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My name is Elisa, and I don't normally ask for money, from strangers or people I know. A friend who has used this site before recommended that I try this to see if I could get help through this site with everything going on, I have nothing to lose so here goes.. My mom had been really sick for years. She has liver cirrhosis and auto immune due to her illness. Despite everything she ever went through she was a strong woman, always helping others where she could. She was always there for family and even if you weren't related she treated you like you were. She was an amazing woman, and most of my life I took care of her while she raised me. She put everyone before herself and never expected anything in return. She was my world and she's gone...
A month ago today, she was admitted into the ER, we thought for another visit... This time she didn't come out. She declined fast, within a day she was on life support. Just in the short time things got really bad, people from all over came to see her, people from her past that I never knew abou that she had a great impact on in their lives. It was amazing. To know the amount of people, and meet just a fraction of so many, then the ones who couldn't be there and called and prayed, was mind blowing she did so much.
She was septic. The chances of recovery were very slim but with the praying and hope our way, she came off the ventilator. The Dr's said she would more than likely not come out of this. She is just waiting because she is so weak. She couldn't talk and when she did it made very little sense. The time came to decide whether or not to switch to palliative care came and it was the hardest thing for me to discuss with family and decide. But I knew her wishes long before... she didn't want to live on tube and machines. The day we were considering the care she passed the next day in the morning. My best friend is gone.
Before this visit she had been in and out of the hospital several times in the last 2 months. There was a lot of expenses we had to account for in that time and a lot of missed work, equaling less money to go around. I have a few health conditions on my end as well that with the stress put me in the hospital too and more work was missed. My boyfriend, my biggest support through all of this took on the responsibility of multiple jobs to help keep us on track. But it kept stacking. Mom's medicine, my medicine, Dr visits, Co pays for medical at home visits not covered through our insurance, the list goes on. He tries, but we are being knocked further behind rather than moving forward. The biggest part of the pressure is that my mom never established a life insurance policy, and the options for help on her final arrangements are limited through the state. I lost my disability help around the same time this all started, about 3 months ago because of me working more hours than allotted. Now with the decrease in hours I can't begin to save in time, I'm still catching up. I have refused to go to the hospital lately after a few seizures because I can't afford the lack of hours and pay. I need help both in helping us catch back up and helping my family to afford to say goodbye to my mother the way she wanted and deserves to. I've had so much support from my family friends in ways they can, I'm grateful beyond what I can express. I'm trying to find another job on top of my current job but with everything going on I can't think straight much right now with my mom gone, I can't get the basic stuff done. I don't have anything to place for collateral for loans, I've sold everything of value I have to help and I don't have what we need to get by. I started this fund me site to try and get help not only to help with her final preparation but a service as well, and to help us recover a bit from everything at once. I was afraid to seem unprepared for this but the truth is we were, and anyone who feels the need to judge me for that have never walked the path that my mother and myself walked alone, together. By passing this along to people you might know or helping in anyway you can we thank you in advance. The hardest part of everything is having to say goodbye. I keep thinking that I will wake up from this long, painful nightmare and she'll be in her room, waiting for her morning coffee, telling me to have a good day at work and that she loves me... I need that right now more than I feel I need my next breath.I'm lucky enough to have a great support system where many didn't even have that. For anyone that can help with anything... Thank you.
A month ago today, she was admitted into the ER, we thought for another visit... This time she didn't come out. She declined fast, within a day she was on life support. Just in the short time things got really bad, people from all over came to see her, people from her past that I never knew abou that she had a great impact on in their lives. It was amazing. To know the amount of people, and meet just a fraction of so many, then the ones who couldn't be there and called and prayed, was mind blowing she did so much.
She was septic. The chances of recovery were very slim but with the praying and hope our way, she came off the ventilator. The Dr's said she would more than likely not come out of this. She is just waiting because she is so weak. She couldn't talk and when she did it made very little sense. The time came to decide whether or not to switch to palliative care came and it was the hardest thing for me to discuss with family and decide. But I knew her wishes long before... she didn't want to live on tube and machines. The day we were considering the care she passed the next day in the morning. My best friend is gone.
Before this visit she had been in and out of the hospital several times in the last 2 months. There was a lot of expenses we had to account for in that time and a lot of missed work, equaling less money to go around. I have a few health conditions on my end as well that with the stress put me in the hospital too and more work was missed. My boyfriend, my biggest support through all of this took on the responsibility of multiple jobs to help keep us on track. But it kept stacking. Mom's medicine, my medicine, Dr visits, Co pays for medical at home visits not covered through our insurance, the list goes on. He tries, but we are being knocked further behind rather than moving forward. The biggest part of the pressure is that my mom never established a life insurance policy, and the options for help on her final arrangements are limited through the state. I lost my disability help around the same time this all started, about 3 months ago because of me working more hours than allotted. Now with the decrease in hours I can't begin to save in time, I'm still catching up. I have refused to go to the hospital lately after a few seizures because I can't afford the lack of hours and pay. I need help both in helping us catch back up and helping my family to afford to say goodbye to my mother the way she wanted and deserves to. I've had so much support from my family friends in ways they can, I'm grateful beyond what I can express. I'm trying to find another job on top of my current job but with everything going on I can't think straight much right now with my mom gone, I can't get the basic stuff done. I don't have anything to place for collateral for loans, I've sold everything of value I have to help and I don't have what we need to get by. I started this fund me site to try and get help not only to help with her final preparation but a service as well, and to help us recover a bit from everything at once. I was afraid to seem unprepared for this but the truth is we were, and anyone who feels the need to judge me for that have never walked the path that my mother and myself walked alone, together. By passing this along to people you might know or helping in anyway you can we thank you in advance. The hardest part of everything is having to say goodbye. I keep thinking that I will wake up from this long, painful nightmare and she'll be in her room, waiting for her morning coffee, telling me to have a good day at work and that she loves me... I need that right now more than I feel I need my next breath.I'm lucky enough to have a great support system where many didn't even have that. For anyone that can help with anything... Thank you.
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