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In Loving Memory of Ajene Bomani- Robertson

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Raised by 471 people in 3 months
Created May 7, 2019
Team Ajene
On May 6th, We lost a dear friend and brother. Shannon lost a loving husband, life partner and father to her kids. The Robertson Family lost a son and a brother. Garfield Alums lost a fellow Bulldog. And Seattle lost a TRUE Champ. Ajene - We love you, we appreciate the light you brought into our lives, we will forever remember your big smile, your gentle soul and we will forever ride for you!
****This GoFundme is created to honor the life of Ajene and ALL proceeds will be donated to Shannon Robertson who is soon to be deliver their 3rd child. REST IN PARADISE AJENE!

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We will be celebrating Ajene's life on what would have been his 45th birthday, August 2nd 2019, 1pm at Garfield High School in Seattle, Washington.

Thank you everyone for the continued phone calls, home visits, meal drop offs and prayers. Being surrounded with love is what we need now.
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Time is a strange thing when you're living through grief. Today was 2 months since Ajene passed. 8 Mondays ago. But to me it feels like yesterday. Like time has stood still. I see the world moving around me, but I'm stuck in that moment of shock, when everything was turned upside down and inside out. When my life went from eager anticipation of welcoming our 3rd baby into the world to utter devastation and not caring whether I lived or died, because my husband, my soul mate was gone.

Cardiac arrest. What did that even mean? I had spoken to Ajene on the phone only 15 minutes before I got the call saying he had collapsed. How could this happen? He was one of the healthiest people I knew. This couldn't be!

Over the past 2 months, I have researched cardiac arrest and its causes and how to treat it. What I've learned is that cardiac arrest is NOT the same thing as having a heart attack. A heart attack is caused by clogged arteries from an unhealthy diet or lifestyle, drinking, smoking, and eating the wrong foods, not exercising. This can lead to high cholesterol and a build up of plaque, a blockage which stops the blood flow to the heart. However, when someone goes into cardiac arrest, it's an electrical issue with the heart. The rhythm of the heart is off for some reason, maybe because of overexertion on a damaged heart; damage due to bad valve or a thickening of the walls of the heart from a virus or a genetic abnormality.

When someone goes into cardiac arrest, it means their heart has completely stopped. There is no blood being pumped through the body. No oxygen to the brain. No pulse. So there are just MINUTES in which the heart needs to be restarted or shocked back into rhythm by way of a defribillator, also known as an AED. Just minutes to get the oxygen and blood flowing again so the brain can function. Most public places have AEDs and they are very easy to use. Literally, you hit the power button and the machine itself tells you exactly what to do - attach the pads to the person's chest, stand back and wait for the machine to shock them. That's it. It's easier than performing CPR.

It is so important to know CPR. And it is so important to make sure your job and your children's school, your gym, the places you frequent where people exert themselves, all have a working defribillator. So ask. Find out where it is and if it is in proper working condition. And if there isn't one, insist on getting one. Or take up a collection and buy it.

Two months. That's 8 weeks of waking up every morning and crying. That's 56 days of watching my non-verbal autistic son look at a picture of his dad on the wall, and then look out the window waiting for him to come home. That's 1,344 hours spent questioning God. And still, I'm no closer to having a good enough explanation to tell my boys why their daddy isn't here. No closer to accepting that my life has to now be lived without my Ajene. This is 8 weeks.
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The Robertson Family will be holding a memorial service to celebrate Ajene's life & homegoing on his birthday, Friday, August 2nd in Seattle, Washington. More details to come soon.
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Tatum Ajene is adjusting well to life in our chaotic household! His big brothers are very amused by him and Niall loves giving him kisses. Tatum's arrival was everything his Mommy & Daddy had prayed for - a quick, natural delivery.

My water broke at 330am and much to my own mom's protests, I went back to bed to rest and wait for contractions to begin. At 630am, contractions finally started. My best friend, LeAnna arrived at our place at 730am to drive me to the hospital. We made it to the hospital at 745am and little Tatum made his debut at 830am!

This past week has been bitter sweet. My happiness at holding my healthy baby boy is clouded by my grief in losing Ajene so suddenly. I think about how excited Ajene was to see how Lennox and Niall would react to their baby brother. How he was looking forward to taking the boys to their first Lakers game and coaching their sports teams. How we had already planned our first date night for after Tatum had arrived - sushi and sake in Hermosa Beach. How we had dreamed of more travel to places like Cuba, Amsterdam and Ireland. It is hard to let go of so many unrealized dreams. My heart aches for Ajene every morning when I wake up and realize this isn't actually a bad dream. It aches for him when I have a cup of coffee and he isnt there to talk about what's going on in the news or tell me how he thinks I should stop watching Wendy Williams. It aches for him when I see Lennox look at Ajene's photo and then look out the window at 630pm waiting for his daddy to come home from work.

I never knew how deep the well of grief goes. It feels like an endless source of tears and anger and emptiness. None of it makes sense or feels fair. But I have these beautiful boys that we created out of our love for each other. So I will keep loving on them. Praying through the pain and taking one day at a time, one hour, one minute.
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