Transgirl Needing to Start Over for a Better Life
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Hello!
I am a transgender woman single-child who lives with my mom who is currently going through a divorce with my dad. My mom is extremely conservative and recently went through all of my things while I was showering, forcing me to come out. I’ve been ignored in telling my personal journey to them - that I’ve felt this way since I was very young, that I know who I am, that if this were for attention then the constant criticism and hatred I receive would change my mind, that it’s possible to “change my mind” at all. It's gotten so unhealthy living at home that my mom will constantly ignore me.
The plan for my dog, Brita, and I is to go to Peoria Illinois and start over. My cousin/ best friend lives there. Her and her parents have been an unbelievably great support system - they are understanding, thoughtful, patient, and the best allies I have. My main hurdle though is currently money. I’m in an unbelievably unhealthy and abusive situation and just want to start over. But being furloughed for 3 months, some debt from college, and generally paying for my dog and I to live, I do not make or have enough money. I am at a point where I know that starting over will be the best thing for my mental health, stability, coming out, and starting the life I've been dreaming of for years.
This is where the crowdfunding begins - any donations will first go towards a place for Brita and I to live comfortably - meaning money is still no issue in the sense that Brita and I are looking for the cheapest studio or one-bedroom apartment and have plans of being homeless by ourselves if need be when we first move out. Brita will need a place to stay and will not have a place to stay until after I accept the help of my family, which I do not take lightly... Living in Peoria will cost me $500-$600 per month. The minimum generally being $600/ month after taxes. This will afford the cheapest place to live in the Peoria/ Pekin region.
I am consistently woken up in the middle of the night - usually by nightmares- because my mom "wants to make sure I do more with my life." So, this is my chance. It's my chance to get out of a shitty situation, and to start over with people who can't deadname me because they don't know my "legal" name; for me to not have to sneak out and cover my face literally every day (even if it's with a hoodie), to change my appearance; and overall it's just my chance to finally be myself.
Any sort of money would first go to housing: Brita and I would find a place together and would have to pay first month's rent, plus the second as a security deposit in order to move in. After that, funds would be needed to go into the healthcare that I've lost. I will be applying - and already have for some - healthcare providers that cover therapists, psychologists, and the prescriptions I am on. I have about $500 a month that goes to all three in total that will cease to be funded. At a time like this, I would choose to remain homeless rather than lose the support of professionals that genuinely help and keep me from making irrational decisions, and give me the healthy advice and coping strategies I need to be happy, healthy, and successful.
Should I meet the $2000 goal and continue receiving donations, the rest will go towards getting the professional help I need in a situation like this especially - my therapist and psychiatrist will have to be replaced, and a means for receiving my meds will have to be changed.
All honesty on the table here, once I obtain a steady job that pays slightly more than minimum wage (which is $10/ hr in Illinois), funds will essentially go towards my mental stability in being a transgirl who's just trying to start over in a new place, with people who genuinely care. I would also like to start paying off debt I've obtained through car repairs and schooling, so that I can make more money per month and be slightly more comfortable financially.
My long-term goals are to finish my degree majoring in philosophical theology and minoring in English, and eventually become a college professor.
In closing, I'm requesting funds as a transwoman who is in a deeply manipulative, uninformed, biased situation that needs to restart her life. I am working full time currently, but the burden of COVID has caused a financial rift, making things even more complicated in what is the most complicated time in my life.
Should you choose to spend your money in other ways at this point, may I please suggest your local chapter of Black Lives Matter (hatred and discrimination gets easier and better when you help the causes and problems 'closest to home'), your local libraries (which are more than welcoming to homeless-looking transgirls showing up and doing research on their new life for hours and have provided immense free help, while constantly losing funding), and local art: self-made artisans are losing funding left and right due to not being able to physically market their works. Music, visual art, writing, etc, matters most in a time when all most of us can do is take things in and hope and wait for our chance to give back, or put things out our selves.
So, if you've read this far, know that any sort of funding at all matters more than you know. Things have been rough lately, and they have for everyone, but I still hold hope in the idea that there's people who fight to make things better for everyone. I'm holding on to the idea that things do get better, and I'm doing everything I can to move from a toxic situation, to one where things get better. Thank you, and your support will not go to waste.*
*Updates will be posted on my personal social media accounts when I land a housing situation/ job/ professional help. Should you request personal proof that your money is being spent for the causes listed above, I'd be happy to DM and provide proof. Should you also make a donation and would like something in return, I would be happy to write you a song, or a story. I don't have much to offer at this point, but I'm incredibly grateful, hopeful, and excited for the future.
