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Susan Mansfield  Marconi Ward, ENG
My name is Susan and I am trying to fund my first born and only son receive the much needed help needs to address his mental health issues and substance misuse issues. My son is 21 years old and has not had any semblance of a life since he was about 16 years old. He is very reclusive and suffers from extreme social anxiety as well as depression and was diagnosed with schizoid Personality Disorder (this was during his 3rd mental health hospital admission after a psychotic episode, and I question the diagnosis). He self medicates to feel

less anxious and more "normal" and stop all the thoughts in his head. Due to this he has an addiction problem and at the moment his tolerance is so high and he consumes more and more to feel "normal" or to sleep that we fear an unintentional overdose.
My son's problems at an early age from the emotional abuse he received from his father who was very controlling and emotionally absent most of his childhood. My son also felt ostracised at school and felt that he never fit in.
After many traumatic experiences and being homeless twice, his quality of life is very poor at the moment. He is receiving some help but the mental health service is very poor quality offering him appointments every few months to discuss medication.


There is currently a 2 year waiting list for "talking therapies" i.e. meetings with a psychologist or psychiatrist, and government funded rehabs will not engage with him until he is several months clean. However, the reason he takes the drugs is because of his emotional and mental issues which need addressing either before or during simultaneous drug counselling in order for him to feel confident enough with new strategies to cope without the drugs.
We need funding for private counselling and rehab which is very costly.
This is not an issue to be ashamed of and my love and desire to help my son is more importanat than anything else; therefore I have decided to ask my friends and family and the public to help us!
Much gratitude to you all for supporting us in this very long and difficult journey. It would mean so much for my son to know that there are people who care about his well being.
Thank you!
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Update 15
Posted by Susan Mansfield
3 months ago
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Not much to update just that I sincerely thank all those kind hearted people who have donated and do not wish more from them, I only ask them to spread the word so that we can raise awareness and funds.
My son is not improving and in his words, he is "dead inside" and if he had money he would look for and pick a therapist suited for his needs rather than been swept under the carpet by the NHS.
Christmas is a time of family, fun and togetherness if we believe the media. However, for many, like my son and indeed myself, Christmas id a time to reflect how sad and lonely and dysfunctional our lives are. It will not be a happy time and a time when people fall deeper into despair and will drink more, take more drugs, be more depressed and for some there will be a dire end to the holidays as suicides and accidental overdoses are much higher during this "festive" time"
Please share on your social media, your co workers, your family and friends, and also churches and communities if you are of such belief.
I am a very isolated woman, with limited funds and a humble life who is trying all I can and do what I can to care and help all my 3 children, but my son's need is an urgency to me as I do not want to see his young life end.
Thank you for all of you also, who care and keep us in your hearts, it does mean a lot to me!
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Update 14
Posted by Susan Mansfield
4 months ago
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I just thought I would post an update that all of those who have donated, the money is safely put away and waiting until we have enough to invest in some therapy. There is no point starting now since we would not be able to pay for many sessions with the amount we have so far and it would not be a good thing to start only to stop too soon.
As you know, my so has received very poor mental health support, and drug support as well. Therefore, I have sent a complaint to the mental health team today. My son was promised regular appoints every 4 weeks but it has been 10 weeks since he was last seen.
As you can imagine this is very disheartening and only encourages a person to continue with their negative coping mechanisms and in his case, self medicating.
I urge all of you who may have people at work or in their families who are charitable and sympathetic, to please pass our plight on and spread the word as this plea has not been very successful.
My son is very isolated and gets virtually no support. I am trying to get him private health care because no one should feel like their life is not worth living or that they are insignificant or that they should have never existed.
I promised my son and myself, after his overdose, that I would help create a life worth living.
Thank you for supporting us and please help me gain more support by telling people about this campaign.
Before we were broken, I want them back!
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Update 13
Posted by Susan Mansfield
4 months ago
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I just thought I would post an update that all of those who have donated, the money is safely put away and waiting until we have enough to invest in some therapy. There is no point starting now since we would not be able to pay for many sessions with the amount we have so far and it would not be a good thing to start only to stop too soon.
As you know, my so has received very poor mental health support, and drug support as well. Therefore, I have sent a complaint to the mental health team today. My son was promised regular appoints every 4 weeks but it has been 10 weeks since he was last seen.
As you can imagine this is very disheartening and only encourages a person to continue with their negative coping mechanisms and in his case, self medicating.
