Travel The World
My name is Rebecca, I'm from Greater Manchester and I'm writing this today to try and raise funds for myself. I've tried to condense my story as much as possible but if you could find the time to read to the end and donate any spare change that you have. Thank you so much in advance. I've wanted to see the world since I was little, but due to the events that have happened in my life I haven't had a chance.. when I was 18 years old(I'm now 30) I was introduced to a man who seemed like a dream come true, he'd bring me flowers, buy me gifts and tell me that he loved me and to an 18 year old girl this is heaven. Everything was bliss for the first few months and then things started to change.. he'd ask me to stay in my room when he wasn't there, ask me to text him to let him know what I was doing throughout the day or ask me who I'd spoke to that day and what was said. Naturally I didn't think anything of this at the time, this went on for a few months until the first Valentine's day we spent together..he came round that night with roses, chocolates and a crystal in a beautiful presentation box, I can't remember how it happened exactly but I do remember that he said that I cheated on him with my next door neighbour and because of this I would have to be punished, punishment this time was being hit on the knees with the crystal he had bought me and staying up all night, he made be believe that I deserved this, I did believe him and I believed him again and again and again... the things he hurt me with ranged from his fists, weights, boiling hot water to metal bars. The are gaps in my memory from times I blacked out and things I just can't remember because there are to many occasion to clearly separate them all. If I recounted all the years that I spent with this person then I would be writing an essay here and I'm not sure how many characters this website will allow me to put in. The physical abuse I went through from this man got steadily more progressive and more frequent and the emotional abuse was constant, the worst of which was not being by my mum's side when she passed away, this Person striped me of everything I was and owned, he took away things I did for fun like drawing and reading, he took away friends and family and all the money I earned whilst he let me work(while wearing a button camara). Because of the 13 years I was with him I'm a stranger to most of my family. I'm confident in saying that the only reason I'm on the end of this phone able to type this is because he hurt me so bad enough the last time to nearly kill me.. went to the doctors one morning because I couldn't swallow anything and was finding it really difficult to breath.. and on this morning I remember the doctor rushing in and giving me an adrenaline shot... and then nothing until waking up in hospital after 5 operations, I later learned that I'd had a tear in my throat which was letting food into my lungs and that if I'd have left it another day I probably wouldn't be here. The police where there and told me that they had arrested him and if I wanted to press charges, o agreed because I felt safer in the hospital and felt sure that if I went back with him then he would kill me. Being in hospital for so long I had to learn how to take and walk again whilst I was giving my video statement to the police (during this process I had one of my mum's favourite Disney teddies with me which made me feel stronger) after getting out of hospital I went to court where I was behind a screen so I didn't have to see him. Thanks to my statement and the statements of 3 other girls(one of whom I'm still good friends with) he was sent down for 4 life sentences and an accumulation of 71 years, so he will never see the light of day(although I'm sure when his appeal comes round he'll try). There's is light at the end of the tunnel though, after coming home I'm very slowly getting back to reality , it was hard the first few months as I had to regain my strength, but since coming home I've passed my driving test, am renting my own room and I now have a job(this last one is a recent development), but being away for the first part of my adult life I'm still learning how to be an 'Adult' and I'm finding that saving up is not something I'm good at yet unfortunately.. I'm getting better but I'm hoping to set of traveling next year. I don't know if this is a long shot but someone told me to give it a go... so here I am.. If you have any questions please ask as I'm happy to try and answer them, If you have any critisms them please I implore you to just stop and think..' what would you have done, really?' Thank you for reading this through to the end I know I rambled on a bit a tend to do that sometimes One finally note before I click the 'Next button... halve of whatever is raised here will be donated to a domestic abuse victims charity.