209
209
9

Medical Bill Support for My Mom

$9,089 of $15,000 goal

Raised by 223 people in 8 months
Hi. I am not one for asking for help, but I love my mother so much and she has been there for me through the worst times of my life and I want to help her through probably the worst time of her life right now.


March 5th, 2018 my mom was scheduled for a brain MRI (after being denied by her insurance company twice already due to them deeming it unnecessary). That day changed our lives forever. The MRI tech shooed us in a tiny room and showed us an image on his phone from a text he was sending to the radiologist. My mom had a brain tumor. Not only a brain tumor, but massive swelling and midline shift causing her entire right side to be weakened. She was immediately sent to an emergency room nearby who started her on a steroid called dexamethasone to help stop the swelling in her brain. They referred us to a neurosurgeon who we met with the next day, and between our minds swirling with fear and desperation, a brain biopsy was scheduled for the following day to see what this mass was. However, the insurance, again, was not wanting to help us in this endeavor because they deemed it "preplanned" and we didn't notify them in time. They are completely being a hindrance in my mom's recovery because every little procedure she needs to help save her life is denied for some inane reason.

Anyway, she received the biopsy nonetheless and was told that the tumor was more than likely secondary metastasis from an adenocarcinoma she had in her lung (which they could not even identify on a future PET scan other than one tiny lymph node that lit up). However, due to it being a secondary, it was deemed automatic Stage 4 and her radio-oncologist thought it would be a perfect candidate for CyberKnife surgery because of its size and inoperable placement. Well, again, the insurance is claiming this isn't necessary and does not want to help out with the costs of this treatment because it is not "in network." My mom had five treatments with CyberKnife for her brain mets and we're hoping it took hold and will help shrink the tumor. However, because of the steroid she was put on, dexamethasone (aka Devil Dex to some cancer patients), she started experiencing more adverse side effects that have landed her just this week in the hospital four different times for steroid-induced psychosis. Each 911 call, each ambulance ride costs a ton of money and we really cannot afford this with the insurance denying us every step of the way.

The hospitals refuse to keep her long because in her psychotic episodes she is unwilling to be admitted for psychological help. My dad and I are helpless. We cannot control her episodes and we end up calling 911 because it is the only way to get her some help even for a day. We attempted trying to get her admitted by driving her ourselves, but they will not take her without her consent, not even for an eval. She also needs to go to University of Chicago for a bronchoscopy/marker placement for her lymph node, but right now we are at a loss because her mental state is making it incredibly hard to get her to comply with doctors. She needs another five treatments of CyberKnife to her chest area to knock out that lymph node and maybe even a course of chemo to make sure there isn't any cancer hiding.

Our bills are piling up, but that doesn't stop my father and I from seeking the best treatment for my mom. I love her so much and I know she would go to the end of the earth for me to help me in the same way we are trying to help her right now. I know right now she doesn't understand exactly what is happening, why we keep trying to get her psychological help, why the steroid/tumor is doing this to her, but we keep each other strong and will see this through. However, financially this is breaking us. I absolutely hate begging but I will do that for my mom. Anything, any little bit would help the hell my family is going through right now. Thank you so much and please know I completely appreciate everything you guys do for me on a daily basis (my online friends, the people who make me smile at the worst of times).

Thank you.

Krissy Rose
+ Read More
I have to say... I am incredibly upset with the insurance company, more so than ever, at this point. My mom has been in and out of the hospital for gallbladder colic (horrible pain due to gallbladder inflammation/stones), and my mom visited her surgeon finally about a week and a few days ago, who told us they would probably be calling us within a few days to schedule her (finally AGAIN) for a gallbladder removal once insurance approved it. Well, we never received any calls and it has to be because the insurance is giving them a hard time. This morning I awake to being told my mom needs to be rushed to the hospital yet again due to a horrible gallbladder attack. She's been taken to emergency three times now due to this. They haven't removed it in the past as she was on chemotherapy and weak and they deemed it a bit of a risk. However, seeing as though she has seen her surgeon, the insurance company should understand how much pain my mother is in, and yet they don't help in any way at this point. They want her pain to just keep going. They're even denying some of my mom's chemo treatments because there was no "prior authorization." So, I am just done with this healthcare system in general. Hopefully, this next emergency room visit will just get her gallbladder removed once and for all instead of throwing us around constantly, but I have a feeling we're going to have to deal with an angry insurance company afterwards.

