Funeral For Wendi
Since the diagnosis our mom has gone through two rounds of chemo therapy, several procedures, and is now on dialysis, none of which have had any effect on the tumor. It has spread to several major organs such as her stomach, colon, and pancreas. Our mom has had difficulty breathing since the tumor secretes large amounts of fluid which resulted in various ICU stays and several instances where she has had to be placed on a ventilator. Our mom has since been moved to the Indiana University Melvin and Bren Simon Cancer Center in Indianapolis to manage the rest of her care.
It has been hard on the entire family and her spouse. Both Wendi and her husband Dave are 44 years old. Wendi has been blind since birth. Their children's ages range from 24 years to 7 months. There are 10 girls and 5 boys in the family. The homeschooling and household schedule has been thrown off its tracks and the younger children miss their mom a lot since they don't understand why our mom cannot come home.
Prayers, donations, thoughts, and well wishes are greatly appreciated during this trial. Because of various complicated reasons our mom does not have life insurance. We greatly appreciate any and all assistance to help with funeral expenses since the doctors have run out of treatment options and there is not much else they can do for her.
Dad has asked me to share his greatest appreciation with everyone. Last week was the hardest week of my life and it doesn't necessarily get easier from here. Having the help that we've had and the financial burden of the funeral almost completely taken care of is a wonderful relief on all of us. Both the visitation and funeral were beautiful and we were incredibly happy to see so many familiar faces as well as some new ones that mom knew so well. I know she would be blown away by all the ways the people she has impacted have helped out her family during these last several months. We do plan to keep the go fund me up for a bit longer as we are almost to our goal. I've watched the kids get excited every time we reached a milestone. All of them who are able to understand check every day. I truly believe that this has given them some hope. Monday was both heartbreaking and wonderful at the same time. Our family feels closer than ever before, but the circumstances that bring us that closeness are not the most favorable. I know that we will continue to grow close through out this holiday season and because of mom, for the rest of our lives.
As we strive to reach the end financial goal, Dad wanted me to let everyone know that he feels so blessed and so loved. He tells me everyday that mom is the reason he dedicated his life to helping people with disabilities and that in many ways she saved him. I've learned that many people have been impacted by my dads line of work, but it's all because of who my mom was. I can't help but to think what a humble legacy to leave behind. Dad has also said that he wishes he could thank each of you individually. Although he has yet to post himself, he did want me to express his desire to find the right words and plans to write something about mom soon.
Finally, as we plan to keep this page open for just a while longer, we all want to share that any donations more than our goal is going directly towards a headstone for my mom. Our hope is to have one on her grave by mothers day of the new year.
Again, thank you all for anything and everything. Thank you for helping us in our time of great need and loving us the way that my mother loved many of you. I am truly touched and so thankful for all the help and the perspective that this entire process has given me, let alone the rest of our family.
Thank you. <3
5:00pm-8:00pm Sunday December 4, 2016
Soller-Baker Funeral Home
400 Twyckenham Blvd
Lafayette IN, 47909
1:00pm Monday December 5, 2016
St. Lawrence Catholic Church
1916 Meharry St.
Lafayette IN, 47904
Thank you all for your support. Your generosity has been greatly appreciated.
We are so thankful for all the donations. I can't explain how much relief that brings to us, knowing that mom will be cared for as she enters into her next life. The words 'thank you' just don't seem to be enough. But still, Thank you. We are blessed.