HELP A SURVIVOR FINISH SCHOOL~ HELP

$1,150 of $5,500 goal

Raised by 27 people in 60 months
Lisia Mendiola  GRESHAM, OR

OKAY SO HERE IT IS, UNFORTUNATELY I HAVE REACHED MY LIMIT WITH SCHOOL LOANS AND THERE IS NOW VERY LITTLE OFFERED WITH FINANCIAL AID DUE TO THE NEW POLICIES THAT WERE SET BY OUR GOVERNMENT. I ONLY HAVE 1 LAST SEMESTER LEFT TO FINISH MY BACHELORS IN SOCIAL WORK AND REALLY NEED YOUR HELP. 

I HAVE TRIED TO APPLY FOR SCHOLARSHIPS BUT MANY OF THEM ARE ONES YOU HAVE TO APPLY FOR AT THE BEGINNING OF YOUR PROGRAM, WHERE I AM AT THE END OF MINE. I REALIZE THAT THERE ARE HUNDREDS OF PEOPLE IN NEED OF HELP WITH THEIR EDUCATION CURRENTLY BUT I'M DIFFERENT I PROMISE. 
I AM HOPING AND PRAYING THAT 10 PEOPLE CAN FIND 10 PEOPLE TO BE ABLE TO DONATE $10.00 UNTIL WE REACH $5500.00 WHICH IS HOW MUCH IT COSTS PER SEMESTER AT CONCORDIA, SO FAR I HAVE PAID FOR MY ENTIRE EDUCATION ON MY OWN AND WOULD NOT DO THIS IF I WAS NOT ENTIRELY OUT OF IDEAS. 
SO YOU ARE PROBABLY ASKING WHY YOU SHOULD HELP ME, RIGHT? WELL HERE'S MY STORY, ACTUALLY MY TESTIMONY.. THE TESTIMONY I HAVE GIVEN TO MANY ORGANIZATIONS BUT BEEN SHOT DOWN WHEN ASKING FOR HELP. 

My name is Lisia and I want to share with you my story in hopes that you will be able to help me. I am a survivor of domestic violence and human trafficking,  in 1985 while in California with my mother she was able to receive funds for  obtaining and securing  a marriage in place to a 26 year old man for me while I was only 13 at the time. It was my 14th birthday when that same man beat & raped me and left me for dead on the beach. Even though I told my mom what he had done, she did not protect me. Later she gave me back to him and the same violent act was carried out time and time again. There were even times when I was told to go with him and he had me at parties where I was forced to have sex with other older men. 



 It was not until winter of that same year that my mother demanded more money from this man and he declined stating that he had already paid for me. So while he was away oversees my mother packed us up in the middle of the night and we came back to Oregon, leaving California way behind me... or at least that is what I thought.

  My experiences with my mother led me into multitudes of chaos including the foster care system where I was sexually violated again and again. The  very vicious cycle of relationships that followed were no better, including  the one with my oldest daughter father. Ex 1 was a sweet talking sexy smelling manipulating expert, not only did he lead me to believe that he was perhaps my savior but that he would stand by my side and protect me. Later I realized that living in the trunk of his car was not a passionate or loving act. It took me a long time to realize that the black eyes, the burned skin, the bruises, the name calling and everything else that came with ending up in his trunk was not healthy. I guess the fact that I thought he was my boyfriend and yet he was selling me didn't dawn on me that he could possibly be using me... because people that love us don't hurt us, right? Once I found out that I was pregnant I decided to leave him, but little did I know that was not in his plans. I found out later that night after leaving that his plans including catching me between two parked semi's and beating me with a baseball bat while 5 months pregnant. 


I guess I didn't learn my lesson with ex1 because I ended up in yet another relationship afterwards that took me yet another 5 years to get out that was just as violent. The cycle of violence as I now know it is not something that can be answered as to why we go back, it is more of a testimony to how we survived. The cycle itself is very contextual because there are so many similarities between abusers and yet distinct and unique characteristics/personality traits. 


I finally got it after actually marrying my next relationship, getting pregnant and then leaving and divorcing him after finding out that he not only had 2 other women pregnant but he had molested my oldest daughter.  There is no bigger shame than knowing that your own judgment has not only hurt your life but the lives of your children, but I really was a textbook statistic if you think about it. 