I just thought I would keep you all updated. Letting sick people suffer is the worst evil. Adding more and more stress on that sick person just makes them sicker. Many people are dealing with this same issue and I have to say it makes me sick to live in a country where money means more than life.

You guys have helped us out so much, and we thank you. Without your donations, we would probably be in a much bigger hole than we could get out of. I hope someday this healthcare system changes. I hope people can actually feel safe one day and protected when they're ill instead of fearing for how they will be able to pay for survival.
+ Read More
Hey guys! I haven't been updating much because I've been working quite a lot, but some news: As I've said, my mom's PET scan was clear, but about a week after that she had horrible stomach pain. Her liver enzymes were off the chart and they admitted her to the hospital. They assume she must've passed a gallbladder stone, which led to this increase. Like I had said in a previous update several posts ago, they found out my mom has a ton of small gallbladder stones, one very close to her cystic duct, and her HIDA scan showed that her gallbladder was pretty much not working at all. However, because she was in chemo, they decided to wait it out to remove it. Now, after an appointment today, my mom found out they are probably going to schedule her surgery for next week because she's been having a lot of stomach pain after eating even a low-fat diet. Hopefully, since her chemo is now finished, she will be stronger and it will be an easy operation.

I just wanted to let you all know. Thank you all!
+ Read More
Hey guys! Really sorry I haven't been updating much, but it was pretty much the same deal for a few months, chemo and just resting. So, some good news. Mom's PET scan was completely clear. I was so sick worrying since Friday when it was done. They say she has a weird Stage IV which is ogliometastasis, which means only one location and can actually be cured if treated aggressively, which right now the tumors are scar tissue. No more chemo for now. Watch and wait. But for now, good news. Yay for Cyberknife! Thank you guys so much for your continued support of my mom, myself, and my family. It is very appreciative during this hard time in our lives, and it definitely helps for when the insurance tries to knock us down. We always get back up, though :)
+ Read More
Hey guys! It's been awhile since an update, but I didn't want to overload your emails or feeds. My mom is actually doing well with her chemo. She doesn't feel too great, but she hasn't lost her hair, so that's a plus. She just got an MRI of her brain about a week ago to see the progress of her brain tumor. It went from a 2-cm tumor to a 6 mm scar tissue dot! They feel it's scar tissue because CyberKnife tends to leave a little bit of a ball of scar leftover from what they radiated. That's a good plus. Now, we just need to wait another two months before she can check on her chest lymph node to see how that's doing. So far, they don't see any spread anywhere else. Fingers crossed it won't spread. I know it's considered Stage IV, but with the minimal amount of spread, they are hoping for a curative effect by targeting these areas aggressively and hoping the chemo catches whatever's floating in her blood. All in all, it's good news right now :) Thank you all again for all of your generous donations. It has seriously saved our lives. <3 I hope you all are doing well! Have a Happy 4th if you're in the U.S.!

<3 Krissy
+ Read More
Read a Previous Update

$9,089 of $15,000 goal

Raised by 223 people in 8 months
Your share could be bringing in donations. Sign in to track your impact.
   Connect
We will never post without your permission.
In the future, we'll let you know if your sharing brings in any donations.
We weren't able to connect your Facebook account. Please try again later.
CS
$15
Carolyn S
7 days ago
$25
Anonymous
12 days ago
AE
$20
Alexander Efimov
27 days ago
$10
Anonymous
1 month ago
$9
Anonymous
1 month ago
$10
Anonymous
1 month ago
$32
Anonymous
1 month ago
$15
Anonymous
1 month ago
$10
Anonymous
1 month ago
SF
$10
Scott Friedberg
1 month ago
or
Use My Email Address
By continuing, you agree with the GoFundMe
terms and privacy policy
There's an issue with this Campaign Organizer's account. Our team has contacted them with the solution! Please ask them to sign in to GoFundMe and check their account. Return to Campaign

Are you ready for the next step?
Even a $5 donation can help!
Donate Now Not now
Connect on Facebook to keep track of how many donations your share brings.
We will never post on Facebook without your permission.