Want to be me again - Gastric Band

Do you see this photo? In 2017 I married the man of my dreams, he supported me in every way possible, he loved me for me and we this was going to be the beginning of something amazing. 9 months later he had a stroke, 1 month after that he had a second stroke. I went from wife to carer. Chris was 38 when he had his first stroke. I worked full time, and cared for him, he got the best I could afford, nothing was too much trouble. He improved with time, but it was never going to be back to the way it was. 

In August of 2020 he was poorly, it involved a trip to hospital, I left him that night as was unable to stay with him. I got a phone call at 8pm from his nurse, to say Chris wanted to talk to me, but he was very tired. His words were ' Hi Poodle (his nickname for me), just to let you know i'm really tired, so i'll say good night and that I love you billions'. I told him to stay strong and i'll speak to him tomorrow and to ring me any time and that I loved him lots.

The following day I got a phone call from his doctor asking to come to the hospital. They explained Chris had taken a turn for the worse. My husband was in a coma, and nothing was working, I was loosing him. Chris passed away later that day at the age of 40. 

Its a roller coaster, emotions are all over the place and I have to face life without him. I am step mum to his wonderful boys who will have everything their dad wanted them to have. 

I want to work my way back to some sort of new normal, even more so at the moment! Chris and I had talked about me having a Gastric Band fitted before he passed away, It was something to help me achieve things, I've yoyo dieted for years. I've managed to raise over half towards the surgery, but with the world they way it is, the other half is looking impossible! I'm gradually loosing weight, but with Chris's passing I feel like a need to cease the day!

A good friend told me to post on here, this is not something I would normally do. I don't like to ask for help, if nothing comes of it, that's ok too. I tried


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Kate Sayer 
Norwich, East of England, United Kingdom
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