Terminally Ill - Seal our Love ❤️

My partner of 13 years was diagnosed with terminal cancer 3 weeks ago. From being a healthy active husband and father 12 weeks ago, my partner Ray had developed a pain in his chest and shoulder and was having trouble breathing to being hospitalised and then told you have terminal cancer and probably wont make this Christmas (which is approximately 10 weeks to Christmas when we were told). He had pain for 6 months and had been to his GP on a couple of occasions on which he had xrays, scans and blood tests. All tests showed nothing, Ray was dramatically loosing weight and was in constent pain, but it wasnt until he had trouble breathing, the CT scan showed a small tumor growth, we were referred to a specialist. I immediately made the appointment which was a 6 week wait. While waiting for the specialist appointment Rays breathing was very laboured. I took him to emergency with all our scans and doctors paperwork and notes, Ray was admitted within 2 minutes with critical oxygen levels and put on pain killers for the constant pain. Now in hospital in the respiratory unit, Rays oxygen levels stabilised very quickly, however the hospital could not get the pain under control. From this point on the roller coaster started. Ray was having xrays CTs and MRIs everyday for a week, continually coming back good, except for the original tumor (approximately a 5 cent piece). The hospital doctor advises us how lucky Ray is, as everything hes described sounds like cancer, but the good news is, its not cancer. We told our son, Rays children and siblings of the good news. Last thing, same day in the afternoon the doctor comes back and advises, Sorry a more senior doctor reviewed your scans and now does believe it is cancer, but we wont know for sure until we do the scheduled biopsy on Friday. More scans and tests, then the biopsy. The weekend passes, with more CTs and MRIs tests completed on Monday. Tuesday morning the doctor comes in and says sorry the biopsy shows is cancer, however the good news is, it is this 5 cent piece, the most common type of lung cancer, 90 something % success rate, surgery to remove the tumor, possible radiation and or chemotherapy. The doctor advised they would keep Ray in hospital until the surgery, in which time they would complete more tests. We spent the next 5 hours dealing with our emotions from the news, only for the senior specialist doctor to come in his room at 5pm to advice, Sorry to tell you the scan yesterday now shows the cancer is everywhere, its terminal, theres nothing we can do. Its the size of a football and now covers your whole lung. You may as well go home, enjoy your time with your family, crack your best bottle of scotch, smoke your best cigar because you probably wont make this Christmas.

My partner Ray and I are madly in love and have spent the past 13 years loving each other more than the day before. We both have had previous relationships and thank each other everyday for how lucky we are to have found each other and to know what true love is, in each other, knowing with every being in our body that we truly are soulmates, lovers and best friends. We are known as the lovey dovey couple, or people who dont know us, think weve only been together a few weeks or months and dont believe its 13 years due to how much we are still totally into each other all the time. Ray and I have not been apart in 13 years and from day 1 we've spent everyday together. From day 1 we always planned to Marry. We just knew that we had connected on another level that neither of us had felt before, it was so right and always has been that way. However we always said we dont need a piece of paper to say we love each other, we know that everyday. Life got busy and a loving decade flew past, still always planning to one day marry, with the most important of getting married for us, is my husband giving me his name, Ray proposed to me with a beautiful trilogy ring in the Pacific Islands last year. Deciding on a wedding date was still a way away, having to finalise divorces from over 20years ago. Now my partner (my husband) has terminally cancer and hasnt been given much time, he cries and is sad that he didnt sort out and arrange to get married sooner, hes (& I) are scared that we will not beable to complete our wedding to our soulmate before he looses his battle with cancer. We would love and appreciate any assistance in helping us achieve my partners dying wish to complete and finalise our love and commitment to each other. Due to having to take time off work to palliative care for my partner, tests, doctors/specialists, medication and treatment costs and completely loosing his income its impossible to save additional money for a wedding. Were not looking for anything fancy, just a nice simple ceremony and reception for our family and friends, a venue, marriage celebrant, wedding rings and wedding dress and suit.
It is so hard to watch the person you love go from their normal self to withering away in size and stature, in constant terminal pain, on alot of strong medication, being weak and unable to physically hold themselves.
This means so much to both of us, but is my partner (my spouse/ my husband) dying wish to commit our love . Thankyou for reading my story I hope your able to offer any assistance, no matter how big or small, its all appreciated with my heart.
Ray is 54 years old, a fantastic loving caring supporting partner, a wonderful father to our 13yr old son, a wonderful father to his older 4 sons and daughter. A fun loving and kind grandad to his 6 and half grandchildren. People take to Ray where ever we go, whether their 1 month or 100 years old Ray will having them smiling and laughing in no time. He stops to help women, women with babies, the elderly and disabled, as well as friends, family and the local neighbourhood.

I describe the love of my life, my soulmate, as a real man - as tough as nails and as soft as butter. I cant wait to be your wife and i pray we can get married before we run out of time.

Ray is overwhelmed with the outreaching of support, we could not be more grateful. Originally I didn't care how we got to commit our vows, just thinking Rings, Celebrant and Marriage license, Ray is ecstatic and sad in this time, but says he is glad we can now make the day more memorable so I will have memories after he's gone, with also a possible small night away for our honeymoon. We are amazed with the support and can not thank everyone enough for their gratitude and support.

All funds received above the cost of the wedding/ honeymoon will go to help pay the extensive costs for Ray's care and treatment. Ray is a palliative care patient since leaving the hospital and requires 24hr constant care, medication as well as various treatment costs, in the hope of prolonging Ray's life so myself our family (children & grandchildren) can get to spend more time with him before the terminal cancer takes his life.

Please help us reach our goal of getting married before Ray loses his battle with cancer.