of injury there will be many up and downs with unforeseen obstacles as Patrick embarks on this journey towards rehabilitation.
He has months in the hospital and a long road in front of him. His youth, Irish will and love from family, friends and prayer will go a long way, but he needs support for his medical care and rehabilitation expenses.
Please help our family help Patrick to have the best fighting chance possible at an excellent recovery.
I wish there was more I could give in support of both of your journey toward independence.
I lost my nephew in an accident two days before Patrick's accident. Just know that my family supports what you are doing to give Patrick everything he deserves in life. Much love, The Wrights