Teela's GRS Fund
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Hello, my name is Teela and I'm an 27 year old Transgender student at attends Purdue University. I live with my girlfriend whom I cant thank enough for helping pull me up off the ground and build me into the person I am today. A proud college student, woman, and most of all a step mom. I wasn't always this way tho. I was born to a small family. My parents tho very strict did a wonderful job of raising me and I love them every day for it. That too wasn't always the way it is now.
When I was 14 I came out to my parents about feelings of Gender Dysphoria, or a more commonly known term. As Transgender. This caused a lot of turmoil in my family and actually almost caused a divorce at one point. I shied away from them and the world around me and slowly turned into an introverted shell. I finished high school feeling broken and lost. I was faced with three choices. Move out, go to college, or join the armed forces. I was terrified of going to college and not being able to be the woman I felt like on the side. So in an attempt to please my family and suppress my feelings. I opted to join the Service. Which I will with great regret inform you failed miserably. They picked up on the fact I had a disorder such as gender dysphoria brewing inside me and that's when I was first formally diagnosed and was Discharged under the policy of “Don't ask Don't Tell”.
Crushed and feeling defeated that the last chance I had to really try to be something I wasn't failed, I spent most of my adult life drifting in and out of dead end jobs. Drinking and smoking my dreams, pain, and responsibilities, I had to myself and others away. My dysphoria got in the way of relationships, friendships, and most of all kept me away from my family. In the winter of 2011, I was living alone in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. In and out of drunken stupors and left to my own devices with dysphoria staring me in the face harder than ever that year. I attempted to end my struggle on three occasions. Each one so planned out the fact all three failed to this day still baffles me when I look back. I am lucky to be alive. After the third attempt, my spirit was so broken and the male I felt trapped as was so chipped away at as if a statue ready to fall. I called my mother up and left the rest of the statue that was my old self crumble as I spoke to her. I informed her I was going to transition. Shocked that after so many years I had brought it up again. Oddly enough, it brought her and me together as a family again. It pushed my father away further, but after a few health concerns on his end and some soft pushing from my mother. He slowly over the last 3 years of my transition came to call me daughter. I Bremen the day he first called me daughter. I has called him all excited to inform him I got accepted to Purdue. He was really proud, We talked and B.S'ed for a hour or so. A new record for the two of us, and right when I was about to Hang up. He said, "My son might have failed at being a Sailor, make sure my Daughter Graduates" That will stay with me for the rest of my life. Not a day passes that I don't think about that. Which leads us to the present day.
I spend my days now as a Full time student at Purdue. when I am not in class I'm helping my girlfriend of 2 years raise her 16 year old daughter. And its an adventure. I never once thought id ever get to transition, be a mother, or find someone who accepted me enough as who I was to let me into their live like this. That's why today I'm reaching out to all of you. Asking for help in the daunting goal of reaching 23k so that I may get Gender reassignment surgery at the Reed Center in Miami Florida. The average cost of the operation is 16k and another 3k-7k in related recovery expenses after the operation, along with the cost of Travel from northwest Indiana to Miami, then logging till its medically safe to travel home. I'm reaching out to anyone willing to help me with this dream, any thoughts, prayers, and well wishes are greatly appreciated, and most of all, if your still with me. Thank you for your time and Hope your day is wonderful. ~Teela
When I was 14 I came out to my parents about feelings of Gender Dysphoria, or a more commonly known term. As Transgender. This caused a lot of turmoil in my family and actually almost caused a divorce at one point. I shied away from them and the world around me and slowly turned into an introverted shell. I finished high school feeling broken and lost. I was faced with three choices. Move out, go to college, or join the armed forces. I was terrified of going to college and not being able to be the woman I felt like on the side. So in an attempt to please my family and suppress my feelings. I opted to join the Service. Which I will with great regret inform you failed miserably. They picked up on the fact I had a disorder such as gender dysphoria brewing inside me and that's when I was first formally diagnosed and was Discharged under the policy of “Don't ask Don't Tell”.
Crushed and feeling defeated that the last chance I had to really try to be something I wasn't failed, I spent most of my adult life drifting in and out of dead end jobs. Drinking and smoking my dreams, pain, and responsibilities, I had to myself and others away. My dysphoria got in the way of relationships, friendships, and most of all kept me away from my family. In the winter of 2011, I was living alone in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. In and out of drunken stupors and left to my own devices with dysphoria staring me in the face harder than ever that year. I attempted to end my struggle on three occasions. Each one so planned out the fact all three failed to this day still baffles me when I look back. I am lucky to be alive. After the third attempt, my spirit was so broken and the male I felt trapped as was so chipped away at as if a statue ready to fall. I called my mother up and left the rest of the statue that was my old self crumble as I spoke to her. I informed her I was going to transition. Shocked that after so many years I had brought it up again. Oddly enough, it brought her and me together as a family again. It pushed my father away further, but after a few health concerns on his end and some soft pushing from my mother. He slowly over the last 3 years of my transition came to call me daughter. I Bremen the day he first called me daughter. I has called him all excited to inform him I got accepted to Purdue. He was really proud, We talked and B.S'ed for a hour or so. A new record for the two of us, and right when I was about to Hang up. He said, "My son might have failed at being a Sailor, make sure my Daughter Graduates" That will stay with me for the rest of my life. Not a day passes that I don't think about that. Which leads us to the present day.
I spend my days now as a Full time student at Purdue. when I am not in class I'm helping my girlfriend of 2 years raise her 16 year old daughter. And its an adventure. I never once thought id ever get to transition, be a mother, or find someone who accepted me enough as who I was to let me into their live like this. That's why today I'm reaching out to all of you. Asking for help in the daunting goal of reaching 23k so that I may get Gender reassignment surgery at the Reed Center in Miami Florida. The average cost of the operation is 16k and another 3k-7k in related recovery expenses after the operation, along with the cost of Travel from northwest Indiana to Miami, then logging till its medically safe to travel home. I'm reaching out to anyone willing to help me with this dream, any thoughts, prayers, and well wishes are greatly appreciated, and most of all, if your still with me. Thank you for your time and Hope your day is wonderful. ~Teela
Organizer
Teela Reene Sucacin
Organizer
Hammond, IN