Keep Carrie in Her Current Home
The picture above was taken at her 107th birthday party. As you can see, an extended care facility is far from appropriate for a woman who is still very much enjoying life. She gets around well with a walker, can get in my car for outings, attends family functions, and still says "Hi" to everyone she meets. I think this is due in large part to a life-long dedication to good nutrition, beginning in the 1950s before it was easy to do, and always maintaining a good attitude. One of her favorite quotes is "Do the best with what you have to work with."
The funds raised will be used solely for room and board at her current residence. The amount requested, which I'm sure seems high, actually covers just one year. Her expenses are covered through this calendar year but soon after her birthday in January moving will become a last resort without this help.
I am doing this because change does not come easy at this age to a woman who has lived in only 4 homes in her life. I sincerely believe that moving her now would be devastating to her. I appreciate that we have the option of a Medicaid-approved facility as a last resort but I want to do everything possible to avoid that for my mother. I appreciate any amount that you might be able to share.
In the event that any balance remains unused, it will be donated to St. John's Lutheran Church at Broad and Hague in my mother's honor.
First of all, I'm glad to see that Carrie will get to spend another year in the home that she knows and is comfortable in. Secondly, to all of you saying that her family should "take her home" with them......stop it. At over 100 years old, I'm sure that Carrie needs some day to day, and possibly around the clock, assistance, or monitoring. Even if she didn't, just the social activity that she gets in a place like this is important. In most relationships, both the husband and wife work. The you have to do life's chores....the shopping....paying bills...etc. Carrie could be left alone for the vast majority of her day if she lived with family. That could lead to depression. It sounds like Carrie has the best of both worlds for her. She has medical assistance if needed, and she has a social life with her fellow residents and her family visits. I can only hope that when I get to a time in my life that I need this type of help, that my family will take those aspects of my life into consideration. Much respect to Carrie, her family, and all that donated to her.
Hi Susan, My name is Chelsea Roberts and I work for Brookdale Trillium Crossing in Columbus Ohio. Please give me a call when you get a chance, our community would really like to help your mom. My direct line is 614-923-3453. Your story has caught my attention and we would love the opportunity to help. I hope to hear from you! Best, Chelsea Roberts
I want to make it clear that the residence where Mom is living, Sunrise on the Scioto, is not a villain in her situation. They are not forcing her to leave. The Medicaid system in Ohio does not pay for room and board at any assisted living facility. It is because she is not physically or emotionally ready for a long-term care facility that I want her to be able to stay there. Sunrise provides a great atmosphere, with stimulating activities and outings, and the caring staff treats her like a queen, including organizing the recent birthday party that was in the news. That party was completely their doing, and I thank them for it.
Those suggesting that the children should just take their 108 yr old mom home with them are missing a key element beyond the assistance she receives at her current facility. If mom is 108, chances are pretty high that her children are elderly as well--in their 70s or 80s.
I just read about this story & I'm so happy to see there continues to be plenty of people out there who have humanity in their hearts. I'm not talking about "bleeding hearts/suckers" as most like to name call them but, people who have grown up with some sense of decency & humanity for our fellow man. I'm an only child & live with my mom who's going to turn 80 this year. I can tell you from my own experience it's difficult for me to work full-time and take care of her too. She's still a bit active but, the majority of the chores/grocery shopping/laundry etc., I do all the heavy lifting as they say. The majority of our family is out of the country so it's really only us 2. I'm grateful for the medicare/medicaid she is able to receive because otherwise I'd be even more pressed to get us through. For everyone who is telling this family to just bring her home I say it's easy for you to judge others since you're not in their shoes. Not all families put their parents into assisted living/homes because they are discarding them, in other words they aren't evil. I do know a pair of people who've done just that cause they don't want to deal but, I'm not their judge. God is when the time comes and they will have some explaining to do. I think if your parent still understands what's going on then they have a huge decision on their own damn life. Shoot you get to be 100 years old more power to you & blessings to you. Respect is what the majority of family want for their own parents. IN THE BIG PICTURE THAT'S WHAT WE ALL WANT ISN'T IT ? RESPECT & DECENCY. I'm so glad this beautiful woman can stay in her space another year & if she's blessed another year to hang out w/her family you be sure to reach out again, I will happily send you a check to help out your mom. May God Bless you
My mother stayed at Sunrise in Sunnyvale California and was in relatively good Health. SHE herself did NOT want to live with me because she wanted to have an adult life. Her life in my home would have been without her own kitchen and bathroom and she would :FEEL: part of a family AND she would feel like a burden to me. AT SUNRISE when she needed help it was always available, unlike with me she would have felt she STOPPED me from my life and my time......IT IS huge to make sure this wonderful woman has her Dignity at her age. Sunrise supplied this for my mother too.
Though I am not able to donate right now... (I would if I could).....I want to leave a note on how inspired I am by the gestures of all the people who donated. I do hope the burden has been lifted and your family can enjoy the blessings of so many helping. Yes, we should treasure our elders.
It is important to me to keep the information here as accurate as possible. Our Ohio Medicaid does have a program whereby a person in need can apply for an Assisted Living Waiver, which would pay for room and board in an assisted living facility. However, it is at the discretion of each facility whether to accept such a waiver, and at the current time my mother's residence does not accept them.
What a loving family. This facility gives her the assistance she needs but yet lets her be as independent as possible. For those that don't understand Medicaid, facilities DO NOT have to accept Medicaid payments. Most Assisted Living Facilities are privately owned and are under no obligation to accept any type of insurance. I went through this when looking for a place for my aunt in Wisconsin. There are no assisted living facilities in our area that will take Medicaid therefore her only option was a nursing home. I am sure that this family has looked into and talked to all the people they could regarding the financial requirements for her to stay.
Hi Susan, I am so happy to see that you guys met your goal with some extra, maybe keep going and have enough for a second year covered too! This is wonderful to see. I hope you will give your momma a hug from me if you think of it! Happy happy! Too many people are being forced from their homes where they are happy and comfortable, this is a great happy ending.
*** Let's all take a moment to consider this beautiful woman's life and consider the idea that the older we get, the more precious we become, just as Native Americans believed of their older family members. I gave to this woman's fund on behalf of my grandparents and I would like everyone to consider the notion that before our government provides everyone with medical insurance and care our elderly deserve to be able to live above destitute and above institution-level. It is shameful how we treat the elderly in our country, not at just a personal level, but at the bureaucratic and governmental levels. Stop giving money away to puppet regimes, please, and start allocating to the elderly so that they may live out their lives in peace and contentment and not terror and fear. Having taken care of a Vietnam veteran for ten long years, a man whose only family abandoned him and left him to fend for himself, I know firsthand the fear that not only he felt when having to fend for himself, but the fear I felt when trying to find ways (and resources) to care for him. I cannot thank The Kane Center in Stuart, Florida, along with the Council on Aging, enough for being guardian angels and helping us the way they did. Wherever Bill is now I know he rests easy because he passed on well cared for. We owe it to ourselves and our elderly to look after all of those who gave us life then enriched our lives so immeasurably. ***
First, God bless your mother. Your family is blessed to have her. But, I do not believe that unused donations should be donated to a church. I am not church bashing, I just feel the money could be better used for another senior in need. Isn't that what this funding page is really for?