I don't do much posting but I wanted to write to say a thank you to Rick from Northern VA. In todays mail I received an envelope with $50 cash and a post note say " take care of the cats " It also said " Life happens while we are making other plans " Signed Rick. No return address or any way for me to thank him. Last month he sent me $100 with a note simply saying take care of the cats. With todays $50 I went straight to Walmart as I was almost out of cat food and totally out of cat litter. I bought 2 twenty pound bags of cat food, some cans of soft food, some cat treats and a bog of littler. Last month I bought the same thing and paid $40 towards my electric bills as I was getting and still am behind on.
For those of you that don't know my cousin/ BEST FRIEND/ room mate for 20 years passed away on July 27th, 2013. To this day I still cry every day and every night. I also light a candle EVERY night and on special days I light several. Dave's death was and is very hard for me as I am the one who found him lying on the floor and then having to see him being carried out of the house. Its something that I have to live and deal with every day. We were watching TV , took a nap and an hour later he was gone. 45 years old. All I can say to all you drinkers is to say stop now or at least slow down.
Anyway shortly after Dave passed I started a donation page to see if I could get some help paying some bills and feeding the cats. That didn't go so well. I did get 5 donations. One from Dave's brother Steve, one from Dave's high school friend Deenna Sloper and three strangers. Dave had a cat named Casey that he had since she was a baby. 19 years he had her. I have a cat named Jake. He has been here 14 years. They are both strictly indoor cats. We also had 6 cats that I guess the previous owners of the house use to feed coming to the back door. Dave having the kind heart that he had would always feed them which I really didn't mind. One of the cats Dave named poptart had a litter of 3 solid black kittens, Dave named them hoho, twinkie and cupcake. In the picture Dave is holding cupcake at about 8 weeks old. As the cats got older they didn't like being picked up as much.
Since Dave's passing my life has really gone down hill. I am still behind on all my bills. My real estate taxes are past due. My cable tv and internet are disconnected. My neighbor is letting me use is wifi so I can at least get some internet. I have sold my 72" tv, my dining room table and chairs and my bed along with other odds and ends. I now sleep on the couch. Dave's bed is still here but I just cant bring myself to using it. It would make his room look so empty and besides that his cat Casey use to sleep with Dave and she still sleeps in it. All day she will be up in that bed waiting on her friend to come home.
I use to do pretty well working for Comcast and then Fed-ex. Then while working a lady ran a red light crashing into my truck causing me to have 3 back surgeries and having metal placed into my back. I also had a head surgery which left me with ringing in my ears and losing some of my hearing. With all that I am now suffering with severe depression. Dave and I were best friends. I loved him like a brother as he did me. We had some great times and did and went to so many places Las Vegas being one of them.
I am now in the process of filing for S.S.I. I haven't work since Dave's passing as I am limited to what I can do and to be honest there isn't any work in this area. Besides my chronic back pain I am also seeing a therapist and psychologist to help me cope with my deep depression. I paid cash for my house so I really don't want to sell it and all my savings is gone. Here in this part of PA real estate is really cheap/ My 3.5 story house was only $23,000.00. Its an old house but a nice house and Dave did so much work to make it even more of a home.
I forgot to mention that when poptart had another litter of 3 kittens they were all solid white. I was able to find good homes for all of them. For some reason no one wanted the black ones. So I now have Dave's cat and my cat and to keep up with what Dave started to care and feed the strays. Like Dave I don't have the heart to turn them away. This past winter was pretty bad and freezing cold. I made a wooden enclosure lined with lined with bath towels and placed that on my back porch. Two of the black cats that still were only about 1 year old took to the box right away. They slept in it at night and spent most of the day in it. The mom cat and her other baby found somewhere else to sleep but still made it for breakfast and dinner. The hardest part was keeping up with their water freezing. At night I would give them warm milk which they loved.
All the cats I am happy to say made it through the winter. But sadness has struck me again. Cupcake the one in the picture you see with Dave was found on my back porch right next to the back door dead. In the 2 weeks previous I noticed he was losing weight and he seemed to be moving a little slower. He would let me pet him but not pick him up. He was eating well. I'm thinking he had leukemia. I bought a rubber maid container and buried him in the back yard. I planted some flowers next to his grave. I would like to think he is in Dave's arms again. Yesterday I was looking out the back door and his brother poptart was sitting 2 feet from his grave. it was like he knew his brother was buried there. I know he cant know but I would like to think that.
Anyway, sorry for rambling on but I get kinda lonely sometimes. But Rick if you are reading this thanks so much again. You have a kind heart. I'm not sure how much I believe in god anymore with all the sad things that go on in this world but want to say GOD BLESS YOU..
