My name is Holly Wise and I'm 27 years old. I was born with a rare syndrome called VACTERL. I spent my childhood in and out of hospitals, and the nurses became part of our family. I have had over 38 surgeries, 30 of those being on my spine alone.
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Last year, May to be exact, I married the love of my life, Sam. I couldn't have asked God for a better man to spend the rest of my life with. I always knew that having a child may be a bit tricky, but I knew we would cross that bridge when we came to it. That bridge is now near.
Sam and I went to a prenatal/genetic counselor. The outcome wasn't what I wanted, but it was what I was expecting. We were told that my lungs would fail during pregnancy, due to the skeletal deformations of my ribs and spine, as well as my hips being fused. There was also a chance I would become paralyzed during childbirth, if I were to make it that far. We were told that there was no definitive time of when my lungs would fail - I could go 34 weeks, be fine, have a c-section and life would be wonderful, or, at 16 weeks, middle of the night, my lungs could start to fail, and if Sam did not get me to a hospital in time, he would lose me, as well as our child.
After a heartbreaking realization, and long discussions, Sam and I decided to use a surrogate in order to have a baby. I also had a tubal ligation, so we would have no accidental pregnancies. If I was to become pregnant, and then not be able to have him/her, I would truly be devastated. After lots of prayer, we feel that surrogacy is our best option. Unfortunately, this takes a lot of money. I was very naive in thinking that it would be an easy process.
My wonderful friend Amy Butz, has offered to be our surrogate. Her selfless act of love will never be forgotten, and I do not think we will ever be able to show our gratitude enough.
I contacted the fertility clinic, and made our first consult appointment on May 30, 2014, where I was in for a big shock. Quite a few tests have to be done to even see if my eggs are viable, lots of blood work. May 30th is when we will get all the ins and outs to this process. Our consult alone will be around $400, and the IVF itself at the lowest amount will be $12,000. This amount does not even cover egg retrieval, routine visits, fertility medications for myself as well as Amy, helping us with doctors appointment while Amy is pregnant with Baby Wise, airfare for Amy (as she lives in Washington), etc.
After learning this my first thought was, "We aren't meant to have children, this is never going to happen." I am a woman of faith, and with God, all things are possible. Whatever is meant to be, will be, and if we find out that surrogacy is not possible, then our next step is adoption.
Thank you and God bless for taking the time to read this.
We are asking for prayers, positive thoughts, love, kindness on our journey to becoming parents.
Any type of donation would be truly a gift and an aswered prayer!
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