What Happened to Amiyah?
That is the question no one wants to know more than her mom and dad Elisa and Andrew Polak. To digest this story we need you to understand us and our love for our children and please have faith in our family.
After giving birth to Amiyah,you know all the pain seems to just disappear when you stare into the eyes of whom you created. That over whelming desire to love and protect your newborn just floods every inch of you. Gosh she is beautiful. We just looked at her like a pair of stalkerish creeps. All our nerves about Mileena being potentially jealous of Amiyah went away quickly. Mileena loved her from first sight. Constantly asking for kisses and wanting to touch her. "Just softly mommy" she would say. "Let me see her eyes daddy" Mileena would chant until we lowered to her level to see. Amiyah's eyes are a big deal for us. You see I (mommy) have wanted a blue eyed blonde baby for a while now and once we seen that Amiyah had brunette hair we automatically assumed she would have brown eyes. She fooled us. Those beautiful eyes are a clear blue.
Life seemed perfect.
We got a new family car to travel more comfortably and safely for our babies.
Mileena was a big sister and loving every moment of it.
We had our complete little family. We even jokingly came up with the names TeamBlueEyes and TeamBrownEyes. Mileena would sing to her sister when she cried for a bottle we giggled and laughed at how much cuter her cry sounded compared to Mileena's. Everyday just felt like a step closer to our next goal and dream of becoming a family in our very own home. We got our credit scores in a great place, money saving up, and jobs that are wonderful. I just remember laying next to Amiyah in her Rock and play at night and taking the time to pray to God,not to ask for anything,but to thank Him for giving us such happiness and health in our life.
When Amiyah made one month we were proud. We had a system set up on who would sleep next to Amiyah on week days and weekends. We had each other's backs when it came to bottle feeding and bottle cleaning. We loved the outfit changes and daddy gave better baths than mommy did. We were all a team we knew what to expect and we were prepared. Even Mileena took part in wanting to help feed Amiyah and wipe her mouth clean. The joy we would have watching them together was amazing. If Amiyah had play time Mileena was there to talk to her, if she was in her rock and play Mileena would play peek -a-boo and I could swear the first giggle from Amiyah would be do to Mileena constantly making her smile.
Sadly not all happiness lasts forever.
On June 4th,2016
Amiyah went into what the first ER called cardiac arrest after aspirating her milk. They called it a near miss (SIDS),
According to this hospital it took
7 minutes of CPR to get Amiyah back.
Due to lack of oxygen she has suffered brain damage resulting in seizures and strokes.
What hat happened to Amiyah?
After stabilizing her they transferred her to a Children's Hospital with an intensive care unit more equipped to help her.
Have you ever had that pitfall feeling when you literally get so scared you feel your heart stop? Usually it's just for a second or a moment. This is not that. Our hearts died in the hospital with Amiyah and have stayed in that pitfall.
Less than 24 hours this life shattering event turned into a nightmare. The Dr. at this hospital gave a very different diagnosis falsely accusing my husband and I of non-accidental trauma. For legal reasons we can not discuss much details. However, if you watch the link below you will get a very vivid picture of what we are being falsely accused of.
Have you felt the punch yet?
It keeps coming.
DCFS was called on us within the 24 hours we were interviewed, our home searched, pictures taken, daughter Mileena interviewed and taken to the hospital for a physical and XRays. Both Amiyah and Mileena have no broken bones, no bruising, no scars, no fractures, no lacerations, no signs of mal nutrition or neglect and they still removed them from our custody.
Amiyah as well as her sister and grandfather share a history of brain abnormalities. There are many known diseases that can cause similar symptoms of what happened to Amiyah.
However, the doctors feel they found the answer and are sticking with it. Mean while no further testing is being ran no other answers are being searched for. Our daughter is fighting for her life and no one is looking for more answers because they feel they found it.
When we request other tests or surgeries to help potentially improve or help Amiyah they are over ruled hospital claiming it needs to be approved by DCFS.
Meanwhile our daughter suffers. She has had an ET Tube for a month now. The hospital does not agree with a trach for our daughter. They reccomend Hospice instead.
Mind you our daughter is very much alive. She takes breaths on her own the ventilator set just as back up support and has not been needed in over 2 weeks. She can urinate and have bowls on her own. Pass gas no problem, move arms,legs,and head. Her eyes open and are reactive to light. When you speak to her she moves more which to me lets me believe she can hear. She responds to touch and even crinkles her toes if you tickle her feet. She also coughs on and off.
All of these things did not come back at once it took time. Everyday she becomes a little stronger.
However without a gag reflex or cornial reflex the doctors are choosing to withdrawal her life opposed to fighting for her or even simply waiting for her to heal.
