Howie's funeral expenses

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Raised by 123 people in 17 months
Hi! My name is Susan West. Howie Schnur is my ex-husband and best friend in the whole world. He was diagnosed with stage 4 Metastatic Melanoma in October 2010 when he 34 years old. We have two children named David and Hannah who are 14 and 11 years old and we reside in Alvin, Tx. Howie has been in and out of the hospital trying every treatment and clinical trial in and effort to save his life for the past 6 years. He has undergone at least 30+ rounds of various chemotherapies, underwent radiation of his brain, spinal cord and liver and has had tumors burned out of his liver. He was at one point in remission for about 7-8 months in which he met his new wife Lorrie. They have been married for 3 years and is a wonderful,  loving woman who is currently taking care of him while his health is declining. Howie has been unable to work for the past 6 months and now lives on disability. He has no savings because the money he has saved was used to pay his bills while undergoing various surgeries and chemotherapy in an effort to save his life. He is no longer receiving treatment and is receiving palliative care to keep him comfortable. He has never given up the fight and so deserately wants to be here for his family. For the past 2 months his health has declined to the point that he is now 82 pounds, no longer wants to eat and drink and sleeps the majority of the time. There is no money to bury him and his final wishes are to be buried in Alvin so he can be close to his children. I would like to give my best friend a dignified burial so that my children, his wife and myself are able to visit and be close. He has been a true warrior and was so strong for me when my own mother died 4 years ago of cancer. Face to face with his own mortality he never wavered. Caring and loving, he would give anyone the shirt off his back even if that's all he had to offer. Any help would be so gratefully appreciated.
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Howie passed away today at 12:15pm central. He was such a loving person. Three days ago he was very awake and lucid... my daughter happened to stay home from school because she didn't feel well. I brought her over to take advantage of the situation. He told her that she would always be his princess and he loved her always. He told her to love herself and that he had a lot of pictures saved on the computer of him so she could remember him. She started to cry... after that day he was very confused and not coherent. I'm so happy that she had the opportunity to hear those words from her dad. She can carry those words in her heart forever.
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1/28/17

The kids spent the night at their dad's (Howie) last night. I drove over to pick up Hannah because she said she wasn't feeling well and didn't want to get her dad sick. I went into their bedroom to check on Howie. He was curled up under some thick blankets sleeping. I woke him up and asked him how he was feeling. "I'm ok, just tired." This man has always had so much energy. More energy than anyone I have ever known. He is the type of guy who paces while talking on the phone and prefers to stand up and surf the internet. Its heartbreaking to see that he can barely stay awake long enough to respond to my questions. I miss the millions of phone calls every day telling me some silly tidbit of info he read in the newspaper or online. I will miss sharing the weird things our kids have said or crazy things they have done. I will miss saying "That comes from your side of the family!" I feel very angry at God for taking away my best friend, father of my children, my first love, my Howman. His wife Lorrie and I were talking about what drew us to him. We both agree that he had the best sense of humor of any person we knew. Many a time he would crack a joke and I nearly pee'd my pants, I just couldn't stop. I'm not sure our kids are old enough to appreciate their dads humor....such a shame. I try and talk to Hannah and Dave about how they are feeling and remind them that I am here to listen. They always respond that they don't want to talk about it. How am I going to make this ok? How am I going to make it hurt less? There is no way to do that..I don't want them to hurt like I hurt already. I feel as though a part of me is dying, my best friend is leaving me.
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Hannah and Dave
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Howie this morning.
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Angela Reed
16 months ago
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I pray this need is answered for Susie. I have known Susie and Howie a long time, they are family to me. Despite them getting divorced they have remained Amazing friends. That is very rare. It breaks my heart for Susie and her kids to go through this again. Losing her mom so quickly to cancer just a few years ago was devastating. I hurt for her. Howie is a warrior, he has battled this disease for so long now. Every time I would see him he acted as if nothing was wrong with a smile on face and just his normal self. Physically you could tell he was very sick but speaking to him was as if nothing was wrong. I believe everyone deserves a proper burial. I think it will help his kids to have a place to go and visit him. They have had to be so strong after the passing of their grandma and knowing their dad was battling cancer as well. Cancer sucks. Please share if you can not donate. I love this family and every dollar counts.

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Melissa Wilson
16 months ago

I am so sorry fir your and your families loss. Many thoughts & prayers to all of you.

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Rachael N Karl
16 months ago

Howie touched my life as my brother was fighting his battle with pancreat cancer. I know Tom would be there to greet Howie as he arrived home today in God's kingdom without pain or suffering. God bless his family and thank God for bringing him into our lives. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all always. God gained another angel....❤❤❤

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Raised by 123 people in 17 months
Created January 25, 2017
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Rachel and Joe Whisenhunt
16 months ago

Love, thoughts, memories and prayers are always going your way, Howman.

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Marty Stone
16 months ago

He was a funny unique friend and father that was taken too soon.

Angela Reed
16 months ago
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I pray this need is answered for Susie. I have known Susie and Howie a long time, they are family to me. Despite them getting divorced they have remained Amazing friends. That is very rare. It breaks my heart for Susie and her kids to go through this again. Losing her mom so quickly to cancer just a few years ago was devastating. I hurt for her. Howie is a warrior, he has battled this disease for so long now. Every time I would see him he acted as if nothing was wrong with a smile on face and just his normal self. Physically you could tell he was very sick but speaking to him was as if nothing was wrong. I believe everyone deserves a proper burial. I think it will help his kids to have a place to go and visit him. They have had to be so strong after the passing of their grandma and knowing their dad was battling cancer as well. Cancer sucks. Please share if you can not donate. I love this family and every dollar counts.

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Melissa Wilson
16 months ago

I am so sorry fir your and your families loss. Many thoughts & prayers to all of you.

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Rachael N Karl
16 months ago

Howie touched my life as my brother was fighting his battle with pancreat cancer. I know Tom would be there to greet Howie as he arrived home today in God's kingdom without pain or suffering. God bless his family and thank God for bringing him into our lives. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all always. God gained another angel....❤❤❤

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