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Inez Rudderham has Cancer

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Raised by 473 people in 13 months
31391368_153183144966870_r.jpeg                                                                Inez with her 3 year old daughter Delores

Inez Has Cancer

Inez has stage 3 anal cancer. Or, as we like to call it, #assholecancer. It was diagnosed on May 31 after a year of pain, which was diagnosed 3 times as hemmoroids.

Eventually the pain became extremely difficult and she was admitted to the hospital on Friday to help with pain management. The good news is that Halifax has an excellent pain management team and she is doing much better. The pain never really goes away but it is at a manageable level.

Yesterday she started very intensive chemoradiation treatment. UGH! It’s a gruelling schedule - chemo treatments will be given in two cycles intravenously and each cycle lasts 96hrs. The first cycle started yesterday and the second starts first day of week 4. Radiation treatments is Monday to Friday for 30/40 mins per day for 30 days. There will be an 8-12 weeks healing period after treatment.

Inez hasn’t been able to work for the past year except for a few short periods when the pain was minimal. And she will not be able to work for the next 4-6 months. She and her family really need help to get through this - financially and emotionally. And there are numerous ways that you can help.

Financially they need help paying day to day bills since Inez has not been able to work for a year. As well, they have extra bills related to her cancer and treatment such as paying for her partner Adrian to stay and eat at the lodge while Inez is going through treatment. (Inez stays there for free) This has been strongly recommended by the social worker who is part of her medical team so they do not have to make the 40 minute (each way) trip to and from their home in Windsor. Making that trip daily would have a negative impact on Inez health and ability to recover from treatment and the cancer.  Note: She is in the hospital now but once the treatment is underway and her pain is well managed she will be receiving treatment as an outpatient which is why there is a need for Halifax housing near the hospital.

If you are in a position to help financially that would make a huge difference. A contribution of any amount is helpful - $5 or $500 - it all adds up.  You can make a one time contribution now or you can make a monthly contribution. We will be keeping this campaign going until Inez is fully recovered.

All funds will be managed by her aunt Terry Rudderham at Inez's discretion and in consultation with her partner Adrian.

Make a one time financial contribution - This is the most helpful thing you can do.  Any amount is helpful and appreciated.

Make a monthly contribution - Knowing that there will be a certain amount of money coming in monthly would be a huge help - financially and emotionally. If you can contribute monthly please leave a comment letting us know  the amount or send an email.

Send a card  - it would mean so much to Inez to hear from friends and family.  Cards can be sent to:
Inez Rudderham
PO Box 40013
Robie Street Station
Halifax NS B3K 0E4
Canada

There will be regular updates to this page. If you would like to be informed of the updates by email please let us know.

If you would prefer to make a contribution by cheque please make the cheque out to Terry Rudderham with a note in the memo line - for Inez. Mail to:
Inez Rudderham
PO Box 40013
Robie Street Station
Halifax NS B3K 0E4
Canada

This campaign was started and will be managed by her aunt and friend, Terry Rudderham. If you have any questions please feel free to email.
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Inez’s Video Goes Viral

Imagine my surprise when I opened my email Thursday morning and saw that GoFundMe was sending, seemingly out of the blue, $1,098.00. The campaign had been inactive for 7 months. But I had not closed it. So, I texted Inez and that is when I learned that a four and a half minute photo she posted on Facebook about the Nova Scotia health care crisis and the lack of support from mental health services had gone viral! Amazing. To date it has been seen 3.1 million times.

Here is a link to the video if you want to watch it. Grab a kleenex first though.

https://www.facebook.com/marilyn.inez/videos/10156155486545812/?t=4

She also let me know that they had accepted an offer on their home. Yes, they had to sell it. Inez hasn’t been able to work for the last several years because of her cancer and that put her family in financial straits. They have to move before the end of May.

There is some good news. Her cancer is in remission. It doesn’t get any better than that!

She did an interview with CBC about it and you can watch that here.

https://www.cbc.ca/player/play/1508537411767

And here are a few written stories.

https://www.thechronicleherald.ca/news/local/nova-scotia-mom-with-cancer-challenges-premier-tell-me-there-is-no-health-care-crisis-305362/

https://www.cbc.ca/news/canada/nova-scotia/n-s-cancer-patient-shocked-and-grateful-1.5113497

As you might imagine financial and emotional help is really important so the GoFundMe Campaign continues. Please help if you can. And if you can’t help financially that’s ok. Keep her and her family in your thoughts and send out lots of healing energy.

