Saving Griffin's Home
At the age of only six months, an un-known person spread the herpes virus to Griffin (herpes simplex 1, of the mouth). The virus went straight to Griffins brain, causing massive brian damage (over half of his brain was destroyed) and leaving him partially paralysed, with intractable epilepsy, cerebral palsy and global learning delays.
We spent the better part of that summer in the NICU, with Griffin on the verge of death. I can't summon the words to describe this adequately, the emotion, but I can say that the lowest point of my life was standing by Griffins bedside and having the doctor walk over to me and put his hand on my shoulder, not saying a word; just the silen resignation that his fate was in Gods hands alone. Nobody expected him to survive. But he did. Miraculously, he made it through.
While this was an immense relief and we were filled with hope that our baby had beaten the odds, that was the beginning of our family's financial demise. In the blink of an eye, our savings was wiped-out covering medical costs. Griffin's recovery is a lifelong process. He will never not need extensive medical and therapeutic
support. After much effort, we were finally able to get some support through the state to help with his treatments and expenses. But they don't cover everything. Not by a long shot.
We've now spent nearly a decade with Griffin in and out of the hospital, being on the verge of death multiple times. My wife and I both work full-time to support our family, but it's not enough. We have piled up a decade of medical costs, time lost from work for hospitalizations, sickness and countless medical appointments (he is regularly see by: his neurologist, primary physician, physical therapist, occupational therapist, speech therapist and behavioral therapists (the nature of his neurological impairment has caused him to be diagnosed as Autistic as well). It has been an relentless stream of treatment, with no end in sight. This is a weight which we, my wife and I as well as our older son, will carry to our graves.
Through all of this, we have gone from being reasonably secure to living paycheck to paycheck, and still not having enough to keep up. We've given up everything we could to make it through; no family vacations for years now, sold off extraneous items to catch up on mortgage payments; you name it, we've done it. Our circumstances led us to juggling our financial demise from one hand to the other and doing everything possible to stay afloat in a growing sea of debt.
We've now reached the end of our rope. Our home, the only security we have left, is about to go up for auction...we're being foreclosed on. Our credit, which was once very good, has been destroyed. If we lose our house, we have absolutely nothing. If it were just my wife and I, we'd find a way to get through losing the house. But it's not just us. This is the only thing we have to keep Griffin rooted and stable. And he loves his house, regardless of how old and beat-up it is. We know that when we have passed on, the responsibility of caring for Griffin will fall to his brother. We had hoped and planned that we would at least be able to leave them a home, so that the financial burden we've borne would not also become his brother's legacy.
So this is it; The last chance stand to keep the very little we still have.
For the sake of Griffin and his well-being, I am reaching out to you.
Please help in any way you can afford; no amount is too small and everything helps. And please share this with everyone you can; the more people this reaches, the better our chances of saving our home are.
I can live with not expecting anyting of the world, but I desperately want a better future for Griffin. His life has been dominated by loss and difficulty and he still has so far to go. It is my singular wish to be able to leave our home to our sons once my wife and I pass on. The alternative is unthinkable.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I wish nothing but the best for everybody in this world, this life. Hopefully tomorrow will bring peace, security and happiness
As I had written in my last update, we must give the mortgage lender $29,953 by the 30th of this month. As it stands right now, we've got almost 2/3 of that covered, with a remaining balance due of ~ $12K.
I am so very grateful for all of the help we've received and I feel awful about having to ask for more, but I have no other choice. If we can't provide the full remaining balance by this time next week, it's the end of the road and we'll be homeless before Christmas arrives.
So, for one final time, I am asking.... truly begging, that anyone who can, donate any amount they're able and that everyone who reads this share my campaign with as many people as possible, as quickly as possible. My wife and I have been battling our way through this last decade of medical, financial and social hell due to Griffins illness and have given everything we have to give and more. As a family, as a couple, we're spent. So please, help us in any way you can.
Thank you and God bless you all,
I'd meant to write an update for the last couple of weeks, but I've been busy with work and family, as well as being completely stressed-out and a bit depressed.
In what I guess would be called good news, I have made a substantial payment (20K) to the bank that holds our 2nd mortgage, 3/4 of which was only possible due to your generosity. This payment has bought us one month more to finish paying our back-debt.
On the nerve-racking side, we now have until Nov. 30th to make the payment of $29,953. If we are not able to make this payment, the house will be auctioned-off on 12/2 . My wife and I will cover as much of this as possible, but there's no way that we can do it alone. To make matters worse, I'm going in to the slow time of year for my business (real estate inspection), and I have no guarantee of how much business I'll have through the holiday season.
So again, I am reaching out to you all. Please help my family by sharing this anywhere you can so that we may reach as many people as possible.
Thank you all,
Peace and Love my friends!