We will NEVER choose death for our daughters. For as long as they choose to fight we will fight even harder for them.
Sadly, since we can not come to an agreement with the doctors and because they involved DCFS we now are forced to go before a judge and plead our case on why Amiyah should have a trach over Hospice. It's up to a judge to decide her fate.
It is the most terrifying thing in life to be told have no choice on the life and future for your daughter. You can only be heard.
You know they say that child birth is the most painful thing anyone could ever feel.
I say watching your child pass away and return is more painful.
Even more painful than that is being falsely accused of being the monsters who did this to your baby.
Even more painful than that is someone telling you that you can't have the choice if your baby can live or die.
How is that possible?
How is any of this possible?
We didn't harm our child we could never. We love her........
We did what any parent would do.
Please change your mind please dont do this sobbing we begged for them not to put this death sentence on our child. Give her a chance have hope in her.
They still sent out the letter.
We have sat in her room everyday since June 5th,2016.
Most days we beg her to wake up.
Some days we try to stay happy hoping that positive energy might make her respond better. We talk to her, sing to her, hold her hand, pray for her, learned how to bathe her, change her diaper, what all her machines mean, what her ventilator means and how to use it, how to feed her, what meds she is on and what they do, learned physical therapy and work with her daily, the list goes on and on. We are determined to fight for her. No matter the judgemental stares, no matter how much the doctors don't want to say much we push to be in rounds to learn as much as possible.
Do you know what fear is?
It's getting your daughter baptized before being forced to leave for court because you are unsure if she will pass while you are gone.
"Will this be the last time I hold my daughter?"
Will this be the last time we watch her peacefully sleep?
Will Mileena understand?
Can we save our family? Who will help us?
We know our family and friends who truly know us know our love for our daughters. They know our character.
We need your help.
Amiyah deserves justice
She deserves proper testing and answers to help her condition.
No we are begging for your help.
We need to save Amiyah not only from this illness but from this death sentence as well.
We need to prove to court that other things are possible to cause this type of injury. We need to prove to them that there is hope for Amiyah. In order to do that we need a second and maybe third opinions. As well as experts.
It is frightingly expensive and with only one of us still working we can not possibly do it alone. The consequences without a good defense is to great. Mileena and Amiyah could potentially end up in a foster system.
Amiyah could be put on Hospice.
We can be falsely accused and put in jail for a long time.
We understand this is hard to digest.
Please research and watch this link below. We are not alone there are others around the world living the same nightmare we are. Especially for those who do not know us. All we ask is for you to believe in us. Believe in our family. Help us find out
What happened to Amiyah?
Today went very different than we expected. So the initial letter that was submitted to the judge was from the hospital we transferred from.
So now that Amiyah has a new team that is evaluating her the letter from her old hospital is INVALID.
Meaning the DNR got thrown out but so did the tracheostomy.
They will wait for her new teams choice of action for her. Which is going to be discussed tomorrow in a care conference with us and the doctors.
I suppose it is good and bad news.
Good news because we still have time and bad because technically this hospital can still rule the same fate and we can wait for a judge to decide this whole mess again. However so far I am comfortable with Riley's and believe they are searching for ways to understand her and help her. So we will see.
All a waiting game.
The biggest mystery is how we got transferred before the court date when this hearing was to decide a transfer as well.
It went from only a judge could decide to hey we are getting Amiyah to a new hospital right away.
In my heart I know it was due to God.
He works in mysterious ways and because of all the prayers He heard and got our Amiyah out of that place.
Thank you all who continue to pray and care for our family. The messages, hugs, prayers, love has not gone unnoticed and we appreciate it all. ❤️
We are blessed with another day with our Amiyah.
It's the day before our court day and I want to focus on our Amiyah.
I want to focus on calling our Mileena.
However we are forced into focusing on paper work and providing information to help the decision hopefully be in our favor.
I do not know what more pain tomorrow will bring and I pray it brings nothing but joy. However joy has been rare for a while now. Joy is watching Amiyah open her eyes and try to focus on us. Joy is holding her while she rests.
Today our Amiyah turned 3 months! That is a blessing
That is joy.
However Amiyah spent her day with a repeat MRI and Nuero Storming. So her face swells and becomes red it is a very heart breaking thing to watch. She repeated an EEG and hopefully that will show if her seizures have stopped too. We await patiently for answers and ask for prays of healing and prayers to keep our family together.
