Sober Living Home For Teens
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I know this may be long but it is a MUST read!
THIS IS A CALL TO ACTION! YOUNG KIDS AND MEN ARE DYING EVERYDAY DO TO DRUG OVERDOSES, MORE THEN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE. SOMETIMES THESE KIDS OR YOUNG MEN HAVE NO PLACE TO GO. WITH YOUR HELP, I WANT TO BE THAT PLACE THEY GO FOR HELP BECAUSE I NEEDED HELP DURING MY ADDICTION YEARS AGO AND I WANT TO PAY IT FORWARD. I AM TIRED OF SEEING FACEBOOK STATUS AFTER FACEBOOK STATUS ABOUT SOMEONE DYING OF A DRUG OVERDOSE. THIS NEEDS TO STOP. HELP ME PROVIDE A HOME THAT IS SAFE AND EDUCATIONAL FOR THESE KIDS AND YOUNG MEN! I DEALT WITH ADDICTION AND IT IS NOT EASY TO OVERCOME BUT WITH HELP, IT IS POSSIBLE. PLEASE HELP ME, A RECOVERED ADDICT HELP OTHER SUFFERING ADDICTS BY PROVIDING A HOME FOR THEM SO THEY CAN SORT THEIR LIFE OUT IN A SOBER ENVIRONMENT. I BELIEVE WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THESE YOUNG MAN LIVES. HELP ME SECURE FUNDING TO PROVIDE THESE KIDS WITH THIS HOME. KIDS AND YOUNG MEN ARE GOING HUNGRY AND HOMELESS, MORE THEN YOU CAN EVEN COUNT. ANYTHING WILL HELP. WOULDN'T YOU LIKE TO SEE THESE YOUNG MEN REDEEM THEMSELVES FROM SILLY MISTAKES AT A YOUNG AGE. By providing a stable and safe, sober living home for young men I believe we can make a difference in the way they live their life on a daily basis. I recently have created a Instagram to raise awareness for Mental Health issues, [email redacted]lth.Era. Follow this page for mental health tips. I want to do whatever I can to help addicts because I know exactly how it feels to be in their shoes and they need HELP whether they realize it or not. What you donate will go directly to providing a home for these kids suffering with ADDICTION. Read on to find out how the house will work.
My name is Andrew. I am 26 years old and currently reside in Bayville, NJ. I grew up in a lower-middle class family where my parents split when I was 12. Even though it took my parents a long 4 years to separate, my father was basically none existent my whole childhood. With that being said, I lacked major developmental achievements growing up because I had no father to teach me what I should and shouldn't be doing.
My mother was only able to get me so far when it came to that. I struggled with many problems as a kid such as depression and anxiety that many didn't know about because back then you would be a target for a bully so I kept most of that too myself. But I was also bullied as a child by my cousins and friends. This is where a majority of my problems began because I just wanted to fit in with the "cool" kids. This created the feeling of never being good enough. The combination of my father being absent most of my life and being bullied, it was a miracle that I wasn't doing drugs at the age of 11 and 12 as you see many kids today starting at this age. Hockey and Soccer was my saving grace through my childhood. Sports kept me away from those bad things until I got to college and had to fend for myself. Needing to fit in never went away though, I had that through College. I was immature and had no idea what it meant to have responsibility because I never learned much of that growing up with an absent father.
This is the part I'll keep brief because I do not like talking about it too much. With the problems of never really fitting in (at-least in my head), college was a recipe for disaster. I started to experiment with drugs and heavy alcohol consumption. I did it because that is what everyone was doing at college and I wanted to fit in. It turned out that opioids transformed me into the person I wanted to be when I was sober but I needed something artificial to turn me into that. I loved it and eventually hated it because it turned me into the worst possible version of myself two years down the road. I had a severe addiction to opioids at this time and my mother knew about it, it broke her heart. I have been homeless, I have gone without food, I have lived in my car and I have been through a great deal of pain and I can tell you the one thing I wanted, wasn't more money or more drugs. The thing I craved so much was love. I wanted to be loved and have someone to talk to. We end up isolating our-self from the world while we are using drugs and it ruins friendships and relationships in a snap of a finger. I didn't have anyone to talk to about my problems which made me suppress them even more instead of dealing with them. This is where the problem begins, we are afraid to reach out for help because we are men and men don't ask for help. Well I will tell you to throw that idea right out the window because you WILL need HELP. That is why I am trying to do whatever I can to help the next person.
