Please join us in support of our dear brother and sister as they continue their almost six year conception journey clinging to a hope and faith that God will provide. 

Rob and Abby have experienced a double heartbreak that is hard to fathom. They lost their first son, Caden Robert at 16 ½ weeks into gestation.
Less than a year and a half later, they lost their first daughter, Melody Hope Catherine at 17 and ½ weeks into gestation. 

They are at a crossroads. They are pressing on with hope and faith trusting their needs will be met. They have spent thousands of dollars and perservered through countless doctor appointments over the last six years. 

That’s why we are starting this fundraiser. Our hearts hurt with them that the cradle is still empty. We would ask for any help you can offer. EVERY DOLLAR HELPS! Donations would allow this loving couple to move forward with their journey. All of the money raised will go towards the medical care and the treatments needed to conceive. Any money above and beyond would go towards future Biggar blessings.

Thank you,
Tony & Jeanette Biggar

Below is their story-

Our journey of Hope

This story starts March 14, 2009…it was the day that our 1st niece on Rob’s side of the family was born. Looking at her pictures we knew we were ready to start a family.  Well now it’s almost 6 years later and our nursery is still empty.

Well let’s take a step back…we knew we would have a difficult time getting pregnant because my cycles were always inconsistent. So after a few months without any good news we made an appointment with my OBGYN.

The next several months were filled with tests galore. We started off by doing a few “Clomid Challenges” (fertility med) and we didn’t get any results. At my last appointment they said they wanted to send me to some specialists, as there wasn’t anything else they could do and I needed stronger treatments. They handed me my check out sheet and as I walked to the counter I started reading over my paperwork, it stopped me in my tracks and I felt like my heart had stopped…in large print were the words INFERTILE!!! I knew it would be difficult but never in my life did I think it could possibly be impossible!

Rob and I both come from large families and always imagined we’d too have a large family…with this new title of “Infertile” we weren’t sure how this could happen. I added to my list of Doctors a new Endocrinologist who diagnosed with me with Hypothyroidism and a new Infertility Doctor who diagnosed me with PCOS. Both of these explain partly why it had been difficult to conceive.

 

We did a procedure called HSG, which flushed my fallopian tubes in hopes of clearing any potential blockage. So we tried for several months with this new knowledge and we were able to get my cycles to be consistent with some meds. This filled us with hope and we did a couple more fertility treatments called IUI (Intrauterine Insemination) but still 3 years from the start of this journey no baby.

 We decided to stop treatments and focus on buying our 1st home. August 2012 we moved into our home.  A couple of weeks later I woke on a daily basis feeling nauseous…after a week it dawned on me…the hope that we could indeed be pregnant. I rushed to the drugstore and drank a bottle of water and waited curled up on my couch as the timer on my phone ticked on by. I walked into the bathroom and saw 2 faint but definitely there blue lines!!!! We were pregnant and due April 21, 2013. Wow!

The fall of 2012 was well underway and we were beyond thrilled to make it to our 2nd trimester. After the 12th week, the chances of a miscarriage drop to below 10% of all known pregnancies. We started getting excited about going to a gender clinic to find out if our Biggar blessing was going to be a boy or girl.  So on October 22nd we went to our appointment and sealed it in an envelope to open at Rob’s birthday party on the 27th.

Wednesday October 24th, around 11pm at night I started bleeding and you can imagine felt like my world was crumbling.  After some comforting and prayers with some family and friends at my bedside and the advice of my Dr. we waited until the morning. In the morning I remember running to the restroom thinking I was about to pee my pants but later found out that my water had actually just broken.

When we made it to the Doctors and they did an ultrasound and there it was, not what we expected but what we hoped for…a strong heartbeat. I was so sure that I had miscarried…though our sweet baby was surrounded by the smallest amount of amniotic fluid, certainly not enough to survive. So with little hope from our Drs they sent me home as a beating heartbeat to us meant we had to keep fighting. I was put on strict bed rest and was prepared to drink as much water as possible to hopefully build my fluid back up and prayed around the clock.  That night we decided to open the gender-revealing envelope and found out it was a BOY…our Caden Robert Biggar! Caden’s name means Warrior and Robert being his Daddy’s name. During the next 2 weeks more things were revealed to us like finding out Caden had spina bifida. Our community and even strangers pulled together in support and love.

The night of November 6th came and I started having really intense cramping and dealt with it for a couple of hours not wanting to believe it but I was indeed in labor. I was 16 ½ weeks pregnant and on November 7, 2012 our boy was born into heaven. We miss him everyday!

