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Medical Bill Support for My Mom

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Hi. I am not one for asking for help, but I love my mother so much and she has been there for me through the worst times of my life and I want to help her through probably the worst time of her life right now.


March 5th, 2018 my mom was scheduled for a brain MRI (after being denied by her insurance company twice already due to them deeming it unnecessary). That day changed our lives forever. The MRI tech shooed us in a tiny room and showed us an image on his phone from a text he was sending to the radiologist. My mom had a brain tumor. Not only a brain tumor, but massive swelling and midline shift causing her entire right side to be weakened. She was immediately sent to an emergency room nearby who started her on a steroid called dexamethasone to help stop the swelling in her brain. They referred us to a neurosurgeon who we met with the next day, and between our minds swirling with fear and desperation, a brain biopsy was scheduled for the following day to see what this mass was. However, the insurance, again, was not wanting to help us in this endeavor because they deemed it "preplanned" and we didn't notify them in time. They are completely being a hindrance in my mom's recovery because every little procedure she needs to help save her life is denied for some inane reason.

Anyway, she received the biopsy nonetheless and was told that the tumor was more than likely secondary metastasis from an adenocarcinoma she had in her lung (which they could not even identify on a future PET scan other than one tiny lymph node that lit up). However, due to it being a secondary, it was deemed automatic Stage 4 and her radio-oncologist thought it would be a perfect candidate for CyberKnife surgery because of its size and inoperable placement. Well, again, the insurance is claiming this isn't necessary and does not want to help out with the costs of this treatment because it is not "in network." My mom had five treatments with CyberKnife for her brain mets and we're hoping it took hold and will help shrink the tumor. However, because of the steroid she was put on, dexamethasone (aka Devil Dex to some cancer patients), she started experiencing more adverse side effects that have landed her just this week in the hospital four different times for steroid-induced psychosis. Each 911 call, each ambulance ride costs a ton of money and we really cannot afford this with the insurance denying us every step of the way.

The hospitals refuse to keep her long because in her psychotic episodes she is unwilling to be admitted for psychological help. My dad and I are helpless. We cannot control her episodes and we end up calling 911 because it is the only way to get her some help even for a day. We attempted trying to get her admitted by driving her ourselves, but they will not take her without her consent, not even for an eval. She also needs to go to University of Chicago for a bronchoscopy/marker placement for her lymph node, but right now we are at a loss because her mental state is making it incredibly hard to get her to comply with doctors. She needs another five treatments of CyberKnife to her chest area to knock out that lymph node and maybe even a course of chemo to make sure there isn't any cancer hiding.

Our bills are piling up, but that doesn't stop my father and I from seeking the best treatment for my mom. I love her so much and I know she would go to the end of the earth for me to help me in the same way we are trying to help her right now. I know right now she doesn't understand exactly what is happening, why we keep trying to get her psychological help, why the steroid/tumor is doing this to her, but we keep each other strong and will see this through. However, financially this is breaking us. I absolutely hate begging but I will do that for my mom. Anything, any little bit would help the hell my family is going through right now. Thank you so much and please know I completely appreciate everything you guys do for me on a daily basis (my online friends, the people who make me smile at the worst of times).

Thank you.

Krissy Rose
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So, today's the day my mom starts her chemo. Wish her luck! The last I heard she will be having four cycles, one every three weeks or so. We're kind of antsy as she's super sensitive to medication, but her oncologist seems confident she'll be okay with whatever she has chosen. She didn't really say much about what she'll be giving my mom other than it will involve carboplatin. Again, thank you guys so much for helping us during this. It really helps us not stress so much about the fact the insurance is being so hard. Even appealing their denials, they continue to deny until it's about time for going to collections, which to me is just appalling. It took them forever to approve the follow-up MRI she needs to check on the status of her brain tumor, which they had to push up to June 18th. I really wish the U.S. would just get their act together in this healthcare system already. It harms more than helps, really. If the sickness doesn't kill someone, the stress will. But sorry for the rant, you guys. Thank you so much. <3 Love you all, and I hope in some way I can give back to you all for your love and support.
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Medical Bill Support for My Mom has reached 50% of its goal. Thanks to Evan, Deb And Tom and Vic. Omgosh you guys. This is insane! Thank you so much. You guys are so amazing to me and my family. It really makes me tear up. <3 Love you all.
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Oh, wow! You guys, I never expected all this love WITHIN HOURS of posting my newest ASMR video. You guys are truly angels, and I love you all. I hope my videos help you in some way like you have helped my family. You guys are amazing and I'm so happy to have such people in my lives. My parents love you too!
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Hey guys! Just an update since it's been awhile. I just haven't been wanting to spam your emails. My mom's gallbladder surgery was postponed until she is able to finish her CyberKnife sessions on her lymph node. She's already done two out of the five sessions she needs, but they want to split it up a bit more because it's in her lung and is more sensitive of an area. She will hopefully be done with those by next Wednesday. Then the planning for gallbladder surgery (if they deem it 100% necessary) will be underway. Her steroid psychosis has cleared up completely since being off of it and she's back to her old self. After gallbladder surgery, she's going to be setup for about four cycles of chemo which we all know is not gonna be the best time, but she's in good hopes. Even though her cancer is considered Stage IV, it really has not spread anywhere else at this point and it was more than likely in her lymph node for over three years. We're hoping that's maybe a good sign that it's a pretty slow-growing cancer, and all the docs seem optimistic that she's going to be able to get this controlled fairly easily if the CyberKnife's work. Her last head CT, though without contrast, showed really good news as her neurosurgeon wrote in the report he doesn't even see the mass on the scan. Happy to hear that! Also, I hope you all had a great Mother's Day. I spoiled her of course and she's been getting around a bit better, though the hospital did put her on oxygen without really explaining why other than her sp02's go below 90 sometimes. She's apparently also anemic but no one has mentioned any way of treating this or even told her she is anemic (I read her results online through their system). Kind of upset about the lack of information they give us, but other than that I'm feeling good about how it's going so far.

Thank you to all you guys who pitched in and donated to my mom and our family. The bills are being paid slowly but surely. There's a huge stack still waiting to be paid, but maybe we can figure out some sort of assistance program.

Here's a throwback picture in honor of Mother's Day of my "should've been a model" mom. :)
beautiful
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