Years ago I made the decision to turn my life around after 3/4 years of heavy addiction. I just had to or I was going to die and I didn't want to die. I went to rehab a couple times and lived in a sober home, that is what helped me succeed in addiction and beat it. A sober home was so important to me because while you are in addiction you cant afford anything and many do not have a roof over their head. When you have so many things restricting you from even attempting to get clean it is almost impossible because you just have what it feels like 1000 lbs worth of stress on you. It also provides you with a community of like minded people who share the same desire of getting sober. You are able to make friends and talk to people that understand you. This was so important to me! I went to a 6 month rehab in Colorado called Triple Peaks Recovery, I then did 3 months of after care in their program, followed by a 3 month sober living home. This combination saved my life.
I graduated with my Bachelors in Accounting from Rider University (2014) and have managed to keep out of trouble with the law. I am currently working at a Magnesium Plant in NJ in accounting which I love but I want to help people. I will be more involved in the addiction industry because of the massive battle I went through to live the life I have today. I want someone else to achieve what they want to achieve and kick addiction in the rear end. I want to provide teenagers or young men suffering from addiction, with a safe and educational environment. That starts with getting a roof over their head so they can start to take some stress off their plate and focus on what the next move is. I want to provide a sober living home for these young men where they can learn about their addiction just like I did and beat the monster of addiction. It is crucial to help these young men out at these ages because it makes the difference between them becoming an addict for life or someone who cleans up and does something with their life. I am looking into becoming a LCADC so I can professionally counsel the kids on scene.
Let me outline the plan for you,
1. I need to get a house, one that is safe for the men as well as big enough to fit 4 or 5 people at first.
2. The kids would be drug tested randomly to keep them accountable.
3. I would be on site daily with the kids to make sure they are doing what they are suppose to do.
4. Other rules include, curfew, chores, and work the 12 steps of A.A
Meaning there will be house rules. For example, everyone who doesn't have a job must be out of the house by 10 am looking for jobs. Another rule would be mandatory A.A meetings, meaning attending a certain number of meeting a week. I want to help these kids get back on their feet and find the drive they once had. Addicts are oddly creative and smart, if we put that power to good use, we could change the lives of many kids. My long battle with addiction has allowed me to savior the good moments in my life now. I have always loved helping people, I sponsored kids in A.A and love to help talk people through their problems. I have plenty of life issues myself still but that is life and it will be that way till I die. But it brings joy to me when I am able to help another addict.
I needed help and someone was so kind enough to give me the help and I ran with it and promised to pay it forward and that is what I am trying to do here!
Thank you,
Andrew
I know this may be long but it is a MUST read!
THIS IS A CALL TO ACTION! YOUNG KIDS AND MEN ARE DYING EVERYDAY DO TO DRUG OVERDOSES, MORE THEN YOU CAN EVEN IMAGINE. SOMETIMES THESE KIDS OR YOUNG MEN HAVE NO PLACE TO GO. WITH YOUR HELP, I WANT TO BE THAT PLACE THEY GO FOR HELP BECAUSE I NEEDED HELP DURING MY ADDICTION YEARS AGO AND I WANT TO PAY IT FORWARD. I AM TIRED OF SEEING FACEBOOK STATUS AFTER FACEBOOK STATUS ABOUT SOMEONE DYING OF A DRUG OVERDOSE. THIS NEEDS TO STOP. HELP ME PROVIDE A HOME THAT IS SAFE AND EDUCATIONAL FOR THESE KIDS AND YOUNG MEN! I DEALT WITH ADDICTION AND IT IS NOT EASY TO OVERCOME BUT WITH HELP, IT IS POSSIBLE. PLEASE HELP ME, A RECOVERED ADDICT HELP OTHER SUFFERING ADDICTS BY PROVIDING A HOME FOR THEM SO THEY CAN SORT THEIR LIFE OUT IN A SOBER ENVIRONMENT. I BELIEVE WE CAN MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN THESE YOUNG MAN LIVES. HELP ME SECURE FUNDING TO PROVIDE THESE KIDS WITH THIS HOME. KIDS AND YOUNG MEN ARE GOING HUNGRY AND HOMELESS, MORE THEN YOU CAN EVEN COUNT. ANYTHING WILL HELP. WOULDN'T YOU LIKE TO SEE THESE YOUNG MEN REDEEM THEMSELVES FROM SILLY MISTAKES AT A YOUNG AGE. By providing a stable and safe, sober living home for young men I believe we can make a difference in the way they live their life on a daily basis. I recently have created a Instagram to raise awareness for Mental Health issues, [email redacted]lth.Era. Follow this page for mental health tips. I want to do whatever I can to help addicts because I know exactly how it feels to be in their shoes and they need HELP whether they realize it or not. What you donate will go directly to providing a home for these kids suffering with ADDICTION. Read on to find out how the house will work.
