Topsy-Turvy Top Surgery! (UPDATE: 4 instead of 2!)

MAY UPDATE: Kissmate's surgery has gone better than we ever dreamed and we couldn't be happier. He is recovering well and I'm so proud of him. He set a record at the surgeon's office for "biggest boob ever removed" in the surgeon's almost 30-year-long career!

As we go through this together, I've come to realize that I want top surgery for myself, too. The visceral stab of intense need I felt when I first saw Kissmate's new chest was so painful it brought tears to my eyes. I never before thought I had dysphoria; sure, I didn't like my chest, but getting top surgery felt like this faraway dreamy thing that "real" trans men did. Dysphoria was supposed to nearly kill you, I thought, and not just make you vaguely miserable and dissatisfied. Yet my reaction to Kissmate's surgery has surprised me by how much of it has revolved around needing to do the same, no matter the cost in pain or money or social fallout.

We spoke to Kissmate's surgeon during his last follow-up and he continues to be an amazingly gentle and kind person. He assured me that I don't need to be on testosterone in order to get top surgery; he does top surgery for butch women, nonbinary folks, and trans men alike. He was so validating and good, and I feel that I can trust him. He talked about how his own brother-in-law realized he was a trans man in his 60s, and that he just finished performing bottom surgery for an 80-year-old trans woman. He assured me that I'm not too old to have a body that makes me feel comfort and affirmation instead of misery.

I would like to get this surgery before Kissmate goes back to work from quarantine, which puts us on a very compressed timeline. I know this isn't a lot of notice to give everyone, but we're grateful for every dollar we receive. I'm still sending ebooks to folks who donate $10 or more, and signed physical copies of No Man of Woman Born through the U.S. mail to donors who give $25 or more. (Note that we cannot send to international donors at this time because of increased covid-19 mailing rates and restrictions.)

Thank you so much for being with us through this time and for your support. It is more welcome than I could possibly say. All my love and gratitude,

~Ana♥ (he/him)

MARCH 2020: Let me tell you a story about the most wonderful person I know: Kissmate is brave, strong, kind, clever, loving, and in possession of two absolutely enormous bowling balls on his chest. They'd be perfect breasts, really, were it not for the persistent neck pain, the difficulty in finding comfortable well-fitting bras, and oh yes the debilitating dysphoria. That part we could very much do without!

We've found an amazing top surgeon in our area who is respected and really wonderfully validating. He's performed top surgery for some of our favorite Internet People and was highly recommended to us by satisfied friends. We are very excited about being able to work with him, but we do need to raise the funds... so here we are! With your help, we can accomplish so much: 

- Top surgery and gender affirmation for an amazing trans man. 

- Economic relief for the struggling bra industry by removing Kissmate from the market. 

- Upcycled toy balls made from Kissmate's old bras for the cats to chase. Top surgery benefits for the entire family!

We are grateful to everyone who can help us reach this goal. Thank you so much for any support, donations, and sharing of this fundraiser across social media platforms. We cannot do this without help and we're so appreciative of each and every one of you. Thank you for working with us to remove Kissmate's unwanted sweater puppies.

Yours in all love ♥,
~ Ana Mardoll

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Organizer and beneficiary

Crys M. 
Fort Worth, TX
Ana M. 
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