With Love & Appreciation,
Aunt Terry, on behalf of Inez
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No Punches Pulled

OK, I’m not going to pull any punches. Having cancer is tough. Chemo therapy is tough. Radiation treatment is tough. Anal cancer is brutal. The last two weeks have been super tough, physically and emotionally. Tough for everyone who is closely involved in her care but particularly tough for Inez. And even though all of this was expected and is just a part of what one who has cancer goes through to stay alive, it’s really, really tough. Please send lots of love and good energy her way.

Nonetheless, Inez continues to be an amazing patient. And an amazing person too! She is tough, resilient, gracious, kind and compassionate towards herself and others. She is not afraid to be herself and I love that about her. And she continues to see the bright side of things even in the midst of the pain and debilitating side effects of the chemo and radiation treatment. And as always she is thinking about those who are supporting her and sends her heartfelt thanks. She was particularly happy to be able to buy a better quality special cushion for sitting. No small thing when you have anal cancer.

She was released from the hospital just over a week ago which made her so happy. She left the hospital and went straight to her home in Windsor for the weekend. Such joy to be with her daughter, partner and mother. On Monday she came back to Halifax to go through another week of radiation treatment. And there have been some downright horrible moments; like being up all night incredibly sick then having to go for radiation treatment - the very thing making her sick - in the morning.

But there is also good news - they had to come up with a new radiation plan because her tumour is shrinking! This is the best news ever.

But then, more bad news in finding out her hemoglobin was low and she needed a blood transfusion. Ugh! That just happened yesterday.

And then good news. She gets to go home for a long weekend! Not two days without radiation but Three. Whole. Days.

Good news, bad news, what a roller coaster ride!

Her medical team continues to be awesome, and her mother Geri and her partner Adrian are working hard to be with her in the best and most helpful ways possible. And she is surrounded by people willing to help and support her. So unfortunate to have cancer, so fortunate to be have so many loving people in her life.

There have been a couple of fundraisers for her. I mentioned one in my last update. Another one - Our Mother's Keepers put out a jar for collecting donations but also come up with a clever idea - On Wed-Nez-Day 10% of sales goes to Nez, which is a nickname that Inez is commonly called.

And of course, one bright spot has been the many generous contributions to the this campaign. To date $6,329 has been raised through 103 contributions to help Inez on this journey. That is a lot of generous people. Thank you so much! We exceeded our minimal goal which is good news. However, it was a minimum goal, barely enough to get her and her family through this time. So please keep on contributing if you can. It is impossible to describe how helpful it is. But I promise you it is an incredibly helpful thing to do. If you can.

I’m including three photos in this update. A feel good day not long after she found a wig she loves. Did you know they offer free wigs to cancer patients? How great is that!

And a not so feel good day - yesterday while getting a blood transfusion. With AUM bear. She takes comfort from having one of her daughters stuffies with her.

With Love & Appreciation,
Aunt Terry, on behalf of Inez
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It’s sad. It’s bad. But there’s good news too!

To be honest the last couple of nights have been really bad for Inez and the days only slightly better. It was expected – most of us have some idea of what chemo does to those that need it. She is experiencing a lot of pain from the cancer and is very nauseous from the chemo. And nights are particularly challenging so her partner Adrian stayed overnight with her last night. That helped.

The other piece of sad news is that she will not be released from the hospital yet. Originally her medical team was planning to have her go through treatment as an outpatient but her pain crisis last week changed that. She was admitted to the hospital at that point and they’ve decided for the moment it’s the best place to be. She will be allowed out of the hospital for a few hours over the weekend. And once her chemo is done she might be able to switch to outpatients but only if her pain can be well managed. So, it’s wait and see at this point.

But there is good news as well. Quite a long list of good news.

She is able to eat! Not a lot by normal standards but a whole lot more then she has been able to eat in a month. This is the best news.

She has a truly wonderful medical team who are rallying to make her situation the best it can be.

She is now in a private room.

She is finishing up this round of chemo today. Then she’ll have a break from chemo for 3 weeks before starting the second round. Oh, just writing this makes me so happy! In the meantime she will be receiving radiation treatments from Monday to Friday for 30 – 40 minutes per day for the next 5 weeks. The radiation targets and shrinks the actual tumor while the chemo’s job is to kill any cancer cells that may be roaming around.

She has received tremendous support from friends and some members of her family. Her partner Adrian is ready to do anything to help whether it is to be by her side or simply being a great father. Her mother Geri is here as long as she is needed (which might be forever because we always need our moms even when we don’t ). Geri is working in tandem with Adrian to make sure Inez has everything she needs and that her granddaughter is well looked after. Aunts, uncles and cousins have stepped up to provide money and support.