I am a transgender woman single-child who lives with my mom who is currently going through a divorce with my dad. My mom is extremely conservative and recently went through all of my things while I was showering, forcing me to come out. I’ve been ignored in telling my personal journey to them - that I’ve felt this way since I was very young, that I know who I am, that if this were for attention then the constant criticism and hatred I receive would change my mind, that it’s possible to “change my mind” at all. It's gotten so unhealthy living at home that my mom will constantly ignore me.
The plan for my dog, Brita, and I is to go to Peoria Illinois and start over. My cousin/ best friend lives there. Her and her parents have been an unbelievably great support system - they are understanding, thoughtful, patient, and the best allies I have. My main hurdle though is currently money. I’m in an unbelievably unhealthy and abusive situation and just want to start over. But being furloughed for 3 months, some debt from college, and generally paying for my dog and I to live, I do not make or have enough money. I am at a point where I know that starting over will be the best thing for my mental health, stability, coming out, and starting the life I've been dreaming of for years.
This is where the crowdfunding begins - any donations will first go towards a place for Brita and I to live comfortably - meaning money is still no issue in the sense that Brita and I are looking for the cheapest studio or one-bedroom apartment and have plans of being homeless by ourselves if need be when we first move out. Brita will need a place to stay and will not have a place to stay until after I accept the help of my family, which I do not take lightly... Living in Peoria will cost me $500-$600 per month. The minimum generally being $600/ month after taxes. This will afford the cheapest place to live in the Peoria/ Pekin region.
I am consistently woken up in the middle of the night - usually by nightmares- because my mom "wants to make sure I do more with my life." So, this is my chance. It's my chance to get out of a shitty situation, and to start over with people who can't deadname me because they don't know my "legal" name; for me to not have to sneak out and cover my face literally every day (even if it's with a hoodie), to change my appearance; and overall it's just my chance to finally be myself.
Any sort of money would first go to housing: Brita and I would find a place together and would have to pay first month's rent, plus the second as a security deposit in order to move in. After that, funds would be needed to go into the healthcare that I've lost. I will be applying - and already have for some - healthcare providers that cover therapists, psychologists, and the prescriptions I am on. I have about $500 a month that goes to all three in total that will cease to be funded. At a time like this, I would choose to remain homeless rather than lose the support of professionals that genuinely help and keep me from making irrational decisions, and give me the healthy advice and coping strategies I need to be happy, healthy, and successful.
Should I meet the $2000 goal and continue receiving donations, the rest will go towards getting the professional help I need in a situation like this especially - my therapist and psychiatrist will have to be replaced, and a means for receiving my meds will have to be changed.
All honesty on the table here, once I obtain a steady job that pays slightly more than minimum wage (which is $10/ hr in Illinois), funds will essentially go towards my mental stability in being a transgirl who's just trying to start over in a new place, with people who genuinely care. I would also like to start paying off debt I've obtained through car repairs and schooling, so that I can make more money per month and be slightly more comfortable financially.
My long-term goals are to finish my degree majoring in philosophical theology and minoring in English, and eventually become a college professor.
In closing, I'm requesting funds as a transwoman who is in a deeply manipulative, uninformed, biased situation that needs to restart her life. I am working full time currently, but the burden of COVID has caused a financial rift, making things even more complicated in what is the most complicated time in my life.
Should you choose to spend your money in other ways at this point, may I please suggest your local chapter of Black Lives Matter (hatred and discrimination gets easier and better when you help the causes and problems 'closest to home'), your local libraries (which are more than welcoming to homeless-looking transgirls showing up and doing research on their new life for hours and have provided immense free help, while constantly losing funding), and local art: self-made artisans are losing funding left and right due to not being able to physically market their works. Music, visual art, writing, etc, matters most in a time when all most of us can do is take things in and hope and wait for our chance to give back, or put things out our selves.
So, if you've read this far, know that any sort of funding at all matters more than you know. Things have been rough lately, and they have for everyone, but I still hold hope in the idea that there's people who fight to make things better for everyone. I'm holding on to the idea that things do get better, and I'm doing everything I can to move from a toxic situation, to one where things get better. Thank you, and your support will not go to waste.*
*Updates will be posted on my personal social media accounts when I land a housing situation/ job/ professional help. Should you request personal proof that your money is being spent for the causes listed above, I'd be happy to DM and provide proof. Should you also make a donation and would like something in return, I would be happy to write you a song, or a story. I don't have much to offer at this point, but I'm incredibly grateful, hopeful, and excited for the future.
Organizer
Evelyn Hoover
Organizer
Littleton, CO
