Our Quest for a Family
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This is our story...
I am the fourth of ten children. YES ten. And I always knew that I would be a mom.. I just never imagined it would be so hard. As an older child in the family I grew up helping care for my six younger siblings. I loved it!! The cooking, changing diapers, & playing dress up was always what made me happy.
We are a combined family who each lost a parent. I lost my father in a car accident at 7, & my siblings lost their mother in a car accident when they were all under 10. When our parents got married.. it was perfect! He had 4, we had 5, & one together got us to the magic number 10! Many of us were the same/close ages.. it was a modern day brady bunch! It was chaos at times, meals, holidays, & sharing bathrooms, yet absolute perfection & love.
When I married my husband in 2005, he had a beautiful 9yr old daughter from a previous marriage. They were my world! Being blessed to care for her and watch her grow was natural & amazing... yet I yearned for one of my own. We began trying right away. After a few years of no success, & after the sudden death of my step father, we decided to see a doctor. A fertility specialist. Months of test & scans for both of us & finally the results were in. We had less than 2% chance of 'natural conception'. We left the doctors office broken. My heart sank. My brothers and sisters were all having babies.. beautiful blessing!! And as each announcement came, my heart exploded with joy for them... and simultaneously broke for me. It hurt and I couldn't imaging why it was so hard for us to conceive. Growing up with a strong faith & a large amazing family, we turned to God as we knew we could not afford IVF. We both worked full time, but paycheck to paycheck didn't afford us the $1000 monthly payments to grow our family. I stayed strong & believed God would bless us & find a way.
We continued trying... naturally. It was ups and downs. Feeling so positive that 'this month would be the one' only to be so dissappointed when it wasn't. Almost 7 years & three failed pregnancies later, in 2012 we were pregnant! I was over the MOON!!! We waited for the ultrasound.... it was perfect! The little heartbeat & image on the screen were all our hearts desires. Of course we celebrated the news!! I thought to myself.. 'this is finally it! This one will stick!' We called our families & shared the news. WE WERE SO HAPPY.. WE WERE HAVING A BABY!!!
But it was only short lived..the next visit.. there wasn't a heartbeat.... & at ten weeks I had lost this one too. The devistation & sadness was more than I could bear. It not only broke my dreams & heart, but my world... & almost my marriage.
Fast forward to today.. here we are in 2015.. trying again!! It has taken a few years of seperation, soul searching, & a lot of healing to get to this point, but today we are more determined than ever. We are currently seeing a specialist again.. & I believe this is the time that will work!! I just turned 37 and know that my window of opportunity is now.. My clock is ticking louder than ever!!
We have managed to save, little by little, but we aren't quite there yet. We know we can do it this time!!
We are scheduling for October for this little baby. We know it will be expensive... But we know we will get there!
Thank you for taking the time to read our story... we are so hopeful that this time will be the one!! xox :)
Much Love -
Chad & Bethany
I am the fourth of ten children. YES ten. And I always knew that I would be a mom.. I just never imagined it would be so hard. As an older child in the family I grew up helping care for my six younger siblings. I loved it!! The cooking, changing diapers, & playing dress up was always what made me happy.
We are a combined family who each lost a parent. I lost my father in a car accident at 7, & my siblings lost their mother in a car accident when they were all under 10. When our parents got married.. it was perfect! He had 4, we had 5, & one together got us to the magic number 10! Many of us were the same/close ages.. it was a modern day brady bunch! It was chaos at times, meals, holidays, & sharing bathrooms, yet absolute perfection & love.
When I married my husband in 2005, he had a beautiful 9yr old daughter from a previous marriage. They were my world! Being blessed to care for her and watch her grow was natural & amazing... yet I yearned for one of my own. We began trying right away. After a few years of no success, & after the sudden death of my step father, we decided to see a doctor. A fertility specialist. Months of test & scans for both of us & finally the results were in. We had less than 2% chance of 'natural conception'. We left the doctors office broken. My heart sank. My brothers and sisters were all having babies.. beautiful blessing!! And as each announcement came, my heart exploded with joy for them... and simultaneously broke for me. It hurt and I couldn't imaging why it was so hard for us to conceive. Growing up with a strong faith & a large amazing family, we turned to God as we knew we could not afford IVF. We both worked full time, but paycheck to paycheck didn't afford us the $1000 monthly payments to grow our family. I stayed strong & believed God would bless us & find a way.
We continued trying... naturally. It was ups and downs. Feeling so positive that 'this month would be the one' only to be so dissappointed when it wasn't. Almost 7 years & three failed pregnancies later, in 2012 we were pregnant! I was over the MOON!!! We waited for the ultrasound.... it was perfect! The little heartbeat & image on the screen were all our hearts desires. Of course we celebrated the news!! I thought to myself.. 'this is finally it! This one will stick!' We called our families & shared the news. WE WERE SO HAPPY.. WE WERE HAVING A BABY!!!
But it was only short lived..the next visit.. there wasn't a heartbeat.... & at ten weeks I had lost this one too. The devistation & sadness was more than I could bear. It not only broke my dreams & heart, but my world... & almost my marriage.
Fast forward to today.. here we are in 2015.. trying again!! It has taken a few years of seperation, soul searching, & a lot of healing to get to this point, but today we are more determined than ever. We are currently seeing a specialist again.. & I believe this is the time that will work!! I just turned 37 and know that my window of opportunity is now.. My clock is ticking louder than ever!!
We have managed to save, little by little, but we aren't quite there yet. We know we can do it this time!!
We are scheduling for October for this little baby. We know it will be expensive... But we know we will get there!
Thank you for taking the time to read our story... we are so hopeful that this time will be the one!! xox :)
Much Love -
Chad & Bethany
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Bethany Elsmore Curry
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Phoenix, AZ
