Our dream to have a family
Dreams. What are dreams? Dreams can be the job you want, or the car you want to drive. Dreams can be about who you want to marry, or where you want to live. Everyone has dreams. But of all dreams, I feel my husband and I have one of the simplest. To have a family, and to have the chance to share our lives, and offer our love, guidance, and values to an innocent life, one of God's true miracles.
First, let me tell you a little about the both of us. My name is Lindsay im 26 years old and My husbands name is Andrew he is 27 years old. We are both Veterans of the Army, and currently live in Salyersville, KY. I am pursuing a career in Dental Hygiene, and my husband in Criminal Justice. We have our own home, and 4 furry 4 legged children. Hank, Lilly, Gus, and Marley.
Our desire to become parents came at different stages in both of our lives. My husband has always known since he was little that one day he wanted a wife, and children. For me, it was a little later in life. I never thought about having children, or had the want to have children or even a husband for that matter, until my niece was born. The moment i held her and looked into her innocent and beautiful eyes i knew, at that very second one day i wanted to be a Mom.
For 3 years my husband and I tried and planned to start our family. We did everything from charting, tempting, and tracking my cycles to Ovulation test's, fertility tea's, diets, and vitamins. After no success on our own, we decided to see a Fertility Specialist. To our surprise we received heart breaking news. It seemed there were problems with the both of us, and that getting pregnant would not happen easily for us if it all. We were told my husbands count was literally 0% and for me, well i had a number of problems. At that point we decided to proceed with treatments and future appointments. Throughout this process, I have had to undergo several biopsies, scrapings, operations, treatments and many rounds of medications. My husband also had to begin taking multiple medications and shots. With much hope we continued on with this for awhile. Not long ago we went back to the Fertility Specialist to check on our progess with high hopes. Now, being told you will most likely not have the chance to have a baby is heart breaking, but to be told there is nothing more they can do to help is almost unbearable. And thats the news we were given. The medications had no effect on my husband, and i was also told that if i should ever get pregnant i would be high risk, and run the risk of something bad happening during delivery due to my past and current reproductive problems. I was advised against getting pregnant. Since our journey to parenthood started we have had many sleepless nights and many, many tears fallen. We have prayed and entrusted God with the path he has chosen for us. We have been blessed with having wonderful loving families to lean on and help us through this hard time. Their support and love for us is what helped pull us up from a very dark place. Until now, it was only us, our families, and a few very close family friends that knew of the hardship my husband and I were coping with.
After weighing all options we have decided IVF is our last option. We feel that even though we cannot conceive on our own, naturally the way the good Lord intended, that does not mean we cant be parents and try another method. It has broughten us closer together, and with that our desire to be parents much stronger. Our dream is to be able to have a family, Another life to love, guide, teach, and cherish. For me, I think becoming a mother would be the one thing in my life i would never fail, or give up on. For my husband, well he or she would be his miracle. We had an Art project our first semester of college, It was: draw a picture or make a collage of what you want most in your life. It could have been a bunch of pictures, or multiple things. My husband handed in a single picture. The picture was of a man sitting side by side at a lake during a beautiful sunset with his child fishing. He titled it: "To be a Dad"
We are keeping faith and putting our trust in God. We pray he helps us accept this path he has chosen for us, and help guide us through this process. We ask those who have been praying for us, to keep praying it means the world to us, and to those who have not yet said a good word for us, to please do so. We are currently checking into a few different financing options and are hoping to get some good information soon. We set our goal to 10,000$ which is alot i know, its the average cost of one round of IVF treatment. We are saving every penny and doing everything we can to help reach our goal. If anyone wants to donate even a penny it all ads up. If not, that is ok. I understand that times are hard and for some, its just not feasable. A prayer will work just as good. We appreciate everything and are truly touched.
May God bless everyone in their own special way. We love you all
