Sue's Wish/Memorial Fund
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On June 24th of this year, not only 2 months ago, our mother was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. Unfortunately this cancer has spread from her breast, to her liver, chest, lungs, bones and where ever else it may have possibly invaded since diagnosis.
Unfortunately, this cancer is extremely aggresive and just a few months ago, we were speaking about my mother starting to set up her funeral arrangements/payment at Williams Funeral home, unfortunately these arrangements never happened as soon after she was given this terrible diagnosis.
This diagnosis has come as a terrible shock to us all, and hearing that their is no cure and our mother will be taken from us in a short amount of time is something our hearts still can not bare. Each and every day we watch her fight, fight for another day, and when her vitals are so low that the doctors have deemed it to be her last days, she breaks out and continues to fight. Just 4 weeks ago we were told that this was the end, her vitals were so low, her heart was working overtime, her lungs were swollen so badly and her liver was shutting down, and just 5 days later she is being released from hospital ready to fight another day.
Although my sisters and I hate to go this route, unfortunately we are left with no other option and we do not want our mother knowing. The last thing we want as she continues to fight this battle is for her to feel as if she is a burden.
She has not walked on her own in months, she often needs assistance to use the bathroom as both her bowels and bladder have shut down on a couple occassions, her hands are so weak that she is unable to feed herself properly, but just recently we have added a roll to her spoons, the chemo therapy has damaged her throat and mouth so bad that she wasn't able to eat for several days, nor drink, she has been hospitilized for a few weeks until she can eat solids, and currently has been starting to eat purred foods(and she actually enjoys them) lol. The chemo therapy has now stopped as the doctors believe it is killing her quicker than the cancer is and we want her to live her last days pain free, where the chemo was causing her terrible pain. I know this breaks all of our hearts, but unfortunately unless some sort of miracle brushes her by, my mother may be called home to be with her son earlier than we expected, so as per doctor's suggestions, we need her arrangements set in stone immediately.
My mother has always wanted to be buried with her son Giles, who passed away in 1979, and today we sadly found out that this is not possible as he is within a "baby" plot. So, my sisters and I came up with an alternative, but with this alternative also comes with cost.
The day after my mother leaves us, our brother will be unearthed and transported to the creamatorium to be with our mother, they will be cremated as one. They will then be placed within a single urn, where we will then hold a service for the two of them at once. This is something we NEVER thought we would have to do, and my mother always thought she could be with her son, so as per her wishes we are going to make it happen. The one thing in life that my mother spoke of often was being with her baby, and no matter what, us girls and her family are ensuring her wishes are granted. Also, my mother was never able to be there for my brother, be there for his funeral and in spirit she will be there for both.
We ask that if you can not make a financial contribution to please attend her benefit at Fort Erie Golf on October 2nd @ 3pm. It is unfortunate that it has come to this, but it has and the pain that we are all dealing with is unfathomable. Our hearts break each and every day, and all we can do is pray for more days.
The total for my mothers arrangements with my brother is $10000. This is $10000 that my mother, nor my sisters have at this time. So, our original plan of just hosting a benefit in her honor with just cards and well wishes went out the door and is now going to be a benefit/fundraiser to assist with these costs as well as this Gofundme page for those who are unable to attend but wish to contribute. The $10000 does not include a stone, nor the celebration of life that we will be holding in place of a funeral.
My mother does have life insurance, it is minimal and will take 4 weeks after she has left us to come in and will likely just cover the stone and her celebration of life which is why we haven't included that price in the funding process.
This will remain secret so I beg of you to please DO NOT mention this Gofundme page or benefit to my mother as I am sure if she knew ahead of time, she would shy away from it.
I look forward to seeing you all, any questions please do not hesitate to ask. Also, the event will remain private so if by any chance she gets back on a computer, she does not see it. Please feel free to add friends or family who you think would love to attend.
Any contribution is greatly appreciated, we know that these days are hard, so even just $5 adds up pretty quick.
