Jeff Elasky Fund

$28,673 of $100k goal

Raised by 205 people in 8 months
Kamal Boulos
on behalf of Jeff Elasky
 COLUMBUS, OH

August 4, 2016
To our guests, friends and supporters,

We at The Refectory are a family. And so it is with great sorrow that I let you know of the challenges currently facing one of our family members.

Jeff Elasky, general manager at The Refectory, has been with us for over 35 years. He has helped to build a restaurant with unparalleled service, exquisite food and a wine selection that is unsurpassed. In 1991, Jeff was the architect of our award-winning wine program, with The Refectory receiving one of only six new Wine Spectator Grand Awards that year!

About three months ago, Jeff left work on a Tuesday night after a major wine event he had planned for quite some time, and went to the ER with some difficulty breathing and general weakness. Five days later, he was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer.

Jeff is battling stage 4 soft tissue sarcoma, undergoing strenuous chemotherapy treatments every 15 days that require five days in the hospital. He continues to pray for healing, yet knows the Lord will choose the best path, whatever it may be. Above all, and despite everything, he is positive and at peace.

The Refectory has been blessed by the privilege of Jeff’s presence and the pleasure of his friendship. Therefore, we have created a Go Fund Me page to assist Jeff and his family during this difficult time.

Through the years he has been committed and dedicated to his profession. He is one of the hardest working people with the highest integrity and ethics beyond reproach who always puts the needs of others before his own.

To that end, once Jeff learned of this undertaking, he made his strong desire known that he does not want all of these funds just to be for him, but wants to use his situation to help others.

In keeping with Jeff’s desire and vision, please know that 50 percent of these proceeds will assist Jeff and his family, but that the additional 50 percent will be used to establish a fund through The Refectory that aims to help others families working in independent restaurants that face similar trials.

Without question Jeff Elasky has been a key to our success and 40 years in business. We greatly appreciate your thoughts and prayers for him and his family, as well as any assistance you might be able to offer.

We believe that wine is an every day beverage to be enjoyed with food in celebrating life. And so finally, I ask that you raise a glass to Jeff, his family and his irreplaceable part of The Refectory family.

With my deepest gratitude,

Kamal Boulos
Owner
The Refectory

October 4, 2016
To all,

It is with a deep sadness and profound sense of loss that I share with you all that Jeff Elasky went home to be with the LORD at 5:33 am Sunday, October 2, 2016.

In the words of his son, Jordan Elasky. “He passed away peacefully in his sleep after my mother and I spoke with him and released him. We are blessed to have experienced this send off for him. We ask for your continued prayers and we are very grateful for all of your support. It is Sunday and the work is done for the week. So Jeff will now be resting today!” Jordan

We are deeply grateful for your love, support, friendship and prayers for Jeff and his family.
My heart aches for my friend and I will always miss his presence in my life, but I am greatly comforted by knowing that Jeff is now and forevermore in the presence of the ONE that can bring eternal LIFE out of physical death…

Please don’t hesitate to send cards to the family.

The Elasky Family
1092 Bethel Rd
Columbus, Ohio 43220

We will continue to raise funds for the family’s medical expenses, but also in accordance with Jeff’s wishes:

half of the proceeds will help to establish a fund or foundation that will help others in the future. 
Please pass this on to anyone in your circle that may know Jeff.

With much gratitude,
Kamal


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Update 6
Posted by Kamal Boulos
4 months ago
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Jeffrey Elasky – A Celebration of Life!
When the steward of the feast tasted the water now become wine, the steward of the feast called the bridegroom 10 and said to him, “Every man serves the good wine first; and when men have drunk freely, then the poor wine; but you have kept the good wine until now.

This story is from the book of John in the Bible. It uses a common experience here on earth – a marriage feast with wine; as a picture of who God is and how He can transform us.

Good wine takes caring about every fastidious detail of the art of winemaking, from the vineyard to the winery; above all it takes time! It cannot be rushed; yet here the Lord did this in an instant. We all know that our good friend Jeff knew a little bit about wine.

As with many things; food and wine can be abused and misused; but this picture of a marriage feast is mentioned in Revelations when it speaks of “Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage feast of the Lamb”

Breaking bread and sharing a glass can celebrate life in humble or grand ways, build friendships, express love to others or perhaps bring comfort to each other; a shared table can simply bring people together and create lasting memories of life. Jeff and I shared this passion and it was my honor to call him my colleague, my friend, my brother in Christ and to learn much from him.

I believe God brings some people into our lives that are a light and they are a very special gift from the Lord and Jeff is one of those people.