Yesterday we were approved for an emergency transfer to Riley's Children's Hospital in Indianapolis. Although we are over joyed to be finally taking a step in a positive direction we know the journey is far from over. So far the Doctors are looking into her history and trying to learn all about her. We can already see a BIG difference between both hospitals but we can see some similarities as well. Our court date has not changed that is still scheduled for July 13th so our biggest fear has not passed. We pray for healing we pray for answers. Thank you for all who continue to pray for Amiyah God hears us.
(I still can't believe someone else can decide such a thing for our baby)
Please pray for our Amiyah. Think of her when you go to church. Pray for her safety and health. Pray that our Amiyah gets the help and answers she deserves.
God bless you all who continue to share our story and believe in our family. We are grateful for each and everyone of you. ❤️
Really that's your question. Did you not read the story. Medical care is expensive and so are lawyers and they only have one income, I can't believe what this family is going through and you add insult to injury! Humble yourself and if you have nothing good to say then don't say anything at all
How dare someone question the amount of money they hope to raise! Amiyah has been there a month! Do you know how expensive those hospital bills are going to be?? Not to mention lawyer fees? Sometimes a good lawyer makes you put down a big retainer see to start. Either donate or do not it is your choice but don't insult and question someone on the amount they are hoping to raise!
I absolutely LOVE YOU BFF & hate that this is happening to you... Anyone who's been blessed to meet not only you, but your family as well know how much of an awesome person/woman... MOTHER you are... As if this isn't a hard time for you, I see that devil is working OVER TIME... Don't let him kill your spirits. Amiyah is gonna be ok I know it... God wouldn't put on you more than you can handle... I'll keep you all in my prayers... If you need/want me I'm HERE HERE... Love you
Lissy, my heart breaks for you all. I know there is no possible way you or Drew would ever hurt either one of those babies. They are your world. I am here for you. I continue to pray for you daily. You never leave my mind. Do not give up hope or faith. I love you.
Pamela obviously you have never heard " if you don't have anything nice to say don't say ANYTHING at all." This family is going through a devastating, tragic even in their life! I live and breath for my children I couldn't reg l I even FATHOM what they are feeling right now. Live as a Christian helping and praying for those in need. God bless and Pamela I pray that you NEVER have to experience this devastation in your life. You guys stay strong and don't let the cruel world change what an amazing family you are. I'm praying for you ALL, everyday! Trust in God and miracles.
Roxi ziggy how dare you make an assumption like that! You have no idea who or how these people live. You are one to talk Ha and you're a NURSE! You are the exact reason why I changed my profession. You make the good nurses look bad! You should be ashamed of yourself! Your degree doesn't make you successful, what you choose to do with it does. And as we all can see your bedside manner is shit!
I will be a prayer warrior for your sweet baby girl, God bless you during this awful time. I pray that she continue to improve each day until she is completely healed and that the court rules in your favor. I will pray that she will receive the proper tests to find out what is wrong and cure her as soon as possible. I pray for strength for your family and that God will comfort you. This will be my prayer everyday unti she is healed. With God all things are possible!
Dear Pamela, My family just buried my grandma. It was the most awful thing and I would give anything to have her back. Do you know HOW MUCH MONEY WE NEEDED TO BURY HER???? 15,000!! We took the cheapest everything possible. Do you know how much it's going to cost because she was in the hospital a week leading up to her passing? I cannot believe that with tragedy their is so much negativity. They are grieving for the loss of their child. They are wondering how they will go on knowing that someone they cared deeply is gone from this world. Those dates will be reminders. The holidays will be one less. Yet, they have to deal with people like you who should mind their business. If you don't like something scroll and Move on. Keep that for the next time you choose to belittle someone with negative questions.
My donation was anonymous but my voice won't be. Pamala your rude. How dare you question why she has asked for so much money. Medical is not cheap. NICU is not cheap. Courts lawyers and so on. One income to try to cover all plus take care of the rest you should never ask why do you need so much money. Blessings to this family and their struggles.
Hi, I don't know you but I am so sorry for what you are going through! Definitely in my thoughts and prayers! I cant do a monetary donation but believe me if I could I would in a heartbeat and not even think twice. I am extremely sorry, this has to be sooo hard! I can't even imagine how you all feel! I hope are pray you get help and can get the judge to order more testing and that your precious Amiyah gets healed and better. Much Prayers, Shaina
Roxi...Roxi...why are you doing this??? Is it because you have a GO FUND ME page too??? I know you don't even have one donation and it's been up for about 14 days. That must make you upset?? Please don't take out your hate on someone as nice as the Polak family. We all love them and support them. It's her friends, family, people she worked for that are donating and they can spend their money however they want. All of your statements about Lissy are lies and you really need to stop accusing her of things that are not true.
FYI these people are on medicad