I would like to take this time to say thanks to Rick from Northern Virginia. He was kind enough to send me a $100 donation to help feed the cats. This has been the first donation that I had had in months.
It came right on time as I just ran out of cat food and cat litter. The donation came with no return address other than the post mark so I hope he is reading this.
I myself, his cat and my cat as well as the strays miss Dave VERY VEERY MUCH. It has been a little over 8 months since Dave's passing and I still light a candle next to the ashes I have of him. I also still cry on a daily/nightly basis.
Dave was more than just my cousin. and room mate for the past 20 years. He was my BEST friend. I will never have a friend as great as Dave was. He is missed dearly by a lot of family and friends.
So thanks again Rick.. If this happens to be Rick T that use to live in Portage, Pa give me a call. 814-242-8894. Next time you come to PA you will have to stop by for a visit. You were always a good friend and some how for reason I don't know we lost touch.
New York has a heart. Today I received two $25.00 gift cards to Petco from an anonymous kind person from Mid Island New York. They came just in time too as I am almost out of cat food and litter. When I am able I like to mix a can of soft food with the hard food for the outside cats. These cards will enable me to buy a few extra cans to give them a treat every couple days. It really is nice to see that some people still have hearts and will help someone out who is going through some ruff and sad times. My cousin Dave I'm sure is looking down smiling. It's getting cold here in PA now. I will be putting out my towel lined cat house on my back porch soon. Two of the cats which are siblings used it all last year so I am sure they will use it again.. It's warm , safe and close to the food and water. One of the poor cats must have got into a fight with a dog or a mean person because he showed up with half of his tail missing. I cleaned it a little but he wouldn't let me bandage it up. They are starting to trust me more but are still a little skittish.. It looks like it is healing a bit. I wish I could have thanked you personally so I hope you are reading this.. But THANKS SO MUCH.. Happy Holidays.. Ron
the picture is of Dave's cat and my cat sitting on Dave's favorite spot together. They are hoping he will come home soon. It's so sad..
I want to take this time to say thank you to the Time Warner anonymous person from New York that was kind enough to help me out. I received your note and donation today. [Monday] I wish you have left your name so I could have sent you a thank you card or at least an email. Your a kind person with a good heart. God Bless You!!
not looking too good for me. this page has been up about 10 days now. I had 311 visitors and only 4 people have helped. Dave's brother, one of his old friends and 2 complete strangers.
but today in the mail I received the cutest card. it has a picture of 3 tiny kittens on the front. inside was a note saying that they was sorry for my loss and money situation. She also told me she was going through the same thing. she couldn't make a donation but did offer her sorrow and a prayer.
I thought that was very nice of the stranger who didn't give a name. if you are reading this thank you very much. Tax time is getting closer and some utilities are at risk of being turned off. plus I have zero income for future bills. the cat food is almost gone too. please consider helping me out.
To date I had this page up 8 days and had 309 people visit. but for some reason only 4 people have helped me out. One of them being Dave's brother and one of his friends from years ago. Two were kind strangers. I can't understand why no one is helping. I know my goal seems high but my upcoming property taxes are almost $2,000.00. I have past due bills in total of around $600.00. I wanted to have some extra to keep current on my bills and of course to buy cat food. I also need cat litter for my two indoor cats. PLEASE even if it's only $5.00 that will help. imagine if all 309 visitors would have donated $5.00.
I see other people on this site asking for money for vacations or their wedding or a new guitar. I am asking you to help me keep my house and feed some homeless cats. I would much rather be working as I have been since I was 16 years old. I am now 52. My back pain and the medication they have me on which I do need makes it very difficult to do any type of work. Just sitting here typing this short update is starting to hurt my back. I am not a bum and never have been a bum. My cousin use to work and he would take care of the bills. I did not charge him rent. PLEASE help.. PLEASE pass this on to your friends.. Get by with a little help from my friends. On my facebook page under [about] is my home address if you would rather mail me something. Thank you.. God Bless.
I miss my cousin/best buddy so freaking much. It's so lonely here now. His cat Casey has been hiding in his room sleeping on his pillow for the last couple weeks. I guess she is waiting for him to come home. I was watching a home video of Dave and I and she must have heard his voice and came running down the stairs. She's almost 19 years old and has trouble making it up and down the stairs. But that day she ran down the stairs faster than she has in a long time. She was so disappointed when she couldn't find him. I am finding it hard to live with out him. I thought we were going to grow to be old men together and that I would die first. I wish I would have because the pain is too much for me to handle alone. I don't know what i'm going to do. he was such a good friend.. I'll NEVER forget him.