We often observe something in others that inspires us to achieve greater things and that is a good thing to do; but we often miss the greatest life lesson. We don’t always take the time to better understand or examine who they are. Because it is not what we have achieved that defines us or gives us lasting meaning; it is who we are that gives meaning to what we have achieved.

You will never meet anyone that is more unselfish or has more integrity than Jeff.
Jeff lived to serve others with a tremendous amount of humility.
To his wife and to his children, he attended to every detail of taking care of his family. To our dream of building a great restaurant with a world class wine cellar then finding a great Chef. To igniting a passion in others to pursue excellence. He really cared about making people better and challenging them on some level.

Do nothing from selfishness or conceit, but in humility count others better than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. This was the example of Christ,
It is the heart of the man that defines him. On the Sunday after Mother’s Day when he was first diagnosed, his immediate goal was to be ready to walk his daughter Aubrey down the aisle at her wedding the following Sunday.
In the same week that I shared many prayers and words of encouragement, Jeff also became a man of faith and he shared these words in a letter thanking the Refectory Staff for their monetary gift and is now his thank you to all of you.
And of course, once he learned that we were planning to raise funds to help him and his family through this horrific time, Jeff immediately asked that a portion be established to help others

”To the Refectory Staff,

When I found myself diagnosed with an advanced form of cancer, I began to focus on my relationship with God. I found myself afraid at night sometimes, unsettled with my future, my life, and my family’s welfare. I wanted to pray a prayer that would settle me and bring me a peace. I’ll be honest, I did not have a wealth of experience with prayer, but eventually put together this prayer I would like to share with you.
I have always been blessed with good health and a good life, so I first thanked God for all his blessings in that regard, focusing especially upon my daily experiences that I became more and more thankful for. I have and do feel so blessed and I felt the need to tell God how much I appreciated this.
I next wanted to ask God for strength for my family, because this certainly is/would be an ordeal for them. I asked God to encourage them, give them courage and the fortitude for this situation.
Finally, and this is something Pastor Brent helped me with, I wanted to ask God to heal me. I wasn’t sure here what to do, because I have sinned, broken commandments in my life and feel/felt imperfect. How could I ask God to spend time on me with so much pain and suffering in the world, with so many people more deserving?
Pastor Brent made me understand that through the sacrifice of his Son Jesus Christ, God has taken our sins from us, absolving us of guilt, so we can ask for salvation. I understand that all prayers are not answered, or may be answered in ways we may not understand.
Many times I would fall asleep somewhere during my nightly prayer, drifting away from my ordeal.
* * * *
My life has taken a strange twist. I want you to know my prayer, so that you may see that I have a contentment with my situation. I am so pleased by the individuals that have reached out to me on so many levels, with so much encouragement and prayer. I appreciate your special gift as I know how hard you work on a daily basis for your wages. I wish I could be there with you again, and understand, I loved my job on so many levels. I wish you good luck in the future, revel in all you contributed to our common goals. We all should understand how blessed we are and I want you to know, how thankful I am to have come to know you all.

God Bless each of you, Your friend, Jeff”

It took 37 years for Jeff and I to actually say to each other that we loved each other. If there is someone in your life that you need to value and appreciate or forgive, don’t wait until it is too late.
It took this terrible physical affliction for Jeff to open his heart to the Lord and receive His grace, mercy, love, and peace by faith. Who but God, would open a man’s heart once he has been told he has cancer; that God loves him.
What a testament to the power of God to transform a life!
Don’t wait for some catastrophe or think maybe another time.

I see in my mind’s eye, right now, Jeff at this unbelievable feast in heaven with the finest wine that has been saved for last. The Lord can transform each of us from ordinary water into a fine wine.
Jeff set such a magnificent example for us; of a life well lived in his journey to faith and each one of us has been enriched and blessed in some way by the privilege and pleasure of knowing Jeff.
Jeff has been an irreplaceable part of The Refectory for 37 years and his legacy will live on in the lives of the many that he touched.

We are deeply grateful for your kindness and support and really appreciate your continued thoughts, generosity and prayers for his family.

And so finally, I ask that you raise a glass to toast Jeff.
With much gratitude,
Kamal




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Update 5
Posted by Kamal Boulos
6 months ago
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A Celebration of Life for Jeff Elasky
Sunday, October 16, 2016 at The Refectory Restaurant.

The family will be receiving friends and family beginning at 2:00pm, with a short service at 3:00pm. Feel free to come and go until 7:00pm.