Today I have chose to not be the average statistic, I have been married twice and divorced once. I have 5 beautiful children and 4 even more beautiful grandchildren. It has taken us years of counseling & even more years of individual therapy but they have all turned out to be my biggest success.


I currently am finishing up my bachelors of social work  at Concordia University here in Portland Oregon, with great hopes to go on to my masters but bigger hopes to open a shelter for survivors.   My five year plan may sound a little out there to some, but I'm praying that by  the end of 2012 I will have my bachelors and then quickly slide into my masters by the end of 2013 and my PHD by the end of 2015.  By the end of 2017 I plan on having good enough credit to open up a shelter... not just any shelter though. I want to open a shelter with 4 tiers. I want a side that is open to survivors of domestic violence and human trafficking (local) with programming & services that will carry them all the way through their first 2 years of college, training them and empowering them. My program will include more school and employment based programs. Then the other side will be a drop in center for youth who live in the pit of domestic violence everyday, with programs and activities for them to feel included and loved, we would feed them lunch and dinner everyday (funded by the USDA) and the community would feel a sense of pride and unity due to this program.  Lastly I would want a child care system included because one of the hardest thing to do when healing from any of these traumas is being able to have your child sit somewhere safe, so that YOU the survivor can be in the  moment of your own pain without worrying about re-traumatizing your child/ren. The one thing that is never allowed now is the moment where the survivor can just be that, the survivor... not the mom or the ex, but the survivor. One of the most important parts that I want to include is what is missing out of a lot of today's parenting. I want to be able to teach self worth, teach them to believe in themselves, and being able to go out and successfully gain employment is the first step to being independent and in order to do that moms need a place to safely place their children and a place to call home even if its just temporary, so they are able to go and breath their dreams. This program would be a 2 year program and hopefully there will be others in the nation who will flock to duplicate it.


In closing, I realize my dreams are big and at some level really expensive...but in all honesty I know dreams can come true! I would never had made it this far if a little girl in a grown woman's body, wouldn't have dreamed of another life. One without violence, one filled with love, patience, understanding, or the ability to go to school and be able to learn of the world that was out there, the same one I'd been hidden from for years, but most of all to learn to be able to fight for the marginalized, the oppressed, the abused, and defend them for the rest of the days of my life. If I had never dreamed this very small dream, then I would never had made it this far... will it be you that I thank in the end when I'm cutting the ribbon on my new shelter, for helping me get to where I needed to be in order to help those who are in the same place I came from? I would like to think that you will join my team and assist me in my endeavors so that we can together, empower a nation of survivors.

My best regards;

Lisia Mendiola Lopez 




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Update 23
Posted by Lisia Mendiola
22 months ago
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Thank you to all who supported.
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Update 22
Posted by Lisia Mendiola
58 months ago
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Thank you to everyone who contributed and allowed me to reach my goal.
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Update 21
Posted by Lisia Mendiola
58 months ago
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Thank you everyone for your continued support! I will be withdrawing from here as I have finally met the deadline. Thank you for all that you have done.
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Update 20
Posted by Lisia Mendiola
58 months ago
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WOW!!! What an honor it is that the woman that I want and strive to be like has donated to me! You know who you are, and I will not say your name. But just know that I have read your books and I can only hope to one day be just as smart and on top of it like you! You inspire me every step of the way, and I pray that one day I will finally meet you. Thank you for your support. 12 more credits and I'm outta here!
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$1,150 of $5,500 goal

Raised by 27 people in 60 months
Created March 29, 2012
Lisia Mendiola  
$20
Sherry Dooley
22 months ago

I know you're working on our masters - and this is old - but you still need the funds. Can't give much - but I'm sure it's adding up. Go-Go-Gadget! Love ya, Sissy

LP
$25
Lorna Pearson
22 months ago
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$10
Ken Teitelbaum
42 months ago

Maybe its too late. I'm not a rich man, I've had my own ...difficulties... But we share a common dream and I hope my pittance helps us both achieve it.

NT
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Nicole Thinnes
48 months ago
$100
Anonymous
58 months ago
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58 months ago
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58 months ago
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FreeIrishWoman
58 months ago
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60 months ago
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