Thank You from the bottom of our hearts,
Melisa, Marie and Mindy
Unfortunately, this cancer is extremely aggresive and just a few months ago, we were speaking about my mother starting to set up her funeral arrangements/payment at Williams Funeral home, unfortunately these arrangements never happened as soon after she was given this terrible diagnosis.
This diagnosis has come as a terrible shock to us all, and hearing that their is no cure and our mother will be taken from us in a short amount of time is something our hearts still can not bare. Each and every day we watch her fight, fight for another day, and when her vitals are so low that the doctors have deemed it to be her last days, she breaks out and continues to fight. Just 4 weeks ago we were told that this was the end, her vitals were so low, her heart was working overtime, her lungs were swollen so badly and her liver was shutting down, and just 5 days later she is being released from hospital ready to fight another day.
Although my sisters and I hate to go this route, unfortunately we are left with no other option and we do not want our mother knowing. The last thing we want as she continues to fight this battle is for her to feel as if she is a burden.
She has not walked on her own in months, she often needs assistance to use the bathroom as both her bowels and bladder have shut down on a couple occassions, her hands are so weak that she is unable to feed herself properly, but just recently we have added a roll to her spoons, the chemo therapy has damaged her throat and mouth so bad that she wasn't able to eat for several days, nor drink, she has been hospitilized for a few weeks until she can eat solids, and currently has been starting to eat purred foods(and she actually enjoys them) lol. The chemo therapy has now stopped as the doctors believe it is killing her quicker than the cancer is and we want her to live her last days pain free, where the chemo was causing her terrible pain. I know this breaks all of our hearts, but unfortunately unless some sort of miracle brushes her by, my mother may be called home to be with her son earlier than we expected, so as per doctor's suggestions, we need her arrangements set in stone immediately.
My mother has always wanted to be buried with her son Giles, who passed away in 1979, and today we sadly found out that this is not possible as he is within a "baby" plot. So, my sisters and I came up with an alternative, but with this alternative also comes with cost.
The day after my mother leaves us, our brother will be unearthed and transported to the creamatorium to be with our mother, they will be cremated as one. They will then be placed within a single urn, where we will then hold a service for the two of them at once. This is something we NEVER thought we would have to do, and my mother always thought she could be with her son, so as per her wishes we are going to make it happen. The one thing in life that my mother spoke of often was being with her baby, and no matter what, us girls and her family are ensuring her wishes are granted. Also, my mother was never able to be there for my brother, be there for his funeral and in spirit she will be there for both.
We ask that if you can not make a financial contribution to please attend her benefit at Fort Erie Golf on October 2nd @ 3pm. It is unfortunate that it has come to this, but it has and the pain that we are all dealing with is unfathomable. Our hearts break each and every day, and all we can do is pray for more days.
The total for my mothers arrangements with my brother is $10000. This is $10000 that my mother, nor my sisters have at this time. So, our original plan of just hosting a benefit in her honor with just cards and well wishes went out the door and is now going to be a benefit/fundraiser to assist with these costs as well as this Gofundme page for those who are unable to attend but wish to contribute. The $10000 does not include a stone, nor the celebration of life that we will be holding in place of a funeral.
My mother does have life insurance, it is minimal and will take 4 weeks after she has left us to come in and will likely just cover the stone and her celebration of life which is why we haven't included that price in the funding process.
This will remain secret so I beg of you to please DO NOT mention this Gofundme page or benefit to my mother as I am sure if she knew ahead of time, she would shy away from it.
I look forward to seeing you all, any questions please do not hesitate to ask. Also, the event will remain private so if by any chance she gets back on a computer, she does not see it. Please feel free to add friends or family who you think would love to attend.
Any contribution is greatly appreciated, we know that these days are hard, so even just $5 adds up pretty quick.
Thank You from the bottom of our hearts,
Melisa, Marie and Mindy
Organizer
Mindy Leveille
Organizer
Fort Erie, ON