In lieu of flowers, please bring a bottle of wine and memories to share. Alternatively, donations can be made to the Kobacker House, where Jeff passed away peacefully, surrounded by his loving family.
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Update 4
Posted by Kamal Boulos
6 months ago
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Please join us for a Celebration of Life- Sunday
October 16, 2-7pm at The Refectory Restaurant
Short service at 3pm
Celebration of Life - Oct 16, 2-7pm
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Update 3
Posted by Kamal Boulos
6 months ago
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To all,

It is with a deep sadness and profound sense of loss that I share with you all that Jeff Elasky went home to be with the LORD at 5:33 am Sunday, October 2, 2016.

In the words of his son, Jordan Elasky. “He passed away peacefully in his sleep after my mother and I spoke with him and released him. We are blessed to have experienced this send off for him. We ask for your continued prayers and we are very grateful for all of your support. It is Sunday and the work is done for the week. So Jeff will now be resting today!” Jordan

We are deeply grateful for your love, support, friendship and prayers for Jeff and his family.
My heart aches for my friend and I will always miss his presence in my life, but I am greatly comforted by knowing that Jeff is now and forevermore in the presence of the ONE that can bring eternal LIFE out of physical death…

Please don’t hesitate to send cards to the family.
The Elasky Family
1092 Bethel Rd
Columbus, Ohio 43220

We will continue to raise funds for the family’s medical expenses, but also in accordance with Jeff’s wishes: half of the proceeds will help to establish a fund or foundation that will help others in the future.

Please pass this on to anyone in your circle that may know Jeff.

With much gratitude,
Kamal
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Julia Anders Lehman
5 months ago

I only heard of this situation on Kathy Hoover's facebook page. I am so sorry. I am praying that the Lord will continue to comfort his wife and family, and his co-workers at the Refectory. I am so grateful to the Lord to know that this man is in Heaven. Eternally grateful. I don't know anything about this man, but I would like to send the family a card. I think my cousin, Jim Glier might have known him. It is my desire to have the funds to send to his family. My deepest sympathy, Julia Anders Lehman

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Janice Finedore Blocher
6 months ago

We are deeply saddened for this beautiful family during this tremendously heartbreaking transition. May their many friends comfort them with a blanket of love, and may God give them strength and courage. Jeff will live on in our hearts forever. God be with you til we meet again.

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Pat Stafford
8 months ago

It is an honor to give some help to Jeff. He is one of the nicest people I will ever know. Lots of prayers for his recovery!!Pat Stafford

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$28,673 of $100k goal

Raised by 205 people in 8 months
Created August 10, 2016
Kamal Boulos  
on behalf of Jeff Elasky
GS
$250
George and Patricia Smith
4 months ago

Jeff was the ultimate professional and a true gentleman. We still feel his presence whenever we enter the Refectory. It was a privilege to know such a kind, caring person. His family must be so proud of the life he lived.

AC
$100
allen carnes
4 months ago
JD
$100
Joshua Dressler
4 months ago

Our thoughts are with the entire family.

DM
$100
Don Mottley
4 months ago

To Kamal and to Jeff's family, we are making this additional donation at Christmas time, along with our love and prayers for you.

$100
Shelley Cull
4 months ago

I did not know Jeff but through Kamal, I feel the beauty of his soul. So glad he found comfort and gratefulness and that he knew the magnificent blessings of our G-d. may he Rest In Peace

$100
Anonymous
4 months ago
AH
$250
Asli Hussen
5 months ago

Thank you!

KK
$50
Kent King
5 months ago
JJ
$50
Jaime Johnson
5 months ago
TY
$100
Timothy Yuan
5 months ago
Julia Anders Lehman
5 months ago

I only heard of this situation on Kathy Hoover's facebook page. I am so sorry. I am praying that the Lord will continue to comfort his wife and family, and his co-workers at the Refectory. I am so grateful to the Lord to know that this man is in Heaven. Eternally grateful. I don't know anything about this man, but I would like to send the family a card. I think my cousin, Jim Glier might have known him. It is my desire to have the funds to send to his family. My deepest sympathy, Julia Anders Lehman

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Janice Finedore Blocher
6 months ago

We are deeply saddened for this beautiful family during this tremendously heartbreaking transition. May their many friends comfort them with a blanket of love, and may God give them strength and courage. Jeff will live on in our hearts forever. God be with you til we meet again.

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Pat Stafford
8 months ago

It is an honor to give some help to Jeff. He is one of the nicest people I will ever know. Lots of prayers for his recovery!!Pat Stafford

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