Cai Clayton's Memorial Fund

This is a page I'm setting up at the request of friends and family. My name is Chris Clayton. My wife, Cai (or Charlene as she was legally born) passed away suddenly in her sleep Saturday night. My son and daughter and I woke up to a gone spirit and a huge hole in our hearts that can never be filled. She and I have been married for 10 years, but together for almost 15. She was more than my wife and more than a mommy; she was my better half, my soulmate, my queen, and the best part of my kids lives. She kept us all happy when we were sad, reminded us to always be better than we are. She was so much to so many. 

She was also the Guild Master of the Comfy Pants Guild on World of Warcraft, Bronzebeard. It's funny, but we started the guild as kind of a joke and a way to try and meet like minded people. It became so much more and each and every member is like a part of our family. She went to school to become a vet tech after her chiuhaha passed away so she could save others. She has made me adopt numerous animals that she would "rescue" from the sides of the road around our house. Some were just scared, and others I had to get her supplies to help stitch up and heal. She was an extraordinary woman, and I am forever blessed to have had the honor and the privilage to call her my wife. 

For those of you that know me, you know just how much she kept me and those around us together. She made me give her my word to take care of our children and make sure they were okay if something should happen to her. It was a conversation we had on some random night years ago, but she knew that I would never break my word. So in honor of her and to fulfill my vow, I will make sure my children always remember her and that they will live long, sucessful and meaningful lives. 

I'm setting up this fundraiser/memorial for multiple reasons. Firstly, I don't know how to handle all of this. There was no warning, no goodbyes, no signs. It was a normal night where we went to bed together, I kissed her goodnight and fell asleep to her playing her iphone games. I woke up to my world broken, battered, a widow and single parent at 35. She was only 35 too. We always joked about how we had kids early so we would have to spend our later years making up for it once the kids were grown. Now, I'll never have that time. 

As much as this hurts, it also hurts that my son's birthday is December 24th with Christmas the next day. Cai made such a production of the event and she loved Christmas so much even before we were blessed with our son. When it was just our daughter and us we would decorate our apartment and later our homes in all the lights we could afford. She wasn't happy unless you could walk the entire house without ever turning on a switch. So this year, I'm not sure what to do. 

Okay, sorry if this rambles a bit but it said to explain who I am and why I'm doing this so I did. I'd like to use the money to help take care of our kids and our home. Any and all the money raised/donated/gifted etc will be used exclusively for that purpose. She didn't have any insurance and I don't know if we will approve for the county's assistance over the cremation costs. They gave me a list of all the things to take care of, and it's just so much. So, for everyone who is asking what they can do for us, this is all I've got so far. Oh, and since she loved animals so much I also decided that anything we don't need to muddle through the holidays and get us up on our feet again we will donate to local no-kill shelters to help the many animals she would have brought home and bandaged up if she could. 

Thank you for visiting and thank you for reading. Please hug those you love today, even if you're fighting, even if you're not. As my life has shown me, everything can change in a moment. God bless.