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Alexandra Armstead and her children

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Yesterday (Friday, May 1, 2020) there was a senseless and tragic act of violence in our community, when Miles Armstead was shot and killed by his neighbor.  

Miles leaves behind three beautiful children, and an unborn child due in August.  Chloe is a sophomore at Oakland Tech High School; Quinn is a sixth grader at Edna Brewer Middle School, and Elle is a fourth grader at Glenview Elementary. Miles, his former wife Alex, and the children have been our dear friends for over 10 years. Our children have grown up together and have been the best of friends.  

As with most families, life hasn’t always been easy for the Armstead family, especially after a divorce, but both Miles and Alex conducted themselves with grace, gratitude and optimism.  Just recently, I had the most heartwarming conversation with Chloe about her plans for college.  She was filled with enthusiasm and determination, and she was especially proud of the long discussions that she had had with both her mom and her dad about her future and the best path toward achieving her goals.  What a privilege it’s been to watch tough, sensitive, bright green-eyed Chloe blossom into the most positive, confident, self-possessed young woman.  

The same can be said for Quinn and Elle as well.  It is hard to spot Quinn without a smile on his face.  I was struck by the thought and consideration that Quinn recently gave to changing instruments in band and how he impressively planned out and practiced what he would say to his his band teacher to convey his desire.  He has grown into a conscientious, mature young man.  And Elle has a heart of gold.  She cares about all living creatures, and though she will not hesitate to make her perspective and feelings clear, she is as sweet as they come.

It is no accident that these children are all good, caring, determined, hard-workers.  Alex is a phenomenal mother and co-parent with Miles.  She has devoted her entire adult life to her children.  She listens to them; she understands their gifts and their faults, and she steadfastly guides them to reach their vast potential, even when that is really hard parental work.  Miles has always wanted the best for his children as well and has worked hard to provide for them.  It was his dream that they would all have a good life, and he was integral in making that happen.  He was a passionate and devoted soccer coach of his son’s teams.  If you ever attended one of their games, you might still hear Miles’ near-constant booming voice throughout the game, yelling for the players to ‘Send it!’  Miles was also a soccer referee, a parent volunteer on school field trips, and was a Wealth Management Banker at Fremont Bank.

Miles was basically the sole breadwinner for the Armsteads, and now suddenly having all three children back in her home full-time, Alex is going to need help with living expenses, as well as expenses for the children (therapy and college).  Please help to support this beautiful family.  No amount is too small.
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    • 4 yrs
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Fundraising team: Jennifer, Kira, Iris and Christina (2)

Jennifer Shallat
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Oakland, CA
Alexandra Armstead
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Kira Dahlgren Lancaster
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