My Trans Care Fund
I am a genderqueer transgender boi with a very prominent 34EE. I have severe dysphoria about my chest, which makes my PTSD, depression, and social anxiety worse.
Binding is the only coping mechanism which allows me to leave the house. Unfortunately, it also causes me back and chest pains, and breathing difficulties.
A mastectomy / top surgery is clearly my best option - one I am struggling to access through the NHS because of my non-binary gender identity, and ongoing mental health issues.
Private surgery costs money I don't have. I only work part-time (my health makes it hard to find / keep a full-time job); I have quite a bit of debt, and no savings. This fund is my only shot at accessing treatment before the NHS breaks me.
Please share my story, and donate if you can.
Eternal gratitude and love <3
At long last, I have secured a psychiatrist's support for surgery. I'm seeing my surgeon to set a date on February 12th. We're probably looking at mid-March. This is really happening. At last! And it's happening soon.
To everyone who's donated, shared & said kind words, thank you. Your love has literally kept me alive. I will never forget this. I will strive to be a boy that makes you proud.
Thank you <3
It did not go well.
There's more investigation to be done into the details but chances are, you need not just a psychiatric assessment but also the say so of a judge to get top surgery in Italy, just like you need the say so of a judge to get your name & gender marker changed on documents. & considering it took 20 years for a trans woman who'd had national health service counselling, HRT & top but not bottom surgery to convince the Italian supreme court to change her name & gender marker, my guess is that no Italian judge is going to let a mentally ill non-binary trans boy who doesn't want HRT or bottom surgery access any surgery at all.
a) get a second psychiatric opinion; if I can get a psych letter, that will be sufficient for Birmingham surgeon (I haven't heard from London surgeon in months despite my repeated attempts at contact).
b) research legalities & costs of having surgery abroad. Trans friends who live not in the UK / Italy or have travelled outside of said places to have a mastectomy done, please share your wisdom & advice.
Unfortunately, I need your help once more.
The money already raised by this fund and its previous incarnation would have paid for me to have top surgery privately in the city where I live, thus enabling me to do my recovery at home. Sadly, the local surgeon is unwilling to operate without a psychiatric referral, and getting a psychiatric referral through the NHS is proving impossible - because institutional transphobia.
One NHS psychiatrist said that while he didn't "dispute the diagnosis of transgenderism," he wasn't going to "endorse the procedure" because I had "willingly walked away from NHS treatment" (or lack thereof) at the Gender Identity Clinic . Like the psychiatrists at the clinic, this man thought me likelier to change my mind because I am non-binary, haven't chosen a “traditional transition path,” and have a history of trauma & mental health struggle.
The NHS psychiatrist approached by my GP for a second opinion has declined to see me, no reason given. I can only imagine she didn’t want to touch trans healthcare with a bargepole.
A consultation with a private psychiatrist would have cost me upwards of £250, so I spent that money to go and see another private surgeon in London instead. Good news is, he is willing to do the surgery on an informed consent basis. Bad news is, I'd be staying in a private hospital overnight, and medical bills are more expensive in London.
In addition to this, I need to raise legal fees for a forthcoming discrimination case - I have been advised not to go into further detail at this stage. My solicitors are working on a "no win, no fee" basis, but I still need to pay my own expenses.
I consider this to be trans health related expenses because this case has been affecting my already poor mental and physical health for over a year; if there is a trial, I will likely find myself juggling that with surgery recovery. Even so, I can’t and don’t want to drop it, because it’s too important to me and other trans people.
Breakdown of money I need to raise:
- London surgeon consultation: £250
- extra surgery costs (estimate): £1,000+
- claim issue fee: £250
- court fee: £900
- GoFundMe fees (estimate): £250
Plus whatever the barrister fees end up being. We’ll cross that bridge when we come to it.
I am a disabled, mentally ill genderqueer trans boy with a low-wage part-time job; I even had to cut down on overtime as it was making me more ill. I have debt. There is no way I can afford surgery or this case alone.
Please share my story, and please consider donating if you can. Thank you in advance.
... I still can't believe this is actually happening. I'm so happy I could cry. I probably will later. Right now I l, just, thank you, all of you.
If you've donated, shared, supported me with hugs and friendship and pictures of cats, I can't thank you enough, but I will try.
To say it with Les Mis: "It's thanks to you that I am living, and again I lay down my life at your feet." Thank you for giving me the chance to feel more like the boy I know I am. I will strive to be a good one. I will do my best to make you proud.
They say there's no such thing as an LGBTQ community, but they are mistaken. If you're reading this, it's because you saw me in a pit of dysphoria and despair, and reached out to me, with kindness and love and the money I desperately needed. That's community, that's solidarity, that's hope.
Thank you, I love you, you are all the best forever, thank you for making me the happiest little clam in the whole world!
signed, one incredibly grateful Judie Boi
ps. this is the BEST start to Pride weekend ♥