A Tree and Gravestone for Sam
On August 6th, 2012 my husband and 10 1/2 year old son, Sam were in a car accident. My son suffered severe brain trauma and died the next day on August 7th. My husband suffered compound brakes on both arms.
We had just moved to CO to be close to our family. We had not found a job yet, and so when this happened my husband and I did not have jobs and this put us financially in a situation that we did not know how to deal with. Family helped us to have basics for a funeral and other's have helped us in countless ways.
I cannot express the hurt I feel every moment of every day not having Sam with us anymore. God has found ways to guide us and strengthen us and all we do is take it one moment at a time.
When I go to the graveyard and all there is, is a lump of dirt of where he has been buried and no gravestone my heart brakes. Everyday we drive by the accident sight and wish there could be something there to remind us of Sam in a good way. Our idea of putting a tree there would be in his honor in so many ways. Sam loved nature, he loved bugs and loved the outdoors. This tree would represent him in so many ways of his love for nature and help us as a family of knowing that his love for nature continues as this tree will continue to grow.
My husband is finally able to work but cannot lift heavy things and we are going on 7 1/2 months of missing our Sam and trying to just live one day at a time.
Our wish is to be able to have a gravestone for our Smilin Sam and for us to be able to plant a tree when his one year of his death comes around. The death of our son has made things so much harder, but as anyone who has lost a child, all you can do is take it one step at a time.
Thank you for taking time to read our families story. If there is anything that you take from our story I hope that it is to love and appreciate every moment of your life whether it be with your children or just friends. You never know when life will change forever and never, ever be the same.
A poem to my boy:
Mommy loves you so much, you are my pride and joy
No mother should ever have to walk this lonely and painful road
The passing of a beautiful child you know
Is just too heavy a load
Or maybe I am the lucky one?
For I had such a beautiful son:.
If time was mine and I had the choice
I would change not a second,
It would be this mother's choice
... For a chance to have you near me
The beauty of your lifetime
Was so pure and what a wonderful chance
To steal a ray of sunshine!
You are my darling Angel
And you've made me so proud
I'll scream it from the mountain-tops
And sing it way out loud
Hey guess what friends, I've got something to say
You can talk about my Angel
He's my existence every day:
~ Cara Veronica Doyle
