Max Delsohn Needs Top Surgery

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Raised by 126 people in 5 months
TLDR; In case you don't know me or haven't seen my website, I'm a stand-up comedian and writer. I’m also a transgender man and don’t want to have boobs anymore. Please help me remove them. Surgery costs will ultimately total $6600. If you're able, consider donating or sharing this campaign. 

Some details: Before my transition, I spent much of my waking life trying to pin down moments where I felt essentially man, woman, lesbian, non-binary, butch. Nothing stuck. Instead, I focused my energy on making individual decisions-- cutting my hair, buying new clothes, taking testosterone-- and monitored my feelings. These changes felt good, so I embraced them.

Top surgery is another such decision. My boobs are small. Like an instinct, the discomfort appears easy to rationalize away. You tell yourself it’s not that bad, that nobody feels completely at home in their body, that lots of people wear bras everyday and binding’s pretty much the same, that top surgery won’t solve your social anxiety or your general self-loathing. Still, the discomfort lingers. It gnaws.

The first thing I knew about myself was that I was awkward-- an awkward lesbian, then an awkward guy. Later I came to know my kindness, my ambition, my earnestness. As I further cultivate these values, some of that awkwardness has fallen away. Things are so different from when I was twelve years old at all girls Catholic school writing a suicide letter with a red gel pen. I’m married. We have a cat. I’ve just reduced hours at my day job to focus more energy on making money from my art, which is already going better than expected. Each day, I am, quite literally, overwhelmed with my good fortune. But then I look in the mirror after I get out of the shower, and I’m twelve again. I’ve made myself physically ill looking at my chest in the mirror too long. Only now that my life is so good am I able to see this suffering as unnecessary. I am only recently able to believe the joy so often available to cis people can be mine.

My surgery is scheduled for May 23rd of this year. Insurance is covering a little bit of the surgery, but I just don't have $6000 lying around. If you’re able to donate any amount, even a few dollars, I’d be so grateful. If you can’t donate, please don’t feel pressured to. You’re encouraged to share this campaign in any way you choose. Perhaps you have one million Instagram followers, or one million grandmas you play Mahjong with. Try the grandmas, grandmas love me. If you’d rather not donate, consider subscribing to my weekly newsletter  (short humor-ish essays), which you can sign up for for just $5/month, or $50/year.

Thanks everyone. You’ve all helped me so much over the years, in so many big ways. I’m humbled beyond expression. Really, thank you.
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IT'S OVER!!! Hey, we reached the goal! My brain's still fuzzy from the procedure, so this won't be nearly as eloquent a thank you as deserved, but thank you. It is hard for me to grasp how willing each of you have been to help me have and recover from this surgery. It is similarly hard for me to grasp how, even at 10% of my usual energy and focus, my life is better in this simple but profound way. Dysphoria limits the imagination, or is sort of like imagination in reverse-- it burrows and thrives in what can't be. Even though I had a sense of wanting top surgery, I couldn't imagine this relief, how easy it is to be, now. The fact that everyone who donated or shared this campaign or helped in any way could be so invested in my quality of life is staggering. I will not ever get over it. Thank you.
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Last night was my perfect comedy fundraiser Max Gets The Chop! Thank you to Clara Pluton, Dewa Dorje, Evelyn Jensen, Alyssa Yeoman, Natalie Holt, Monisa Brown, Val Nigro, and Ezra Delsohn for performing. I’m regularly inspired by all of you. It’s a privilege to work with you and call you friends.

Thank you, too, to everyone who came to the show last night, donated money or their services, said a kind word, anything. I feel thoroughly supported and taken care of. I am so lucky to have this strong + loving community to help me through this big change.

Between cash donations and Venmo, Max Gets The Chop raised $209! I’ve also gotten some other donations via cash/Venmo/Facebook in the past, so I’ve changed my GoFundMe goal to reflect those contributions. This past Monday was my pre-op appointment. Next time I go into the surgeon’s office, on May 23, I’ll have my procedure. I’ll do one last social media push the week of my surgery, so feel free to continue to share/like/tell your friends if you are so moved.

I am shocked and humbled at how kind and willing to help you all of have been. There aren’t words for the depth of gratitude I feel. Thank you.
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From Max Delsohn, some very transgender news!

It's been a whirlwind of a week here at headquarters. On Monday I went to have my consultation with my surgeon, and learned A) I can hack the mainframe of insurance and get some of my surgery covered and B) I don't have to wait until next year to have surgery. I can actually have surgery this year. I can actually have surgery in May.

I am now frantically emailing and calling to get insurance and letters from health professionals before May 23rd, but it's on the calendar. The other exciting development is that I can now bring my GoFundMe goal down a significant amount, which puts me really close to the end of this campaign! I'm so grateful to everyone who has donated or shared or subscribed to my newsletter these past few weeks. I do not get this surgery without your help.

If you haven't done the donating/sharing/subscribing thing yet, please consider doing so. I'll write another update when the mood strikes or if this goal gets REACHED. Again, thank you all!
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Friends, I am so humbled by this outpouring of support. I feel shy and vulnerable about this part of my life, but the generosity of everyone who has donated and/or shared this campaign makes me tear up. I'll be sending out individualized thank you notes over the next few weeks, but in the meantime, thank you. I've seen every donation and (I think?!) most of the shares, and I am floored.

Right now I am playing phone tag with the surgeon's office as we try to set up my first consultation. I've learned that to secure my surgery, I'll need to pay a $1000 deposit up front. Thanks to this campaign, I have enough money to put down this crucial deposit, not to mention my early-stage appointments. I'll need to raise more money before my actual surgery next summer, but this strong start gives me hope.

Please continue to share with your networks whenever you feel so moved. I'll update this campaign regularly, as well as each time I get some exciting surgery news. You are so wonderful. I am overwhelmed by your kindness.
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