I urge all of you who may have people at work or in their families who are charitable and sympathetic, to please pass our plight on and spread the word as this plea has not been very successful.
My son is very isolated and gets virtually no support. I am trying to get him private health care because no one should feel like their life is not worth living or that they are insignificant or that they should have never existed.
I promised my son and myself, after his overdose, that I would help create a life worth living.
Thank you for supporting us and please help me gain more support by telling people about this campaign.
Before we were broken. I want it back!
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Update 12
Posted by Susan Mansfield
6 months ago
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This funding process makes me very uncomfortable but I must get back on the band wagon and try to seek support. It is not easy to feel that I am begging or complaining, but a mother will do anything for her children. My child needs more than I can provide and he is a good person who deserves some help.
After my son's overdose, there were a couple weeks of intense emotions and uneasiness. There was no professional follow up and very little support except daily duty of care calls from the staff at his supported housing. This was for a week or two to ensure that he was ok every day.
Two weeks ago my son finally got his next mental health appointment. To explain how this works, it is not a regular appointment with a psychiatrist or psychologist. It is an appointment with a trainee doctor, usual a doctor training to to a G.P. and they are doing their stint in mental health (usually for 6 months). Each time my son sees a different doctor. This means there is no continuity, no relationship, no familiarity. Each appointment is focused mainly on medication. However, this appointment seemed to go in a more positive direction when the doctor offered to see my son every 4 weeks, instead of the standard 4-6 month appointments. He said he would request that each appointment be with him to help the process of "therapy". He seemed very reasonable but then said he must consult with his superior about his action plan. My son seemed positive and engaging. Then in barged the senior consultant all guns blazing telling my son that she can change his life but it will be her way or no way. She told him zero drugs and zero alcohol and then when he comes back in a months time and tells her he has done this, she will start evaluating his prescribed medication. We tried to interject but to no avail. My point was how was he meant to this on his own? How can he do that with all his anxieties and dependencies? Seriously if he could go away and just stop because she told him to, we would not have the problems we have, no addict would have any issues, they would simply just stop!
Later the anger of her brash and unyielding approach hit a deep cord of fear and resentment and my son felt defeated. How does someone who has not learnt how to deal with emotions, someone who has become dependent on substances to "cope" deal with such emotions? They will turn to substances. And though my son has just been drinking a few beers a few times a week and only using his medication and his own sourced benzos recently, his instinct was "I want to drink, a lot! I want to take a lot of drugs. I do not want to talk to anyone or go anywhere, I just want to be blacked out or numb." My son was fearful because of the change the doctor demanded from him, virtually on his own. My son was angry because she did not consider his personality or history because she has never met him before. My son felt that life will always be hard without actually living and that the odds will always be against him. He did not want to talk to me, he did not want to see me, he did not want to watch TV or listen to music. He wanted nothingness. A very dangerous state of mind for someone who recently nearly lost his life to an overdose.
He DID drink a lot of spirits and take more drugs than usual. Eventually this eased up and now he is getting back to the state he was in before the appointment.
This is why I am doing this campaign. YES, he takes drugs. YES, he has made and still makes bad decisions. YES, he is vulnerable. YES, he wants a better life. NO, he can not just stop. NO, it isn't so easy to just stop. NO, he does not like poor care. NO, he can not change without good psychological, medical, emotional, practical and professional care.
I believe that this can happen on the NHS, but it is very hit and miss and rare. Unfortunately, we have had too many misses. We need to try the private route. A doctor that will listen to my sons "reasons" behind the drug use, the issues in his past and find the right way forward that is targeted at his particular personality and needs.
If you can not help, can you please pass on to colleagues, churches, groups, friends, family, social media, etc so that we can raise not only the funds for my son, but also raise awareness to the needs of many that are not being met by out mental health care system?
I thank you all in advance and apologise for the repeated requests to help.
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£416 of £10k goal

Raised by 15 people in 10 months
Created May 22, 2016
HK
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Heidi King
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HR
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Henrietta Ross
4 months ago
SM
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Sharon Murray
4 months ago

My thoughts are with you and your son. I lost my beautiful son David last year, he was only 26. No one can understand the battle families go through to get the much needed care unless you are experiencing it yourself. I pray that your son will receive the help he needs to defeat this devastating illness. We all need to work together to crush the stigma of addiction and bring the focus of this health crisis to the forefront so that it can finally receive the funding and attention it deserves. Recovery is real and very possible. Stay strong.

JC
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Jelena Charybina
7 months ago
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