By February 2013 we decided to try again. But this time we went into it with a new fertility clinic and deciding that if we weren’t pregnant by the New Year that we would start the adoption process. Every month like clockwork we went through the IUI process…and like clockwork we would be told that we weren’t pregnant.

On December 30, 2013 I picked up the phone to hear my fertility nurse of almost a year say the words “Abby you are pregnant”! After the initial shock I waited for Robby to come home and break the news…now we were both in shock but also beyond happy! December 31st was an exciting day as we went from house to house to really close friends and of course my Mum to share the news…we laughed, we cried and we praised God! 

March we found out that our 2nd angel was a Girl, our Melody Hope Catherine! All of her testing came back great and she was healthy as can be. 

April 2nd came and I went to see my high-risk OB for a routine check up. Normally I have a tech do the ultrasound and then go into the Doctors office to talk about the results. This time was different…the tech said the Doctor was going to come into my room to discuss some things.

As she came in I knew something was wrong. She then stated, Abby everything looks as it should be but you’re completed dilated…meaning that my cervix was completely open. You are too open to stitch at this point but we can send you home on super strict bed rest and hope that with some time you will close a little and maybe stitch you. She also stated that this was super rare and that I indeed have an incompetent cervix and will need to be stitched at 12 weeks in any future pregnancies. Also stated this is probably why we lost Caden, which makes since because my water broke prematurely.

So I went home completely heartbroken that this could happen all again. 36 hours later I was about to go to bed and it happened- fluid came out. I just remember thinking if I can just get to bed and close my eyes it will be ok. I couldn’t even make it to the stairs-amniotic fluid kept pouring out.

We made it to the hospital and they ran some tests and I had lost all of my amniotic fluid and she was going to suffocate…there was no stopping it now. On April 4, 2014 our perfect and beautiful baby girl was going to be born into heaven…she was only 17 ½ weeks.

Our hearts had shattered for a second time.

Let me be so clear…this has been the hardest thing either of us have ever gone through…and there were times I wanted to end this life so I could be with my babies that I hoped for so much…there were times where I yelled at God, cried with God and wanted to just lock myself away…but through God and our amazing community that He has provided us, we are surviving this!

This is hard and we miss Caden & Melody everyday but we can’t just give up…we know God has a plan, a good plan for us!

"For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11

After Melody we did a few more rounds of IUI all proving unsuccessful. We were getting to the point were finances were getting tight and insurance would only help so much.  

Due to my history my Doctor strongly suggested we switch to IVF (In Vitro Fertilization) Now I honestly think we should have switched to this sooner but was really intimidated about the finances of it all. But either we trust that we serve a God who owns the cattle on a thousand hills or not (Psalm 50:10). We have trusted God with our lives and we have to trust Him with our children’s lives!

So here we go on this journey

Your prayers & support have gotten us through everything to date and we are asking you to please continue in that.

IVF costs about $20,000 this covers all my check ups, lab work, medicines, egg retrieval, 1 fresh transfer, 1 frozen transfer and the ability to freeze any other embryos for future babies.

We will do everything we can to save and earn any extra money to go towards the total cost of our procedures and if you cant give financially, maybe you have some item you’ve been wanting to get rid of that you’d like to donate towards a Spring garage sale we’ll have.  We are open to any suggestions you may have to raise funds for our Biggar blessing.

We know this is an insane amount of money but we have prayed so much and sought wise counsel and we firmly believe this is the path God wants us on…so much that we have already started the process in faith knowing that God will provide.

I have gone through a couple of weeks of daily injections at home and lots of pills and we actually had our egg retrieval on December 1st. They retrieved 22 eggs and now 11 of them are mature, healthy, fertilized and ready for transfer.  So this Saturday on December 6th they will transfer the top egg of the 11 and then we wait and pray that it implants and get our Christmas miracle.

The rest of the embryos will be frozen for future babies…so thankful that we have so many to increase our chances of a “Biggar” family!

We really can’t wait to share this journey with our future kids…because we know God has a plan and He’s proven over and over again that it is a really good plan!

Thank you in advance for your words that get us through, your prayers that bring us hope, and your monetary donations that help make this possible. Please help us spread the word and push us towards our goal of becoming parents.

I will post updates on here but you can also follow me on Instagram (MrsAbbyBiggar) & a Blog I started this year.

www.biggarfamilyblog.blogspot.com

We pray sweet blessings on you this Advent Season as we remember the Hope, Peace, Joy & Love that is our Savior!

 

Walking with HOPE,

Rob & Abby Biggar xx

"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit." Romans 15:13