Deeanna, thanks so much for your support. every dollar helps and will get put to good use. it's kind people like you that really makes a difference. I always try to help out even strangers when I can. it's been very tuff not having Dave around. I miss him so much. but I don't think it will ever get better. anyway, thanks again.. take care, ron
Steve, Thanks so much for your generous donation. It will go a long way. This will pay a bill or two and buy a bag of cat food. You have a good heart buddy. Thanks from myself, Dave and the cats.. God bless you...
Another good person Ralph was kind enough to help me out. 2 people in one day after 4 days of trying. I'm starting to believe there are people that do care. I was having my doubts. I'm sure Dave is looking down from heaven smiling. I may even give the cats a little lunch today instead of just breakfast and dinner. Thanks again Ralph. Your a good person.. God bless..
These are the daily visitors. There are a couple more that show up now and then.
These are the stray cats my cousin started to feed when we moved here to PA 2.5 years ago. I told him he shouldn't feed them because they will just keep coming back. The cat with the grey and white face is mine. His name is Jake. The grey cat in the middle Dave named pop-tart. The 3 black cats are her babies, Ho Ho, Twinkie and cup cake. Dave named them all. Pop tart had 3 more babies about 3 months ago. They were all white with blue eyes. I was able to find them all home through craigslist. I tried to get the humane society to take the other cats but they said since we fed them they now can't take them.
These cats come by every morning and every night.
Dave was my cousin. On July 27th, 2013 just 2 weeks after his 45th birthday I found him dead on our dining room floor. At first I didn't know what to think when I saw him there. I tried to wake him but he wouldn't get up. I called 911 right away. By the time they got there he was already passed on. Dave drank a lot of beer for over 20 years. we lived together as room mates for about 20 years. He was just not my cousin but my best friend. I miss him so much. His cat Casey and my cat Jake miss him too. Dave is the one in the pictures.
I have some of his ashes in a small urn on my mantle along with a bunch of candles which I light every night.
In Loving Memory of Dave Wanamaker
Dave's urn is in the front / center of the picture above. I kiss it every morning and every night before I go to bed. I talked to him often. If it wasn't for our cats and my mom I think I would just do something stupid. My dad took his own life 2.5 years ago. My mom is still having a tuff time with that.
I am here asking for your help. I have had 3 back surgeries in the past few years. I am now applying for SSI disability income but from what the lawyer says this could take a year or more after the first denial. Dave would want me to keep feeding the stray cats which I do. They go through a 16 pound bag every 3 weeks. Plus I have my cat and Dave's to care for.
I have no income except for $200.00 worth of food stamps. I am past due on all of my bills and my property taxes are coming due in 3 months. I can't work because of the chronic back pain. Not to mention my lawyer says I cant work because I am applying for disability. I know there are people out there in worse shape then me but I have no where else to turn.
i'm hoping that there are animal lovers out there that might want to help. I also feed the birds and my neighbors dog cause he doesn't feed him like he should. I miss my cousin / buddy Dave so much. It's only been 2 months but it seems like just yesterday I found him lying there. I cant get that image out of my head. I think I need to see a shrink because I can't eat or sleep.
Please if it's only a dollar or two please help. I am mainly concerned about the cats. Winter is coming and they are going to need a little more food to help keep them warm at night. in the winter months past I build them a small box with towels and keep it on my back porch for them to sleep in which they do.
Anyway, thanks for any help you can offer. If you can't help maybe you can send a prayer my way. those of you who have lost loved ones know what I'm going through. Living with someone for 20 years and then not having them around is very difficult. God bless you all.
If you have no credit card to donate online my address is located on my facebook page in the about tab. Or see it below.
Ron Pallone 120 Catherine St Johnstown, PA. 15901
So maybe if you wanted to you could put this on your face book page. Maybe more people would see it??? I really do need some help. I have $23.00 to my name. I drive a 2000 model car which was my dads which is in need of tires and repair.
If any animal lovers, or people who lost loved ones , or had a family member who commited suicide or just get a sense of pride in helping someone please help me. I have never begged for anything. in fact as broke as I am I still will give to the homeless, the salvation army kettle and feed these cats that are not even mine. They are just so cute I cant turn them away. My family has no money and never did. Thanks for taking the time for at least reading this. Please pass this on. And PLEASE,, don't send me any hate mail. I'm in enough pain as it is.. For those of you who may think this is a scam.... http://www.decortfh.com/webcast/14867
Hi Ron! I wish I could help you out more, but I have been unemployed since March :(
I hope everything works out. I know its tough losing someone that is so close to you, but it will get better as time goes on.