Help me save her – she´s sinking
1987 a little early-born girl was adopted to Sweden, her name is Nellie. This is a short version of her journey through life...
Nellie 9 yrs old – A happy, warm-hearted, charismatic girl who loved animals more than anything and had that energetic spark that could make anyone smile.
Nellie 12 yrs old – Still a warm-hearted girl, but not quite as happy. She had a hard time in school, which was quite understandable - later on she got diagnosed with ADHD and Dyscalculia. Even though she had a hard time, and got mocked for it, she still went to school every single day. Because Nellie was not giving up - she was a fighter.
Nellie 15 yrs old – This year Nellie started happy. She were going on a 2 week vacation with her parents, visiting her birth-country. A vacation that made a terrible mark on Nellie that none of us never will forget. It was a sunday afternoon, they were resting in the pool area at the hotel. Nellie decided to take a swim. Half an hour later she was going back to the hotel room alone to change her clothes. It took quite a while before Nellie came back. And the Nellie that came back was not the same Nellie who had left the pool. She was white as a ghost in her face. The energetic spark was gone, her smile was gone, and she didn´t say much at all for the rest of the vacation. Her parents knew something was wrong, but she wouldn't tell. Beacuse the battle she felt inside, she wanted to fight alone.
Nellie 16 yrs old – For six months she fought alone, and by the time Nellie got more and more unlike herself. She spent time with the wrong kind of society and made alot of stupid things. Then finally, the truth was revealed. On that vacation, on that day when Nellie went back to the hotel room, she got raped. Five grown up men who worked at the hotel had forced her into another hotel room and raped 15 year old Nellie, one after the other. Everyone was shocked by the truth but 16 yrs old Nellie didn´t want to talk about it. And she didn´t trust the shrinks. Later that year another tragedy happened. Nellie got physically abused by two girls. They kicked her so hard that she fell on the ground, and kept on kicking her in the neck until she ended up having whiplash injury. At this moment Nellie was angry and broken down she begun to harm herself in so many ways and then she started doing drugs. And she went in and out on rehabs. After a couple of years she finally graduated from high-school.
Nellie 23 yrs old – Now she was clean and the happy, warm-hearted Nellie was back. She had found a boyfriend that was her everything. And at first, he actually seemed like a really nice guy. But as the year went by, he started to reveal an odd behaviour. He started to be demanding, telling her what to do and what not to do. After a while he started yelling at her, for no reason at all. Then he started to treat her very bad. This time Nellie wouldn´t take it. She ended the relationship. It was a really bad brake up and she got to know that he had stolen a lot of the savings Nellies parents had given her. Broke and unhappy she started to harm herself again – ending up back with the drugs.
Nellie 27 yrs old – In and out of rehab, for what seems to be the last time. This time Nellie have found a real, and a kind man. But when you stop one addiction, another one takes place. This time bad food was Nellies addiction, which resulted in diabetes. But as the fighter she is, this never stopped her. She kept enjoying life anyway and moved to her boyfriend in a small town in the south of Sweden.
Nellie 29 yrs old – Living her life happy with her kind boyfriend even though she is full of physical and mental bruises from the past. Then, one day, she is hit by the disease Pancreatitis and have to go to hospital by ambulance. For the severe pain she is given anesthesia directly into the spinal cord, but something goes dramatically wrong. Nellie gets an infection from the injection which develops into a really bad infected wound on the spinal cord. Before the doctors noticed, the infection had strangled the nerves making her end up lame from the wasteline and down her legs, having to spend the rest of her life in a wheel chair.
Nellie 31 yrs old – This is now. She is living life as good as she can with her boyfriend, his son and their cat. But recently her boyfriend lost his job, and they only live on the little amount of money she gets from the society. After paying the rent all they have left is €300. It is barely enough for food, and it is certainly not enough for the rest of their bills – which have put Nellie in great debts.
Nellie is my sister. I've followed her through her struggle and always seen her fight back. I´ve seen her rise through things that could take any man down. But she ain´t rising anymore. She literally sits there in her wheelchair, my warm-hearted Nellie, drowning in her depts while life passes by.
I'm not going to watch this happen, I´m not going to watch her sink. Together we can make a miracale and make her rise again.
Thank you for your time. And know that any contributions will take her closer to the surface.
Ellen, 27 yrs old