Help US Complete Our Family
This is both very difficult and humbling to type. As many of you know Michael and I faced many challenges with getting pregnant with IVF. We have unique issues which made it very difficult to conceive through IVF. It took us over two years, three egg retrievals, 5 transfers, multiple surgeries for both of us, and a miscarriage before God gave us our angel. The emotional, physical and financial strain was a challenge but we kept fighting because we knew we would be great parents. Last month we transferred our very last embryo in hopes of completing our family. Sadly, this did not work. We are now faced with the challenge of starting all over again. It has been very hard to come to terms with facing this reality one more time. One of the suggestions our doctor made for us is to do genetic testing. What this procedure does is tests our embryos prior to freezing to see which ones are genetically normal and that would bring us a baby. Now while this may be controversial to some, it's doing what our bodies do normally, but in our case these things have to be done outside of our body. For example, a couple may have a genetically abnormal embryo, but the embryo would never implant and the couple would be none the wiser. But in our case we are very aware. So while the doctor may retrieve ten eggs, and five "look" good and freezes them for us to transfer, in reality only one or two will actually be healthy enough to make a child. The biggest difference is we will transfer each one, one at a time, praying that it is normal. Each transfer requires a month of medication, including shots, a procedure to transfer and of course a lot of emotional strain when it proves unsuccessful. With each unsuccessful cycle comes more waiting, more medication and more medical bills. With this test we could very well have success our very next try. Unfortunately, insurance does not cover this test. I'm asking people to find it in the heart to give anything they can to help us make our family complete. Knowing what the outcome will be I would do this 100 more times, but the thought of putting my little family through this physical and emotional pain for a matter of years is more than I can seem to handle. Everyone has said they wish there was something they could do, and this is our something. It is very, very hard for me to ask people for anything. I want to fight this battle, but even miracles need a hand. I also want to add that while this test does reveal the gender of the baby, Mike and I both agree that is not something we want to know. We want this test to give us the answer we need, will this embryo give us the missing piece to our family puzzle? That's it. God can decide the gender. We just want a happy and healthy family. Plain and simple.