Save a home in the midst of tragedy
On Tuesday, December 27, 2016, I learned that my father had passed away. Devestating enough as this was, the pain multiplied as we learned that what took his life was his own hand. He committed suicide. In one instant he took more from my mom, my sister and me than just his mind and body. He took unanswered questions, he left wounds unhealed, he left large bills unpaid, and because he chose to be the ender of his life he took away the life insurance that would have paid for the funeral, the burial plot and the mountain of bills he left behind.
Now that our largest fear has come manifest, we are doing all we can to prevent the other two pressing fears from becoming realities as well. I've set up this GoFundMe account to help my mother save her home, and to help pay the burial expenses for my father. I never thought the day would come when I would have to step up and ask a community for help. But the reality is, he left us no choice but to seek help from family, friends and even strangers. You see, he didn't just leave us, he left behind a shit storm of uncertainty, My new found mission is to do everything I can to help my save my mom's house and pay off the last of his medical bills, and once that's settled, I want to help everyone I can to never feel this pain ever, ever again!
I'm not sure what else to say at this time, but I'm sure I will edit as needed.
$5, $10, $25, whatever you can give - anything will help. I just want to help my mom keep one of the only things she has left at the point. Anything is appreciated! Thank you in advance, Big virtual hugs to each and every one of you..
I'm trying to focus on the positive and have been sharing what I can of my story in hopes of helping others. I'm also choosing to focus on the happy times with dad because looking at the dark times that have taken place is no way to live. I feel like it's my duty to be as positive as possible and live as happily as I can for the rest of my life. I don't know if that will make sense to everyone, but if this experience has taught me anything it's that life is too short to live it looking for reasons to be sad.
One thing getting me through this is all of you. So many people have reached out and lifted me up in a way I never expected. Some of you have gotten me out to events in recent days and have helped me see the good. Others have distracted me with laughter from funny videos and pictures. Others still have warmed my heart with sweet messages.
I know many of you have expressed interest in visiting with my mom. I'm sorry we haven't welcomed guests yet, but hopefully some time soon that will be possible. I'm doing all I can to help her as she and I both try to make peace in the best way we can with what has happened. Just know she does appreciate all of your messages, prayers, gifts, and thoughts.
The photo in this update is about 13 years old, but again, it's how I'm choosing to remember my dad. I'm trying to remember the happiest moments I did get with him. Please continue to keep my family in your prayers. Thank you all for...well...everything. I love you all and appreciate you more than you know.
You can mail her stuff at
PO Box 340237
Tampa, FL 33694
My heart breaks. I'm not able to pay right now, but I would like to make a Afghan for your mom. I am facing a Biopsy this Friday, so I will be a little late starting it. Whatever you do, keep close to God. ((hugz)) Prayers for you and your family.