Protecting kids from online porn!
Our kids, ages 7-17 years old, see millions of porn videos every day.
The reason: Pornography is so readily available. It didn't use to be, but it is now. It's instantaneously available, deliberately or by accident, on smartphones and handheld devices. And kids are sharing it with other kids, whether the receiving kid wants to see it or not. And if kids want to fit in they have to get with the program, like it or not. And the program can be objectification, shaming, and sexual interactions that are not safe or emotionally healthy.
If you doubt me, or you think it's overstated, ask your child.
And if you're reluctant to ask, or if you ask and you get a half-baked answer from your child or teen, you'll understand why I'm initiating this campaign. Most parents do not have meaningful conversations with their kids about porn. And yet pornography can be a profound and often hidden gateway to bullying, shaming, hypersexuality, and a host of other problems that we all know and care deeply about.
The Department of Education is not solving the pornography problem. Neither is the Department of Justice, DHHS, faith-based institutions, and neither are our schools. We are our children's first line of defense, and together we will upend porn-culture.
And I'm going to tell you something else ...this is not the porn industry's fault. Pornography is designed for adults. It always has been. Whether we think it should exist or not is a matter of our own personal values, and that's something we should teach our own kids. But pornography does exist - ubiquitously and permanently. And now it is we parents who'd better get with the program and learn to talk about it.
The Third Talk™
Parents have “The Talk” to teach their kids about the birds and the bees. The Second Talk happens around middle school and is usually given by health teachers or guidance counselors to discuss anatomy, consent, boundaries, safety, pregnancy, and STDs.
Now that mobile technology allows unlimited pornography to literally be in the hands of kids - Parents must have another talk.
Like it or not, children are seeing porn online in record numbers and at much younger ages than you might expect. Research indicates that parents, with varying degrees of knowledge or information on the topic, are not discussing online porn prevention with their kids, and neither are our schools, churches or government.
By default we have asked kids to manage their exposure to intense, sometimes vulgar and even violent videos on their own - - and the results of that exposure is not great.
If you then take into account, the normal, natural, healthy, powerful, biologic curiosity that maturing young people have regarding the naked human form, relationships, and physical sex - you now have the perfect storm of interest access and misinformation.
Access: our kids see 12 billion porn videos every year in the United States alone. 380/second
Misinformation: meaning that our kids seek out information on sexuality the same place they seek out information on anything; online. Except the keywords, searches, and keyword histories have all been taken by porn companies competing for traffic for 20 years. An innocent search like 'pretty girls' from a 14 year old boy can result in content ridiculously inappropriate for kids. We should react the same way as if we saw them with a lit cigarette, a gun, a bottle of booze...or an iPad with porn on it.
Funds you donate will be used to create age-appropriate PSA's and social messaging to add pornography to the same lexicon for young kids as we now do with smoking, drinking, drugs, stop drop and roll and stranger danger - everyday safety based conversations parents have with kids.
(As a reminder the DHHS took forty years to shrink "Joe Camel" off a pack of cigarettes and finally declare that 'smoking is bad for kids'. ) We don't need to wait that long to know porn is bad for kids.
Funds you donate will be used to create age-appropriate videos that parents and kids can watch together as a family, in order to initiate the talk about pornography. Families need to do this together and we as parents need to do it now. By the time your child is 12 or 13, it is very likely that they have experienced online porn. We can change that. It can be done, and a little momentum from you creates a little more momentum for others, and so on.
Lastly, funds you donate will support our Third Talk representatives as they provide conference seminars to schools and symposiums around the country every year.
Together we as Parents are the solution that will end the hurt that underage viewing of online pornography causes our young people.
We place all funds donated here into our 501(c) called The Third Talk™ Foundation Inc., which will be managed by an outside agency. This is purposefully designed to be completely transparent to the process. Or donate on the website here: www.thethirdtalk.org
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What You Receive For Your Contribution:
You become part of an American, child-focused movement, specifically designed to remove a huge hurdle that has proven to hamper our children's happiness. I'm asking you to proudly be a part of a new, and National conversation, with the purpose of a cultural change, all with a simple family friendly conversation.
Donate below for your own kids, or grandkids.
Donate for other peoples' children; (who will become teenagers and want to spend time with your kids while you're not around.)
Donate as if your child's happiness depends on it. (It does.)
Thank you for joining me to help your kids, my kids, and kids all across the country have The Third Talk™ with their Parents, Grandparents.
All my best-
John Van Arnam
The Third Talk Foundation Inc.
Please watch our progress at www.thethirdtalk.org.