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Please Help Caregiver Start Over

$3,689 of $5,149 goal

Raised by 49 people in 3 months
UPDATE May 8, 2019:  I have just received the eviction notice, so I must pay the rent by Friday or become homeless.

Once again, thank you to those of you who have donated. Your generous help has been greatly appreciated. With the donations received so far, I was able to eliminate the huge utility debt that remained and bring the rent current which has allowed me to continue living here.

But, once again, it's just a matter of days until I am homeless. 

Though I am looking constantly, and have been close to getting a job, I have not found work as yet. The rent is now past due, and  I will have to move out even though I have no place to go and not enough resources to dispose of my mother’s things or to store my own. The only plan available seems to be to pack whatever I can into the car I’m using and abandon the rest. Where I will go, I don’t know...

I am still seeking $1500 to cover the rent and give me more time. If anyone is able to help with a donation (or a loan), it would be a massive help.

My Story

Hi, my name is Jeff. I’m 59 and live in Morgan Hill, California. That’s me in the photo with my mom, Doris. She passed away at the age of 92 this past Christmas Eve, December 24, 2018. For the past 5 years I had been her full-time caregiver. Now that she is gone, I have to start over, find a job and build a new life.

So I am appealing for help in paying past due bills and the rent for March so I can have a place to live while I find work. This is rather urgent, as I will have to move out and since I have no where else to go, I would be homeless.

How did I get here?

My mom was a registered nurse her entire life. The many places she worked during her 60-plus years as a nurse included nursing homes. And she had told her friends that she would never want to end up in a nursing home. She asked me to stay with her "forever." So, I became her caregiver to allow her to spend her last years in her own home. I loved her and felt I had an obligation to help her live as she wished in her final years.

But it was very difficult. My mom suffered from macular degeneration, so she was practically blind. For the last four years, she had to use a walker because of extremely limited mobility. She was in the hospital in 2017 for congestive heart failure. Then she fell last March and broke her wrist. Since July, she was confined to a wheelchair. And then she suffered multiple strokes; it was a bad year… I also had a heart attack last January and was injured in an accident in October.

It was also difficult financially. We were barely making it month to month. We began to fall behind on the utilities. I ended up selling many of my belongings just to pay the bills: my car, my laptop, my iPhone, etc… We did not receive any assistance from the government and I was not compensated in any way for being a full-time caregiver.  Things just got worse once the medical bills started to increase.

I miss my mom. But, truthfully, she is in a better place. The last few years have been very difficult for her and she was ready to go. She said so. Her parents and most of her close relatives died fairly young, so my mom making it to 92 was really something. She had a long, full life.

As for me, I now have to start over. I have been actively looking for work and do so nearly continuously. My age will work against me for some jobs in this area. Some employers would also consider what I have been doing for the past 5 years as a gap in my work history. But I'm still looking and still hopeful that I'm worthwhile enough to be hired. I have had several interviews, however I have not received any job offers yet.

Since I have been an unpaid caregiver for the last 5 years, I do not have any resources to draw upon. I am receiving food benefits from the county. But I need urgent help with the rent and utilities so I can have a stable base from which to continue my job search. Otherwise, I will be homeless soon and have nowhere to go.

The money I have received in this campaign so far has gone to paying the past due rent and some of the past due utilities. Any further funds that are donated will go to paying the  rent and keeping the utilities on.

I have revised the campaign's goal downward to reflect progress on rearranging my utility debt. So the goal will pay the rent and utilities, enabling me to stay and have some breathing space, some time to find a job and dispose of my mother's things.

If I am unable to raise my goal, then I would have to put any additional funds donated towards the cost of putting my belongings in storage and disposing of my mom’s things and furniture, so I can move out.

It’s never been easy for me to ask for help, but I am in a truly desperate situation. The few friends and family I have are unable to help me at this time. I do not want to be homeless. I just want the chance to start over, to find work and have the opportunity to build a new life.

If you're able to contribute, it would be greatly appreciated and a real help to my life. Please share this campaign with others. Thanks for reading.
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To the donors and followers of my GoFundMe campaign:

Sorry for bothering you, but I am contacting everyone with an update on my situation. Once again, thank you to those of you who have donated. Your generous help has been greatly appreciated. With the donations received so far, I was able to eliminate the huge utility debt that remained and bring the rent current which has allowed me to continue living here.

Though I am looking constantly, and have been close to getting a job, I have not found work as yet. I have just received a 3-day eviction notice, so I must pay the rent by 4pm Friday or become homeless.

I will have to move out even though I have no place to go and not enough resources to dispose of my mother’s things or to store my own. The only plan available seems to be to pack whatever I can into the car I’m using and abandon the rest. Where I will go, I don’t know...

I am still seeking $1500 to cover the rent and give me more time. If anyone is able to help with a donation (or a loan), it would be a massive help. I am not soliciting any new donations from those that have already helped, but if you could share my campaign, that would be appreciated. Thanks.
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