And of course, her friends have made her so happy. They have been supporting her financially, emotionally and sending lots of love.

And her sweet, so very sweet, daughter Delores was in to visit Wednesday and yesterday. Below are some photos from the visits.

And people are starting to rally. Mosaic Market – a Health and Local Food & Café posted this on their website page. Oh, my heart! - Meet Inez ❤️ This local young lady is in the fight of her life and we are going to pull together and help her! There is a Go Fund Me Page set for Inez, this jar is for those who would prefer to drop notes & donations off, who don’t do online banking or who don’t use the internet! While she is away in treatment, her bills must be paid and let’s face it- everyone needs a little cash flow even while fighting for their life! Check out the pics of her with her adorable daughter and Mom Leave kind words, donations and always send her positive energy! Thank you Mosaic community!

There has even been donations from complete strangers who happened to see her story on Facebook and felt they wanted to help! Amazing and heartwarming.

Inez has asked time and time again to make sure everyone knows how appreciative she is for all the support. I’m not surprised – she’s is always thinking of others! She loves the messages and cards she has been receiving. And of course, financial contributions are appreciated and really needed. So don’t be shy to donate $5 or $10. It really does add up. In just 3 days we reached 70% of our goal which is tremendously exciting and helpful! Nonetheless we still have 30% more to get to the minimum amount needed. And as Mosaic Market said in their post - Everyone needs a little cash flow while fighting for their life!

With Love & Appreciation,
Aunt Terry on behalf of Inez
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Inez is entering her third day of treatment. I am so proud of this amazing woman whose strength, kindness and cheerfulness in the midst of intense pain and illness is remarkable!

It is so helpful for her to be able to start relaxing around the financial issues her family has been working with since the pain from her tumour stopped her from working. And it is the financial support that she has received through this campaign that is allowing that. Just as important, she feels and knows that she is surrounded by love and support. And even though she had a tough night last night she wants you to know that she is profoundly grateful and sends her heartfelt thanks.

I thought I would share these two Instagram posts I took from Inez’s Instagram page (with her permission, of course). One is a photo of her and her mother and she tells a sweet story about being admitted to the hospital due to the intense pain she was suffering.

The second photo is of her and her daughter and Inez talks about how much she misses her. Yes, you might shed a tear when you read this one. But it’s very real.

The mother - daughter bond is strong and fierce.

On another note you might have noticed Inez’s Instagram handle – inezrudderbutt – and wondered what’s that about? It was her Instagram name long before she developed cancer. You may have guessed that a name like Rudderham invites many variations from children in your life and you would be right about that. Or, in other words, we became the butt of many jokes. I got rubberbum, Inez got rudderbutt. Now she has #assholecancer .

We will leave this GoFundMe page up until Inez has recovered so please feel free to come back, say hello, grab the address to send a card, or leave money if you are able.

With Love & Appreciation,
Aunt Terry, on behalf of Inez
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Posted by Terry Rudderham
13 months ago ago
Inez is entering her third day of treatment. I am so proud of this amazing woman whose strength, kindness and cheerfulness in the midst of intense pain and illness is remarkable!

It is so helpful for her to be able to start relaxing around the financial issues her family has been working with since the pain from her tumour stopped her from working. And it is the financial support that she has received through this campaign that is allowing that. Just as important, she feels and knows that she is surrounded by love and support. And even though she had a tough night last night she wants you to know that she is profoundly grateful and sends her heartfelt thanks.

I thought I would share these two Instagram posts I took from Inez’s Instagram page (with her permission, of course). One is a photo of her and her mother and she tells a sweet story about being admitted to the hospital due to the intense pain she was suffering.

The second photo is of her and her daughter and Inez talks about how much she misses her. Yes, you might shed a tear when you read this one. But it’s very real.

The mother - daughter bond is strong and fierce.

On another note you might have noticed Inez’s Instagram handle – inezrudderbutt – and wondered what’s that about? It was her Instagram name long before she developed cancer. You may have guessed that a name like Rudderham invites many variations from children in your life and you would be right about that. Or, in other words, we became the butt of many jokes. I got rubberbum, Inez got rudderbutt. Now she has #assholecancer .

We will leave this GoFundMe page up until Inez has recovered so please feel free to come back, say hello, grab the address to send a card, or leave money if you are able.

With Love & Appreciation,
Aunt Terry, on behalf of Inez
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