Future family for Candice

This Go Fund Me Account is for our loving friend Candice.  She is one of the most loving, loyal, giving and selfless person I have ever met.  She is struggling with some health issues which is jeopardizing her chance at having children later in life.  If you have ever had the pleasure of talking with Candice you know she is one of the best persons in this world and she would be a wonderful mother. She is very independent and it is very hard for her to ask for help, so me and some of her friends have put this account together for her so she can have the opportunity and a chance to have children later in life.   Here is her story: One of the hardest things to do is ask for help… but this is my last ditch effort.   I’ve been open about my Endo story because I know how scared I was in the hospital and they told me I might have to have a full hysterectomy at the end of the week if they couldn’t get the infection under control. I had to Google what Endometriosis was, and ovarian cyst’s?? I knew sepsis was a bad thing.   For those that don’t know, in March of 2017, I remember feeling sick and my dear friend Lindsay coming over, as she left, she said “I would give you a hug but you look horrible.” I thought I had the flu. My fever kept rising and I felt like my body was rejecting my organs. My mom was still up here visiting, she said “Enough, you’re going to Urgent Care.” Urgent Care wouldn’t touch me, they sent me straight to the ER. After a long day of testing and med’s I couldn’t figure out why the nurses were watching my vital machine from the nursing station. They were gathered talking, watching it. Finally, I asked the one of the nurses what was going on. She said “Oh honey, you’re going septic.” Turns out, I did and with a five day hospital stay. That night I was admitted around midnight, everyone left and I was fine until the nurse took me to my room and started asking questions. She asked if I had my last rights planned and if I wanted a Chaplain to come see me every day. That’s when I lost it. I cried so hard thinking “am I going to die?” From then on it’s been a fight with my own body!      In April of 2017, I had emergency surgery to remove the endometriosis and ovarian cysts, stage 4. I came out of surgery. As soon as I woke up I asked “do I still have everything?” the nurse said “yes”… WIN!   In October of 2017, another surgery to endometriosis and ovarian cysts, stage 4. As soon as I woke up I asked “do I still have everything?” the nurse said “yes.” WIN again! By this point, I am realizing, my body hates me. Doc said “times a tickin’!”   So in March of 2018, I saw my specialist’s specialist and we attempted to freeze my eggs. I scrounged together $12,000 for the med’s and procedure. While at work, I got a phone call from the doc saying that it failed. We retrieved 7 eggs, only 4 of them were viable but then they didn’t make it through the weekend. The doc sounded disappointed. He said if we do it again, he would choose different med’s and he would waive his fee’s. I said thanks but no thanks. I can’t put my body through that again after these surgeries and hormones.    In October of 2018, I was set to have surgery once again. I really didn’t want to, so doc said “well as long as you can deal with the pain you can put it off”. DEAL! Some of you know, I can be stubborn. So, I’ve lived with the pain, and I can honestly tell you that some days it’s a triumph to just get out of bed but I push through. My good friend, Alex asked me “what does it feel like?” I said “it feels like someone poured cement into my lower abdomen with razor blades in it…  Bring you to May of 2019, I am hurting, I go see my doc he said “Yep you have a 5cmx5cm mass on your left ovary plus I would venture to say the Endo is stage 4 again. I won’t do your surgery unless you are ready for a hysterectomy. I said “Nope” he said okay then go see the “specialist’s specialist” again. I saw him last week. He said “I would like you to try to freeze eggs one more time and then go to Stanford for the Endo Specialist to do your surgery”. Mr. “specialist’s specialist” doesn’t think he could do it without taking stuff out. I can’t imagine leaving this world without leaving something behind. As a female, you always wonder, what would my child look like? I didn’t think I would ever attempt to freeze eggs again, but that question has pushed me to try again! Pumping yourself full of hormones sucks but doc had a good point, this time if I am able to do it, it will tell us if my ovaries are producing anything. Then I can say I have tried everything I could.    I have looked into all different options- none of them panned out. Financially, I am still trying to recover from last year’s endeavor. Again, the hardest thing to do is ask for help but this is my last ditch effort. Because insurance companies don’t understand, they think this is all for shits and giggles. I am trying to get enough together to cover the medicines (ridiculously expensive). We are looking to do the retrieval in the middle of June. Doc is going to waive his fees. Then I already have my appointment with the Stanford doc on June 21st. I had to put down a $200 deposit just to get on his schedule! If he’s not able to save my ovaries or tubes, at least I can say I have tried EVERYTHING I COULD. I have about 10-14 days to get everything together to order the medicines.   I know it is a lot to ask to contribute, but anything you can donate would be greatly appreciated. And if you cannot donate financially, I ask that you keep me in your prayers. I want to thank you for taking the time to read this, and thank you for anything you may be able to contribute.   Thank you.