My name is Andrew. I am 26 years old and currently reside in Bayville, NJ. I grew up in a lower-middle class family where my parents split when I was 12. Even though it took my parents a long 4 years to separate, my father was basically none existent my whole childhood. With that being said, I lacked major developmental achievements growing up because I had no father to teach me what I should and shouldn't be doing.
My mother was only able to get me so far when it came to that. I struggled with many problems as a kid such as depression and anxiety that many didn't know about because back then you would be a target for a bully so I kept most of that too myself. But I was also bullied as a child by my cousins and friends. This is where a majority of my problems began because I just wanted to fit in with the "cool" kids. This created the feeling of never being good enough. The combination of my father being absent most of my life and being bullied, it was a miracle that I wasn't doing drugs at the age of 11 and 12 as you see many kids today starting at this age. Hockey and Soccer was my saving grace through my childhood. Sports kept me away from those bad things until I got to college and had to fend for myself. Needing to fit in never went away though, I had that through College. I was immature and had no idea what it meant to have responsibility because I never learned much of that growing up with an absent father.
This is the part I'll keep brief because I do not like talking about it too much. With the problems of never really fitting in (at-least in my head), college was a recipe for disaster. I started to experiment with drugs and heavy alcohol consumption. I did it because that is what everyone was doing at college and I wanted to fit in. It turned out that opioids transformed me into the person I wanted to be when I was sober but I needed something artificial to turn me into that. I loved it and eventually hated it because it turned me into the worst possible version of myself two years down the road. I had a severe addiction to opioids at this time and my mother knew about it, it broke her heart. I have been homeless, I have gone without food, I have lived in my car and I have been through a great deal of pain and I can tell you the one thing I wanted, wasn't more money or more drugs. The thing I craved so much was love. I wanted to be loved and have someone to talk to. We end up isolating our-self from the world while we are using drugs and it ruins friendships and relationships in a snap of a finger. I didn't have anyone to talk to about my problems which made me suppress them even more instead of dealing with them. This is where the problem begins, we are afraid to reach out for help because we are men and men don't ask for help. Well I will tell you to throw that idea right out the window because you WILL need HELP. That is why I am trying to do whatever I can to help the next person.
Years ago I made the decision to turn my life around after 3/4 years of heavy addiction. I just had to or I was going to die and I didn't want to die. I went to rehab a couple times and lived in a sober home, that is what helped me succeed in addiction and beat it. A sober home was so important to me because while you are in addiction you cant afford anything and many do not have a roof over their head. When you have so many things restricting you from even attempting to get clean it is almost impossible because you just have what it feels like 1000 lbs worth of stress on you. It also provides you with a community of like minded people who share the same desire of getting sober. You are able to make friends and talk to people that understand you. This was so important to me! I went to a 6 month rehab in Colorado called Triple Peaks Recovery, I then did 3 months of after care in their program, followed by a 3 month sober living home. This combination saved my life.
I graduated with my Bachelors in Accounting from Rider University (2014) and have managed to keep out of trouble with the law. I am currently working at a Magnesium Plant in NJ in accounting which I love but I want to help people. I will be more involved in the addiction industry because of the massive battle I went through to live the life I have today. I want someone else to achieve what they want to achieve and kick addiction in the rear end. I want to provide teenagers or young men suffering from addiction, with a safe and educational environment. That starts with getting a roof over their head so they can start to take some stress off their plate and focus on what the next move is. I want to provide a sober living home for these young men where they can learn about their addiction just like I did and beat the monster of addiction. It is crucial to help these young men out at these ages because it makes the difference between them becoming an addict for life or someone who cleans up and does something with their life. I am looking into becoming a LCADC so I can professionally counsel the kids on scene.
Let me outline the plan for you,
1. I need to get a house, one that is safe for the men as well as big enough to fit 4 or 5 people at first.
2. The kids would be drug tested randomly to keep them accountable.
3. I would be on site daily with the kids to make sure they are doing what they are suppose to do.
4. Other rules include, curfew, chores, and work the 12 steps of A.A
Meaning there will be house rules. For example, everyone who doesn't have a job must be out of the house by 10 am looking for jobs. Another rule would be mandatory A.A meetings, meaning attending a certain number of meeting a week. I want to help these kids get back on their feet and find the drive they once had. Addicts are oddly creative and smart, if we put that power to good use, we could change the lives of many kids. My long battle with addiction has allowed me to savior the good moments in my life now. I have always loved helping people, I sponsored kids in A.A and love to help talk people through their problems. I have plenty of life issues myself still but that is life and it will be that way till I die. But it brings joy to me when I am able to help another addict.
I needed help and someone was so kind enough to give me the help and I ran with it and promised to pay it forward and that is what I am trying to do here!
Thank you,
Andrew
Organizer
Andrew Nebus
Organizer
Bayville, NJ
